Bill-splitting

I am very sorry to hear about this. I would just make sure not to have anything to do with the couple who suggested it ever again. If I were you, I would just put it down to one of those things that happens. Who knows, you might get lucky and an unexpected £20 comes into your life. I am sure you are too nice a person to let something like this bother you for long.

Personally, I am ashamed for the couple who suggested this and the other couple who went along with it.

It was very unfair to split the bill three ways
Its probably too late to say something now but I would not go out with them again because they took advantage and none of them spoke up and said it was unfair. I know you didn't either but they put you in an awkward position and you will be more prepared in future to say something. I would not consider these people friends.

I think the bill is in the past so no point raising now but I wouldn’t avoid going out with them in future. Just say, shall we split it 5 ways when they say 3 ways. Once it’s said once, it won’t be an issue again

These scenarios come up on MN time and time again - I can only assume people use the word friends when they mean casual acquaintances. No one should be too shy or embarrassed to speak to their own friends, surely...

I’d have said “didn’t realise there was a single person supplement when having dinner with you lot! Now, let’s do the maths properly and pay a fifth of the bill each.”
Cheeky twats! I wouldn’t be going out with them again.

Can't sympathise if you didn't even say anything. How ridiculous.

When they said they'd split it, I'd agree as I'd assume they meant 5 ways (and assume we all had similar food/drink)

I'd never dream they would mean by 3 though.

If you can't now mention it to your friends then really they are not friends at all. Just acquaintances.

If you didn't speak up at the time you can't ask for your 20 quid back now. Make sure you raise it next time though (if there is one!).

They aren't your friends. They're users and think it's fun to take advantage.

Next time OP you need to speak up. Immediately !

Just act casual “ but there’s five of us, how much is it each?”

They are really rude but I don’t think it’s something you can easily bring up again.

That's incredibly rude of them OP, I can see why you'd find it difficult to say something but honestly I think you should try to speak up for yourself. Obviously they were out of order and I can't believe the other couple said nothing - very poor of them too.

This type of CF behaviour annoys me beyond! Why not just pay for what you had? Or if you shared wine etc divide by 5?

This happened to me once years ago - I looked to my left at the empty chair and said "I never realised my invisible friend had such an appetite".....

It doesn't matter how much it is, there were 5 people dining, the bill should be split 5 ways, too often singles lose out in these circumstances.

You need to message them and just explain that you felt awkward to say at the time but splitting the bill into 3 when there were 2 couples and just you has left you £20 out of pocket, which you can't afford, if you could send the £10 each across you'd really appreciate it. I can't believe they even suggested splitting the bill like this, it's so off.

The way the bill was divided was certainly a problem. But this is a much bigger problem.

You do need to start pulling up those big girl pants and say something.

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YANBU but it would have been good to have spoken up for yourself to say something like “I reckon my share is £x” (rounded up and a tip). They are cheeky fuckers. It always perplexes me how people who want to pay their share are perceived as “tight” and not the ones who want other people to subsidise their food and drink. It’s one thing quibbling over a few quid but expecting you to pay a substantial portion of their food isn’t on.

You were only unreasonable to not say something at the time! Sometimes we split the bill "unfairly" when going out with friends BUT if we do it's usually at our insistence - ie we've been out with two friends and their 3 kids and DH and I only have one but we are happy to subsidize one of the kids and we insist where and our friends point out they should be paying more

Whomever suggested it was either stupid and/or tight. And same for the others in the couple's. It's plainly OBVIOUS the bill should have not been split in 3.

I always ask for my own bill. I don't drink. I was getting shafted when we split the bill. I'm not paying a fortune for others to get passed while I'm drinking coke.

You should have spoken up at time. Either let’s split 5 ways or let’s each pay for our own. I wouldn’t contact them now.

PMSL at all the people saying it's no big deal - they are the metaphorical couples in the scenario.

OP, please learn how to be more assertive. I'm sure there must be you tube video tutorials and so on. Not only is it costing you money on meals out, if you act the same way with insurance companies and your employers it is likely to have already cost you thousands of pounds.

I think you got off lightly if it was only an extr £20. If you didn’t say anything straight away let it go, you’ll just look stupid bringing it up now.