To not like holidays?

When the weather is hot here I don’t see the point in going abroad just to enjoy the sunshine over there. I do like going to interesting places (US, Australia etc) and I’d love to go to Japan/S. Korea but the hassle of packing and flying for a beach style holiday doesn’t really excite me nowadays.

Sounds like you get all the burden of the holiday on your shoulders... packing, unpacking ( both ends), washing, cooking... trips....
Does everyone do their bit here or just expect you to make the holiday magically work on your own?
If that's the case I get your point that its easier to be at home to make the day successful .
I used to find organising 2 babies to go on holiday very stressful and ( ex) dh used to swan in, drive and do sod all else in the preparation. It does get easier as kids get older ( in their 20's).

@LuckySantangelo35 I’m calm. You’re the one picking at the OP for being different to you. This is what you do on every single thread. It’s fucking weird.

@Oftentimes

calm down! Im only curious!

I like holidays, mostly. And as I'm the holiday planner, I choose off the beaten track destinations that I want to see as DH mostly enjoys similar stuff. We've just come back from four weeks away (to celebrate retirement and surviving some big health issues -- it wasn't our holiday routine). We took the ferry to Spain and drove around a 3000km loop for the food and the history, scenery etc, and the time away together without pressure. We had friends join us for a few days in the middle. Not a holiday for a young family, but lovely for the middle aged. I was very pleased to see a washing machine five days before we got the ferry home though.

@Oftentimes well said

agree with this!
like how can you get homesick in that situation?! How??

Like how can you not just understand and accept people are different? How? 🙄

agree with this!
like how can you get homesick in that situation?! How??

I don't understand being homesick after 4 days, when you're with your family and know you're going home shortly.

same not sand.

I don’t dislike holidays but if I couldn’t have another, I wouldn’t be that bothered. We have a second home so we do live between the two, countryside and beach, so I’m sure that helps as we regularly get a change of scenery while still being at home.

We have really nice homes and I just feel happiest there with our animals. I hate leaving our animals.

We have actually done a lot of travelling, had nice holidays, stayed in lovely places but I still wouldn’t be bothered if we didn’t do it again. My partner feels the sand but we do it because we don’t hate it and we want our children to have the chance to see places.

For me holidays are about experiencing somewhere different. We are going to Perpignan next month - a lovely historic French city near the Spanish border - we plan to make day trips to various small towns and beaches and then work our way home via a fishing town on the Med that is hotsing a music fesitival on the beach.

Lots of food, history, bars, experiences and sights we don't get at home in suburban London.

Its just the same as home? You're obviously not choosing the right holidays. I don't have a swimming pool in my back garden sadly.

I thought I was the only person who feels this! Seems everyone loves holidays. I don’t really get paying a fortune to stay somewhere really basic. I’m not a fan of holidays and get bad anxiety. Miss my home comforts. Try to power through for the kids and put a happy face on but really it’s not my idea of fun. Have enjoyed one or two amazing holidays in my life but always happy to get home. Holidays with kids are just same stuff different location which is mega stressful abroad with pools, marble tiles etc 🤪 feel less of a social pariah now

I used to love holidays before we had kids, and I still love holidays now ...in the UK.
But going abroad now I feel very overwhelmed. Everything is on me. Thinking of absolutely everything we need to take. Packing. Organising the dogs boarding. Travel insurances, airport Hotel, visas etc, it is all me. Husband does nothing towards it. I used to love the countdown to a holiday but we haven't had a successful one since before covid. We had our florida holiday cancelled 2 weeks before when covid hit, then no travel for ages. Then we had to do tests etc 24 hours before and the stress for me was so great it made me ill.
My daughter seems to always get poorly when we are away which is no fun for her or the rest of us. And myself or my my husband always end up with a bad stomach.
I absolutely hate the travelling part of it and I'm terrified of flying so my anxiety is through the roof. We go to Spain in 6 weeks and I'm already dreading it

Personally I love holidays. I love everything from shopping around for a good deal, planning where to go and what to do, to doing the packing, people watching whilst I travel, exploring a new area, eating new things and staying somewhere different.

My husband hates all these things. He hates shopping and researching, he hates packing, he hates the actual travelling and hates sleeping in a bed that’s not our own. He does not enjoy holidays one bit but tolerates them for the benefit of the whole family. We compromise by making our holidays shorter, 5 days is his max.

If, like my husband, you don’t like any of the things associated with planning and going on holiday, it’s not surprising or unreasonable that you don’t like holidays!

Thank you I cant wait to get home to recover x

Thank you Ive had a severe reaction to mosquito bites, I'm blistered all over and feel achy. Im using hydrocortisone cream and taking antihistamine tablets. My face was swollen for two days. I'm planning on bandaging myself up and using make up to get myself presentable for return journey.

@LadyLolaRuben oh no, safe speed home and recovery.

OP that's fine if you don't enjoy your current holidays, perhaps look into alternatives?

I only take mini breaks at present, I'm lucky in that a friend has a house by the beach, and I book into a hotel every few months when I want to be completely on my own.

YABVVVVU - I've been away for a month before and still didn't want to come back!

Oh god! Poor you! What was the allergy to?

we had hellish holiday last year when Dh managed to tear his cornea in half and we went nowhere other than the ophthalmic hospital multiple times ( thank fuck we were in a medical tourism ( lasik) hotspot) . The dc whined constantly for screens.

Currently having the holiday from hell and cant wait to come home. Had severe allegic reaction and blistered all over arms. No idea how I'll manage journey back. Seeking home comfort through Mumsnet.

I just tip it all out of the suitcases into a bin bag when I get home and take it to the laundrette for a service wash. Pick up next day all clean and folded. So much easier than dong multiple loads, esp in winter

YANBU if this is how you feel. Everyone is different, for us family holiday’s is very important. It’s our time to chill and not worry about everyday chores, work, school etc. it’s our time to be 100% together. We have 1 DS who is 11 and we love giving him the experience to travel, enjoy different culture, different cuisine, it’s a life experience for him. I too work in a school so get the holidays off but for me, it’s just seems a bit samey in the holidays if we don’t go away. Everyone is different and you have to do what suits you and your family, you are not wrong for thinking this way 😃 yes the packing, unpacking, washing and all that jazz is a ball ache but I don’t think about that when I am away 😂

I understand. I think you make some points a lot of people can relate to. For me I find holidays a bit false (haven't been on holiday for a few years due to financial reasons) in that you go to a place where you dip your toe into their culture. It a kinda uneasy contract between tourist and local. I grew up in a part of the world which attracted lots of tourists and there was an uneasy relationship. We wanted their custom but found them irritating.

I have friends that live in parts of Europe that are holiday destinations for many. I like visiting them because I feel I get a bit more of an understanding of the culture etc... through my friends.

I am also conscious of carbon footprint so not keen on mega travel.