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Drumming

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Drumbalina · 29/05/2023 16:10

AIBU… neighbour drumming in their house which is audible from our house and garden up and across the street?! Driving me mad. Surely some effort should be made to soundproof or use electric drums?!

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Wolbarker · 29/05/2023 18:36

Buy a house away from other people then.

Gettingbysomehow · 29/05/2023 18:34

You should try living in Glastonbury! Well maybe not if you really hate the sound of drumming/chanting/gong baths/digeridoos and the smell of weed.

AgnesX · 29/05/2023 18:21

determinedtomakethiswork · 29/05/2023 16:26

You can tell, who doesn't have a drummer living nearby!

Exactly....I can still remember the pain it caused when the renters next door fancied themselves as the next Kasabian. Absolutely zero consideration in the evening.

They were crap too.

GoodChat · 29/05/2023 18:17

@TheSnowyOwl because you said they could compromise

TheSnowyOwl · 29/05/2023 17:42

GoodChat · 29/05/2023 17:12

@TheSnowyOwl because you cant knock on their door and ask them to keep it to an hour when they already have

But why are you making out my comment was to do with a specific length of time?

thisthenthat · 29/05/2023 17:36

elevenplusdilemma · 29/05/2023 16:13

YABU unless they're doing it in the early morning or late at night. Lots of things that people do in their own homes make noise that others can hear: DIY, mowing the lawn, tinkering with the car, dogs barking, babies crying etc. It's something you just have to put up with when you live in the vicinity of other homes.

The things you've listed are mostly standard living noises. Drumming in a built up area, inflicting your hobby on others, for more than an hour, would piss me off!
Assume it's been going on for a while op?

GoodChat · 29/05/2023 17:12

@TheSnowyOwl because you cant knock on their door and ask them to keep it to an hour when they already have

Plumbear2 · 29/05/2023 17:10

Drumbalina · 29/05/2023 16:44

They are definitely not professional!
this time it was an hour. Happens every few days, seemingly no pattern to what time.

My son does an hour a day. He practises for his GCSEs in music. Perhaps this person is doing the same, are you really saying they shouldn't practise for exams?

Lonelycrab · 29/05/2023 17:08

I’m not sure how a drum kit could be sound proofed

With great difficulty. It’s a lot more involved than hanging a few bits of foam on the walls. Deadening pads on top of the skins will help quite a bit but change the feel and sound when playing.

The more expensive electronic kits have tuneable heads and feel very similar to a real kit.

I think an hour a day or so is reasonable, perhaps unless it’s a terrace with really thin walls.

TheSnowyOwl · 29/05/2023 17:07

GoodChat · 29/05/2023 17:02

If they have only done it for an hour in the middle of the day I'm not sure there's any compromise to reach.

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But the OP says this time it was an hour. Happens every few days so perhaps there is a compromise? I’m not really sure why the fact the most latest time was for just one hour really comes into it.

blahblahblah1654 · 29/05/2023 17:06

Yabu. It's only an hour now and again during the day. I think it's silly to be asking when they plan on playing when it's just during daytime hours.

GiveupHQ · 29/05/2023 17:05

Drumbalina · 29/05/2023 17:04

If you’d read the thread I have confirmed how often. And the reason for my post is to ask people if IABU. General consensus is 65% think I’m not so I will be asking them to let me know times or limit it to an hour as I think that is more than reasonable!

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But I wasn’t suggesting you ask them to stop

you could pop around and ask them to turn it down if attached to speakers (must be if you hear it down the street) or use headphones

NineOfNine · 29/05/2023 17:04

We have a neighbour who plays the drums.
As a hobby, he’s not a professional standard.

He plays in his garage with the doors shut, I don’t know if he realises how much the sound travels.
But he never plays at antisocial hours - always during normal daytime working hours - and never for hours at a time or anything excessive like that. So it doesn’t feel outside the boundaries of what I’d consider normal / expected neighbour noise and I’ve never complained about it.

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Drumbalina · 29/05/2023 17:04

GiveupHQ · 29/05/2023 16:59

So I’m guessing you have not bothered to stroll over there and ask them politely to turn it down?

I am also guessing this isn’t a regular occurrence and toddy first day it’s happened

If you’d read the thread I have confirmed how often. And the reason for my post is to ask people if IABU. General consensus is 65% think I’m not so I will be asking them to let me know times or limit it to an hour as I think that is more than reasonable!

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GoodChat · 29/05/2023 17:02

TheSnowyOwl · 29/05/2023 16:58

Go and have a chat and see if a mutually agreeable resolution can be found, although be aware that they don’t need to do anything (as annoying as it might be to you). It’s possible it’s a beginner learning and they will improve or it could be that it’s a sensory outlet for a child with sen.

If they have only done it for an hour in the middle of the day I'm not sure there's any compromise to reach.

Summertimesmile · 29/05/2023 17:01

KrisAkabusi · 29/05/2023 16:39

How often? For how long? What time? You're not answering these questions.
Also electric drums and practice pads both feel different to a standard drum kit, so they are going to have to use real drums at some point if they are going to be any good/are already professional.

No that’s not true. One of mine has passed grade 8 with distinction and has never had an acoustic kit, mainly because I’m not prepared to subject my neighbours to it. We have upgraded the electric kit a couple of times and it’s more expensive than an acoustic one but it’s perfectly suitable for her, who plans on playing professionally. If she wants to play acoustic she plays on the kits at school or hires a practice room in a studio for a couPle of hours

BeBraveAndBeKind · 29/05/2023 17:01

My son is a drummer and we used to live next door to a drummer. There are ways to decrease the noise on an acoustic set through muffling pads on the drum/stuffing the base drum with a pillow. My neighbour had an electric kit so he wore headphones when I texted him (sometimes at 3am) to cut the noise.

Having said that, an hour during the day a couple of days a week wouldn't bother me and I'd rather listen to that then to some of the shite that gets blasted in people's gardens as soon as the sun comes out.

GiveupHQ · 29/05/2023 17:00

Ah sorry does happen
very infrequently and for short periods of time

GiveupHQ · 29/05/2023 16:59

So I’m guessing you have not bothered to stroll over there and ask them politely to turn it down?

I am also guessing this isn’t a regular occurrence and toddy first day it’s happened

TheSnowyOwl · 29/05/2023 16:58

Go and have a chat and see if a mutually agreeable resolution can be found, although be aware that they don’t need to do anything (as annoying as it might be to you). It’s possible it’s a beginner learning and they will improve or it could be that it’s a sensory outlet for a child with sen.

towriteyoumustlive · 29/05/2023 16:57

YABU

Its an hour if drum practice and good to see someone who wants to improve.

I'd much rather my kids spent an hour doing music than on a screen...

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Drumbalina · 29/05/2023 16:56

Ooh that sounds unbearable. I feel for you!

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JustFrustrated · 29/05/2023 16:55

The drummer half way down the street opposite is currently on his 5th hour. He stops every so often for 10 minutes or so, and then it starts again.

Day, after day after fucking day.

I can hear it in my back garden at the very far end, I feel so sorry for his neighbours.

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Drumbalina · 29/05/2023 16:53

We don’t make excessive noise. Certainly no music, DIY, dogs or kids. I think we are overly considerate and a lot of people sadly aren’t!

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churrios · 29/05/2023 16:50

I’m not sure how a drum kit could be sound proofed. Sounds like it’s a kid learning an instrument which can be considered ‘normal noise’. Or is it normal if you make noise and not ok for others.