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Drunk dial shame

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Arleybarls · 01/06/2023 12:40

I'm seeing a man and it's going really well. On Sunday, I went to the pub and came home and had a few joints with the neighbour in the garden. I didn't think I was very drunk but the weed went to my head. Anyway, I drunk dialled the guy I'm seeing and sent a few messages - nothing particularly bad, just a bit cringey. I can't remember whether he answered the phone though. I've been worrying all week and he hasn't contacted me. I haven't contacted him because I'm too ashamed. We'd planned to go on a hike on Saturday and I'm wondering what to do? Any advice?

Please don't tell me what a dickhead I am - I know that already!

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BasketCase101 · 01/06/2023 14:54

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Matildatoldsuchdreadfullies · 01/06/2023 14:53

Honestly, if someone I was in the early days of seeing, drunk texted me, and told me they were smoking weed, I would end the relationship there. I don’t like drugs.

Yes, I am boring.

Izzabird · 01/06/2023 14:51

And yes, OP, I would send a lighthearted feeler message if you like this man.

Izzabird · 01/06/2023 14:51

BastetsWhiskers · 01/06/2023 14:36

Well, this calls for you to tell us how refined you are and set out the MN debretts guide to etiquette.

Translation: go back to your pretentious ramblings and stop trying to stereotype and make other people feel bad.

If I had a spare sofa right now I would put it in the garden and flick a V sign at you. Just to see your cat's bum response.

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@Comedycook. I hate to disillusion you, but the ultra-posh do drugs, too.

Actually, I have a Debrett's-ish snob anecdote to do with drug use. I have done cocaine precisely twice in my (quite long) life, and the first time was with one of Queen Camilla's offspring. Who was definitely not a beginner...

murasaki · 01/06/2023 14:47

If.you are going to patronise someone, spelling 'pastime ' correctly is a good start.

Just saying.

sadsack78 · 01/06/2023 14:45

Op, contact him!

If you really like this guy, don't spoil it for yourself. Get in touch. If you leave it much longer, he might assume you're not available and make other plans for the day your hike is booked in. That would be a shame.

He's a grown man. I'm sure he's heard a drunk person say something a bit silly before. Unless you said something nasty- which I honestly doubt you have- I'm sure you'll be able to giggle about it and move on. Don't build it up in your head more than you already have.

BastetsWhiskers · 01/06/2023 14:36

Comedycook · 01/06/2023 13:28

On Sunday, I went to the pub and came home and had a few joints with the neighbour in the garden

How common....do you have a sofa abandoned in your front garden to use for this particular past time?

Well, this calls for you to tell us how refined you are and set out the MN debretts guide to etiquette.

Translation: go back to your pretentious ramblings and stop trying to stereotype and make other people feel bad.

If I had a spare sofa right now I would put it in the garden and flick a V sign at you. Just to see your cat's bum response.

hugefanofcheese · 01/06/2023 14:26

Yep. Completely derailed. OP just message him. The onus is on you to get in touch, not for him to either reply to drunk messages seriously or to particularly find them funny, I'm afraid.

LaDamaDeElche · 01/06/2023 14:24

Comedycook · 01/06/2023 13:37

But anyway, even if you didn't say anything embarrassing you've showed yourself in certain light with your behaviour. Unless you're a student, it's a really really unattractive trait

As have you on this thread.

BastetsWhiskers · 01/06/2023 14:20

I can't believe this has degenerated into a weed smoking scum thread - OP just contact him, hopefully it will work out and you'll have your hike next weekend.

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onecarrot · 01/06/2023 14:17

Do you regularly hang your washing out late at night ?

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NiandraLaDes · 01/06/2023 14:14

neilyoungismyhero · 01/06/2023 13:58

Of course they do the scum is rising to the surface all over the place.

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So people who smoke weed are 'scum', in your opinion? Your username is rather ironic if that is the case.

BastetsWhiskers · 01/06/2023 14:12

diddl · 01/06/2023 14:06

So you've not even apologised?

Comes across as OP is very embarrassed. Hopefully she'll check phone records then contact him.

MovinGroovinBarbie · 01/06/2023 14:10

Comedycook · 01/06/2023 13:44

So not taking drugs makes you a snob....righto.

Anyway, I wouldn't like to live in the vicinity of the op....pissed up in the garden getting high... pretty anti social.

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Get over yourself. Somebody having a quiet joint is much better than a drunken barbecue next door with music blasting. It'll probs be legalised in our lifetime like in many other countries.

diddl · 01/06/2023 14:06

So you've not even apologised?

Tidsleytiddy · 01/06/2023 14:03

Comedycook · 01/06/2023 13:28

On Sunday, I went to the pub and came home and had a few joints with the neighbour in the garden

How common....do you have a sofa abandoned in your front garden to use for this particular past time?

Lighten up ffs

RampantIvy · 01/06/2023 14:02

ClusterFuckIt · 01/06/2023 12:44

😂😂

We’ve all been there.

Nope.
Thank goodness mobiles didn't exist when I was young, free and single Grin

BastetsWhiskers · 01/06/2023 14:00

I have no idea about the phrase in vino veritas, in my opinion it's when you're more likely to talk utter nonsensical rubbish which people can't decipher

neilyoungismyhero · 01/06/2023 13:58

brunettemic · 01/06/2023 13:52

No, referring to people as “common” and looking down your nose at them is though. “Doing drugs” as you term it is far from the pursuit of a particular class of person, it’s not for me regardless of my perceived social class but you’ll find people of any background, wealth, income, career etc “do drugs”.

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Of course they do the scum is rising to the surface all over the place.

jays · 01/06/2023 13:58

jenny38 · 01/06/2023 13:22

I would send a message, light hearted but saying your embarrassed- something like" my phone appears to have got rather tipsy on Sunday night, sober me now has the beer fear. I'm so sorry, are you still up for that hike on Saturday, I promise my rugsack won't be clinking....". I presume he also likes a drink at times, we have all been there, and done worse than a few phone calls lol

You should totally do this!

BastetsWhiskers · 01/06/2023 13:57

I can drink too much at times and I'm well aware that it is a drug, albeit a legal one.

Sounds like OP may have talked some jibberish but if he likes her and she apologises it should be OK.

onecarrot · 01/06/2023 13:56

A bit of weed late at night never hurt anyone. Don't like the smell but it's not actually causing any harm. The world would probably be a nicer place if everyone smoked weed.

I don't take drugs but couldn't give a shit what others do in their gardens at night time.

brunettemic · 01/06/2023 13:52

Comedycook · 01/06/2023 13:44

So not taking drugs makes you a snob....righto.

Anyway, I wouldn't like to live in the vicinity of the op....pissed up in the garden getting high... pretty anti social.

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No, referring to people as “common” and looking down your nose at them is though. “Doing drugs” as you term it is far from the pursuit of a particular class of person, it’s not for me regardless of my perceived social class but you’ll find people of any background, wealth, income, career etc “do drugs”.