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Signed off work

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misssunshine4040 · 29/05/2023 16:56

AIBU to ask to be signed off work from a job where my role is critical to the running of business and I've only be at 6 months?
I have had the year from hell including having to move myself and kids into temp accommodation to escape domestic violence, moving into new rented property and some other personal issues that have been very stressful to cope with.
I have suffered panic attacks and I over eat to the point I have put on 3 stone.
I am constantly fatigued, drained and have joint pain.
My work take a dim view of those off for me mental health reasons and they have always been managed out and I'm worried my card will be marked.
My role is vital and my team are short staffed as is it and although this is the businesses issue not mine, I feel so guilty about the thought of leaving them a mess.

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misssunshine4040 · 29/05/2023 17:51

I will out myself if I say what I do but I manage a small team in a hospitality setting.
I get well paid for what I do. I work shifts but would prefer to work 9-5 Mon to Friday to help me with a routine and spend more time with my young child at the weekend.
I enjoy my job.
Time off would help me have time to process what's happened and to recover from being completely burnt out and fried and to be honest there's a lot of stuff that led up to recent events.
I know this is a luxury I can't really afford though.

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Iyiyiiii · 29/05/2023 17:30

I think if you get signed off, you will lose your job,

You're best off looking for another job that fits you better.
What do you do? Maybe the mn hivemind can help you

Start here
What parts of your job do you like the best?
Which do you hate?

SchoolShenanigans · 29/05/2023 17:28

What are you hoping the time off will achieve? Can you ask to temporarily reduce your hours instead?

It sounds like you've been through a lot but I'm not sure what a few weeks/months off will achieve, especially as it undoubtedly will affect your work, which I'd imagine you're pretty reliant on now.

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misssunshine4040 · 29/05/2023 17:18

I work in a role that can't be done from home. I also sit at a desk so it's not about resting for joint pain.

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Twiglets1 · 29/05/2023 17:16

I would personally work at a place a bit longer before trying to get signed off with stress. Sorry, I do have sympathy for you but I'm being honest.

peacelemon · 29/05/2023 17:14

Joint pain could being able to take a 5 minutes break every hour help?

peacelemon · 29/05/2023 17:13

Speak to the GP. Either you are too sick to be working or you aren't. They might agree to say you are fit to work provided you can wfh or don't do heavy lifting, is there anything like that might work? Eg. No phones for 2 weeks

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misssunshine4040 · 29/05/2023 17:08

That's my worry. I am a single parent and I have bills that I doubt sick pay would cover.

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FatAgainItsLettuceTime · 29/05/2023 17:05

I think that you need to make the best decision for you but with the understanding that it is possible, maybe even probable that you will lose your job. With only 6 months service you have very few legal protections unless you can prove you are being let go because of a protected characteristic. If they are desperate for staff and you would be off for a while then it would potentially be easier and cheaper to backfill your role.

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