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£20 a night?

255 replies

Silverbook · 04/06/2023 08:10

How much would you pay for a school pupil to stay in your house while you were away on holiday? Main responsibility is to feed the cat. What’s reasonable?
We were thinking £15-20 but it’s divided the room with half thinking that’s too much and the other thinking not enough.
I’m reaching out the the MN wisdom and the decision here will be final.

OP posts:
TokyoStories · 05/06/2023 10:22

Sisisimone · 05/06/2023 10:18

Your experience is so unusual though that it's not relevant. The amount of 16 year olds working full time and living independently as a percentage of the UK population must be miniscule. You must realise that most 15 year olds do not have that experience or level of maturity!

I don’t think it’s that unusual for a 15 year old not to be having parties and doing drugs when left alone.

Sisisimone · 05/06/2023 10:18

TokyoStories · 05/06/2023 10:06

This thread is batshit. 15 too young to be left for 10 days? Shortly after my 16th birthday I was living in a flat on my own. I wasn’t having parties, doing drugs or warding off burglars, I was going to work and then coming home and watching DVD boxsets. Confused

Your experience is so unusual though that it's not relevant. The amount of 16 year olds working full time and living independently as a percentage of the UK population must be miniscule. You must realise that most 15 year olds do not have that experience or level of maturity!

ScottBakula · 05/06/2023 10:07

PunkIsNotDead · 04/06/2023 15:01

cats can let themselves out dogs can not

What? Our dogs let themselves out. The same way a cat does - through a flap in the wall. They are big dogs too.

I don't know anyone that has a dog flap in the wall .
I am not saying it doesn't happen but I think it's unusual
The homes that I pet sat in certainly didn't have them

TokyoStories · 05/06/2023 10:06

This thread is batshit. 15 too young to be left for 10 days? Shortly after my 16th birthday I was living in a flat on my own. I wasn’t having parties, doing drugs or warding off burglars, I was going to work and then coming home and watching DVD boxsets. Confused

SallyWD · 05/06/2023 10:00

At 15 I seemed like an extremely sensible and wholesome teenager to my parents friends and our neighbours. I was quiet and shy, I was a Sunday school teacher, a keen girl guider. I'm sure everyone would have trusted me to house sit. However, that was only half the picture - I was also a binge drinker, a party animal and was starting to get off with boys. The quiet ones are the worst, as they say. If I was house sitting at that age I would absolutely have invited friends over and got drunk. Certainly did when my parents went away and the party caused a lot of damage.
Join Trusted Housesitters and get a free house sitter who is responsible, has references, is a grown adult and genuinely loves animals.

MyTruthIsOut · 05/06/2023 09:28

Sugarfree23 · 05/06/2023 09:21

@LJBones when you were 15 life was before Internet. Very easy for word to get out that a school mate has an empty, via social media, online gaming, its not like back in the day sitting in the hall trying to call friends.

I also think it's a long time for a 15 yo to be alone.

Nor would I want to explain any sort of accident to an insurance company.

My mum left me and my sister alone 3 nights when we were 16 and 17 because of how “sensible” we were.l and how she “absolutely trusted us” 😂

The very first night we invited about 20 people over for a party and my sister ended up in hospital because in a drunken state someone had dared her to drink fence paint and she’d done it.

Whilst she was in hospital I buggered off to my boyfriend’s house (secret
boyfriend as my mum had banned me from seeing him as he was older).

So when my mum returned she found one daughter was in hospital and the other was a 3 hour drive away and shacked up with a banned boyfriend.

I would never allow a teenager to have 24/7 access to my empty house no matter how sensible they seemed. And even if this boy isn’t one for “drinking and sex” (unlikely) I imagine it will be a very different story when he backs down under the social pressures of his mates who keep suggesting they “have a few friends over” ……

You’re mad OP 😂

Sugarfree23 · 05/06/2023 09:21

@LJBones when you were 15 life was before Internet. Very easy for word to get out that a school mate has an empty, via social media, online gaming, its not like back in the day sitting in the hall trying to call friends.

I also think it's a long time for a 15 yo to be alone.

Nor would I want to explain any sort of accident to an insurance company.

