Misophonia - anyone else?

Romeiswheretheheartis My poor mother's voice set off my misophonia, as did her incessant knitting. This was back in the 70's so neither of us knew what was going on. She thought I was a particularly moody and nasty teen, and I thought I was the only person to have this problem.

Now I have gone through menopause things seem to be improving. I still get enraged by typing on keyboards but I sit in a craft group full of knitters and can hold a civil conversation without glaring at people like a wild boar on PCP.

@Romeiswheretheheartis - Therese Langford of https://www.facebook.com/calmmindhypnotherapy could probably help your daughter. She always does a free consultation with the parent(s) so no harm in having a chat with her.

I could have written this exact post 😞. It’s hard, isn’t it? I see so much of myself in her, with regards to these sensory issues, and I also worry what her future looks like.

Had this since my early teens, in my 30's now. Big triggers for me: breathing, that whistling nasal sound some people make with they breath, SNORING (massive trigger), sniffing, any sort of eating sound, slurping a drink, people talking on public transport, RUSTLING PACKETS (massive trigger), scraping a spoon against yoghurt pots or a fork against a plastic lunchbox, SHUFFLING FEET ACROSS THE FLOOR, tapping on a keyboard, neighbours talking in their garden.

I spend a lot of time listening to music.

I would've had to say something to the gum popper, as not only would it have driven me to the edge of my sanity, it's also just rude & unpleasant, noise aside!

Horrible habit (but then I feel like that about gum chewing in general)

My NDN does this all the time,it sounds like a fucking avalanche.

Have this too. Adverts are a nightmare. The crunch on the magnum advert and that robinsons ad where people are gargling squash are horrible! I can’t watch live TV in case I see them. I’ve almost got into fights with men who were whistling, which is terrible because it’s usually noisy burly blokes. Luckily I work from home now as office sounds are awful. I worked with a gum popper and she must have wondered why I hated her so much. Hair twirling really gets to me too. I was in A&E the other day and this patient’s wife was twirling her greasy red hair the whole time while muttering to him and even though I was ill, it was all I could focus on.

I tried the Flare earplugs which were completely useless. Will have to look at the loops.

@Eyesopenwideawake
Me too please x

@JaneyGee
Wow I could have written your post ! in fact I have new neighbours who.make garden noise and have several friends with those car exhausts. I dont like living here much anymore and dread nice weather and weekends. I dont understand why they cant ban them altogether . So triggering .

For me, and not necessarily for others, an increase in my misophonia means that I need to seek treatment for my depression. Once I’m on the medication, it goes away. Once back off the medication, it can (and has) taken up to 15 years until I need help again…

Omg this has a name?! I feel like this over chewing gum chewing, nail picking, my dog licking something or nibbling, today I was on the bus and someone behind me was making clicking noises (almost like a nail clipper type noise) even thru headphones and a podcast I could hear it and it was taking all my self control to not turn round and tell them to stop! Asmr videos make me cringe and feel sick and itchy, can't bear to listen to them!

I'm happy doctors are now treating it as an actual condition and not just a personal dislike of sounds. It's interesting to read about the biological reason for these aversions.
It tried to talk about it with a friend but she assumed I meant rudeness, as in it's rude to whisper in company and eat sloppily.

I have found that mimicking the sound in a caricatured way can take away the uncomfortable feelings of rage and disgust. If someone close by is eating I make over the top eating noises to myself.

I have this too, it's been a part of my life since I was about 10. Eating sounds, kissing sounds and quiet talking are my worst problems.

The Secret Escapes and Tresemme adverts are the current bane of my life because whispering fills me with rage.

I was in a waiting room recently where one couple were whispering, one person was eating a seemingly endless supply of sticky, chewy Maoam sweets so I could hear all the saliva swishing on their mouth and another woman kept slurpily kissing her baby's head. It was horrible 😩

I can't watch the episode of Friends where Joey and Rachel try to get together because the kissing sounds repulse me.

I've tried loop earplugs but hated them as they magnified internal noises (breathing, movement, chewing etc). So they weren't helpful.

I've also bought some Bose Quiet Comfort II ear buds. They're amazing and do their job well, but don't fit right for me with the standard fittings. I'm still waiting for the xs size to be posted out to me.

I used to have this, especially with cutlery noises (people clanging their knives and forks around), eating noises and other small bodily noises.

Then I permanently moved out of my family's home and to my surprise, the misophonia went. This made me think that it actually might be more of a stress response than anything else. You said in your case that it's got worse over time, so this might be the same for you as well.

Maybe you should look into the stresses you have in your life that could be causing/worsening the misophonia.

I was aware that living with my family was stressful, but I had no idea it was affecting me in that way.

Yes to barking dogs, extra loud TV/radio (especially adverts) and dogs licking themselves.

Not a noise, but another thing that makes me homicidal is sharing a train seat, public bench etc. with men people who fidget so hard the whole thing shakes.

My partners cough makes my skeleton shudder

Also hate whistling

Oh and (old) people on the train whose phone makes a beep or tapping sound when they send a text.

I don’t know if it counts as misophonia but for years neighbours’ loud music blasting into my house stressed me to instant vomiting and diarrhoea point, and I will not sit in noisy cafes. It’s not so bad now, especially living in a retirement village, but I still hate hearing neighbours’ televisions or radios through connecting walls.

For those of you with the Loop Quiet, can you tell me how you wash them, and how often you change the tips. I was looking at this which gives you 4 pairs at different sizes so you choose the best fit, but that would only give you one pair of the right size, so you need to buy more of that size?

www.loopearplugs.com/products/quiet

Might be a useful read
www.telegraph.co.uk/recommended/home/best-earplugs-restful-nights-sleep/

Yes, all of the above 😢 I hate that that is the case & it is really affecting my relationship (from my own perspective, my husband is wonderful), but it is unbearable.

Oh god, yes. Right now it’s noisy cars that are getting me down. The exhausts are the worst. Some of them are like canons, banging and exploding at all hours of the day. I don’t know how they’re allowed to get away with it.

Noise affects me a lot. I dread ‘nightmare neighbours’ moving in next door. I have heard so many horror stories over the years, and I’ve known two people driven to suicide attempts by noisy neighbours. I can’t afford to move, and honestly think it would be a death sentence. It literally keeps me awake at night - just the thought of it. Goes without saying that the police would be useless.

Anyone clearing their throat ... and my husband snoring! I definitely think it's made worse by being menopausal though!

DS(10) has this I think. Makes family mealtimes VERY challenging. He gets what we would consider irrationally angry at our eating noises. Just ordered some loop earplugs. May make a difference.

Any other treatments for a child? Would hypnotism work?

@Eyesopenwideawake - could you dm me as well please. I feel like the noises I am sensitive too are increasing and I would describe them as almost painful to me. I've always been quite jumpy too- whenever my DH coughs it makes me jump so I never feel like I can totally relax when he has a cold( which seems to be often!)