Guy with teeth

That's ok, you didn't upset me really. I actually don't think teeth and a movement disorder are that similar but I guess that they involve the face 😅

Thank you for your apology. Please don't worry about the fact don't like his teeth, I would be put off too. I think perhaps if you found a way to tell him kindly if you were going out, then it might be better for him rather than just saying it is something you don't like before you are together properly.

Hopefully that way he would see it from a kind place. He is most likely aware of his bad teeth, and I'm certain smoking won't have helped his oral health at all. Perhaps you could ask him about whether he's still smoking and how it will be expensive in the cost of living crisis? If you approach it this way, he might see it differently 😉 💖

These types of post perplex me. I get that you're conflicted - you fancy him but....
What I don't get is why you would highlight the to him the bit you don't like. I've seen similar posts along the lines of 'How can I tell my bestie/sister/child that they're fat?'...they know, just like this guy knows his teeth aren't great.
10 years ago I'd have thought the majority of people with bad teeth had them due to poor dental hygiene. You could make a judgement there. Now you are almost forced to go private and for many the cost is prohibitive. The result is bad and decaying teeth.
It's unclear just how bad his teeth are. If he had bad breath that would be a no for me. If they were stained or crooked l might overlook that....for the right man. Tbh it doesn't sound like he's struggling for female attention. See how you feel when someone else shows an interest or h3s flirting elsewhere.

BTW, what if you date and he stays over but dumps you because your cellulite/public hair/stretch marks/jelly belly/orange make up/kid/accent/bitten nails etc put him off?

I can't believe you even considered saying something. If you ever wonder about if you should tell someone that they need to lose weight, don't do that either. Or a nosejob/mole removal/breast lift, that's also a no.

Take him as he is, or not at all.

Imagine having the audacity to tell someone to change part of themselves just because you don't like it, when you aren't even together.

But your snide “triggering” comment was chosen by you to be unpleasant. Were you upset because so few backed you up? Awwww…

I have lovely teeth, OP. Talking of rudeness, your own comment about “triggering” was specifically used to insult others on the thread. Most posters were incensed about your attitude, nothing more; I very much doubt they were upset because their teeth were rotten.🙄

I'm happily married but I have a neurological involuntary movement disorder caused by some prescribed medication. It's horrid and facial tics and involuntary mouth movements are part of it.

If someone pointed this out who I barely knew that they thought my movements were bizarre (they are 😳) and they were embarrassed by them, I'd feel mortified. It already makes me extremely self conscious so to point out something about me that affects my face but I already know about (and can't change) would leave me feeling quite humiliated.

Please be kind to others about their supposed "flaws". Nothing in this world is perfect and we are all human. Be kind ✨ 💛

This. Finally had access to some capital and had caps and fillers.

£11,000.

He probably knows he has bad teeth and for all you know he may be trying to get an appointment to fix them. I rang my old dentist for an appointment recently and was told there’s a two year waiting list for NHS patients, if I opted for private I could have had one the following month.

(BTW what kind of bad are we talking about here, are they crooked, discoloured, protruding or missing a few ?)

My husband doesn't have wonderful teeth and whilst I noticed, it was never big enough to put me off his other incredible qualities. I suppose you just need to decide how much of a big deal it is to you!

People telling you this would be wrong are not all 'upset' or 'triggered' or 'taking it personally'. I have excellent teeth. It doesn't stop me thinking it would be highly inappropriate to tell a near stranger to go to the dentist. That's not about teeth, it's about manners. It may be another example of your struggle with social skills, but to accuse people who are merely pointing out the obvious of being personally invested is patronising and diminishing of their views. Telling people who disagree to 'chill' is also rude.
Not being attracted to someone on the basis of a feature is not a problem. Everyone has their deal breakers. The problem is being so presumptuous as to think you can tell a person to 'improve' to your standards. That's what people are challenging, and I think you know that.

My friend did date a man with truly awful teeth, but it was only once they were in a relationship that she addressed the teeth and supported him getting treatment (however this was before the total destruction of nhs dentistry). They did eventually separate and he was much better off with nice teeth.

God no, you can’t say that!

You can ask if he’s a smoker, though, in general conversation. That would put me right off.

I would like to think that he likes you but his deal breaker is your face/legs/ears/hair/feet
In reality it would probably be your attitude I'm afraid

If you couldn't snog him, stay well clear. You can't change his teeth (or ask him to before you date him) 🤣

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