LJBones · 05/06/2023 01:43

God what is it with everyone on MN assuming all teens have raging parties and sex? At 15 I was entirely responsible (as much as you can be at 15) and capable of cooking full meals without burning the house down and would never dream of having a party and inviting a bunch of mates over if I was house sitting. And I know most of my mates were the same. Assuming the worst or what 🙄

Flyinggeesei234 · 05/06/2023 00:24

PinkFootstool · 04/06/2023 17:13

There are some seriously batshit people out here today! Obviously it's company for your cat 😂 I did the same when I only had a cat. Now I have a dog, the need for company is even less negotiable!

I don’t think it’s obvious at all!

DontBePassiveAggresive · 04/06/2023 22:07

Pay them £10 a day to come in and feed the cat twice and spend a bit of time with the cat. A 15 year old staying over doesn't make sense. So what if the parents asked.

Bk1000 · 04/06/2023 17:33

When I was 15 I house sat and looked after my mums friends 3 & 8 year old Dcs for 4 days. It was quite a learning curve but I enjoyed the experience and my mum was on hand nearby to help if needed. I think a 15 yo is more then capable go looking after a cat for a few days.

EggInANest · 04/06/2023 17:25

PinkFootstool · 04/06/2023 17:13

There are some seriously batshit people out here today! Obviously it's company for your cat 😂 I did the same when I only had a cat. Now I have a dog, the need for company is even less negotiable!

I am not seriously batshit! Well, I might be, but not because I assume people want house sitters for security purposes!

NO ONE I know has overnight company for their cats when they go on holiday, they get friends (me!) to go in twice a day and feed and check on them.

PinkFootstool · 04/06/2023 17:13

Silverbook · 04/06/2023 17:10

“Ward off burglars” 😂 no it’s because my cat likes company.

There are some seriously batshit people out here today! Obviously it's company for your cat 😂 I did the same when I only had a cat. Now I have a dog, the need for company is even less negotiable!

Silverbook · 04/06/2023 17:10

EggInANest · 04/06/2023 13:22

If you want an overnight house sitter, this is presumably to ward against burglars?

In which case 15 is far too young to be put in that position.

Get an alarm, put lights on timer, ask the 15 yo to leave the curtains in different positions each time they go in (twice a day) to feed and check on the cat.

“Ward off burglars” 😂 no it’s because my cat likes company.

OP posts:
Mylifeislikeaboatrace · 04/06/2023 16:41

I'm wondering what planet some of these respondants are living on, I have to agree with a poster up thread about some being like sheep scattering everywhere and haven't got a clue.

VDisappointing · 04/06/2023 16:11

We pay an adult male family friend £30 a night to live in and feed and check on our cats. He enjoys staying as our home has more comforts than his. So I think £20 for a teen is enough.

5128gap · 04/06/2023 16:04

midsomermurderess · 04/06/2023 12:45

Typical Mumsnet replies, hardly any to the question asked. Off they scatter to all possible points, like bewildered sheep stuck in a gate: why do they have to stay; would they have a party; I wouldn’t leave my 15-year old. Just wanting for ‘what’s a cat?’ God bloody help us. Who are there people?

😂Or did you not factor in holiday care when you decided to get a cat?

2bazookas · 04/06/2023 15:38

I'd happily pay a sensible 15 yr old to come to the house once a day, let themselves in, feed cat /water plants etc. £100 for ten days ; and if all is well tip them another 20.

But I would not let them to stay there alone overnight.

DeliciouslyDecadent · 04/06/2023 15:28

Cats are relatively independent animals.

They don't need a cat sitter. It's a cat, not a baby.

Utter madness.

Either you send it to a cattery, or you pay someone to come in and feed it once/ twice a day, or you pay the proper rate for a housesitter which will cover insurance.

DeliciouslyDecadent · 04/06/2023 15:25

I don't think it's fair to ask a 15 year to stay in your house. Too much responsibility. Too young.

Get a good burglar alarm fitted / CCTV and leave it at that.

If you want a proper house sitter there are companies/agencies who do exactly that.

Alaimo · 04/06/2023 15:21

I think the money sounds fine. I use house sitters a lot and do always make clear what my (minimum) expectation are. For example, it's okay to be away from the house, but I'd like you to spend at least a couple of (waking) hours a day at home otherwise the cat gets lonely.

OliveWah · 04/06/2023 15:05

I think £20 a day is spot on.

PunkIsNotDead · 04/06/2023 15:01

cats can let themselves out dogs can not

What? Our dogs let themselves out. The same way a cat does - through a flap in the wall. They are big dogs too.