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To be devastated

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Bagpuss2022 · 25/05/2023 16:46

I know it sounds melodramatic and I have actually cried over this.
my DH had a day off on Monday he sorted out our unit in the living room. He didn’t tell me he was doing this by the way or would of told him what not to chuck.
He's gone and thrown away a A3 folder of all the kids special bits from school you know the kind the nursery ones with the handprints and that poem. There first mothers days cards y6 leaving certificates with photos on etc. I am ruthless and only ever keep the very special bits
we have 3 Dc oldest 22 youngest 13 so it’s not like I’m going to get anything like that again.
He said he thought it was just junk I know
he's not as sentimental as me but come on he could of least checked with me.
He thinks I’m being silly and is now in a mood with me

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bobby81 · 25/05/2023 16:51

That would upset me so much. DP knows to always check with me first after a couple of near misses!

Thedogscollar · 25/05/2023 16:50

Yes that would upset me too. YANBU.

FrenchandSaunders · 25/05/2023 16:50

oh blimey I would be upset about this as well, what was he thinking!!

Cam22 · 25/05/2023 16:49

YABU

Theunamedcat · 25/05/2023 16:49

Is it gone or in the outside bin?

Happened to me too erased my daughters childhood memories in a heartbeat im still bitter

ssd · 25/05/2023 16:49

Oh god im so sorry this is something dh would do, unintentionally, and it would kill me too.Flowers

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baddecisions11 · 25/05/2023 16:48

That is incredibly thoughtless of him. You would expect as they are his children too he would want to keep them! YANBU

IhearyouClemFandango · 25/05/2023 16:48

See, I'm not sentimental so wouldn't have kept them. But, if someone else has kept something I would not throw it without asking.

Kingdedede · 25/05/2023 16:47

I’m with you. I’d be fuming.

Lemonfanta4 · 25/05/2023 16:47

Did he not check what he was chucking?

yanbu