To be devastated

Used the football carrier bags for lining the bathroom bin

That's awful of him!

I'd be SO upset. Clearly he hasn't meant to do it to upset you, but I'd at least want some understanding of why you are do devastated about it. If he had been genuinely apologetic then fine -still shit but it's done now. Him stropping about in a sulk would make me furious on top of upset (and give me the major ick)

What a knobhead. I’d be trying to contact the council waste department to see if there was any chance at all they can locate it. Might sound ridiculous but it’s in a large folder and recyclable waste isn’t mushed up like normal bins, much of it is hand sorted.

My friend took photos of all her children’s artwork and random models of stuff, and had one of those printed photo books made. She then binned all the stuff. I’ve been meaning to do this for years.

I'd be proper gutted, YANBU.
He could at least show some empathy and apologise.

I would be so upset

I get ya your allowed to be upset - To me its not sentimental but then other things are to me. Is there anyway you can get it back ?
On another note, My mother in law kept everything my husbands did, we now have three large boxes of stuff in the attic that he has done since he was 5 to finished school. He is nearly 50 years of age 🙄🤐

I'm afraid his stupid football bags would have gone straight in the fire if he'd done that with my precious memories! What a hypocrite, he saves old bags, but doesn't see why you're upset at him throwing away years worth of memories from your children's growing up years. Grrr! This sort of thing makes my blood boil. What would it have cost him to put the things where you would both see them, and then when you noticed them, you would have asked why they were out, and he could have checked whether you wanted to keep them. Selfish sod!

He keeps old carrier bags from his football team shop I think they are junk and stupid keeping but would never get rid as they obviously important to him.

Go and chuck them now. And when he gets upset, get in a mood with him because it's just junk.

You don't have to be the mature one.

Chuck his carrier bags.

Only half joking.

What he did was very wrong, but his reaction to your distress is disgusting.

I would be upset too, YANBU.

You need to put him in the bin.

We have a couple of file boxes per child and the adult DC lve to occasionally go through them. They would be devastated, not just me.

I'm sorry OP, that seems so sad.

He keeps bags from a shop as keepsakes but somehow things 22 years of saved artwork shite is junk? Like does he think that's all that they brought home? How could he not realise it has been saved? Wtf.

“He keeps old carrier bags from his football team shop I think they are junk and stupid keeping but would never get rid as they obviously important to him.”

This makes it even worse!! He clearly does understand that some things have sentimental value! I have a feeling that his grump is because he is secretly feeing guilty about being a twat. But what is to be done? The only thing is that he apologises and recognises, sincerely, that he has hurt you. I am so sorry OP - it would upset me too.

I think I'd be more pissed off about the lack of consideration to your feelings than the fact they were thrown out. I'm so sorry the bin has already been emptied.

I genuinely wouldn't be able to think of him in the same way again given how dismissive he is being.

I would be raging and upset too.

That’s really unfair of him! Not just to you, but I know how much my young adult dc really appreciate the items I’ve kept.

Did your first post not put the boot in enough?

I'm sorry op. I don't keep everything, but a few special things are nice to have. There is no way that I would chuck without checking with other interested parties first.

YANBU. I'd be really upset too OP.

Thankfully DP would never do this as, when he was in his late teens and away inter-railing, his mum 'tidied' his room and threw away ALL his personal stuff. Concert tickets. Photographs. Birthday cards. Letters. Certificates earned for sporting achievements. She said it was all junk. So, DP is extra cautious about this kind of thing.

It doesn't matter what other posters think of keepsakes like this, all that matters is how OP feels.

I sympathise, op - I'd be so upset if dh did this. If you have kept all these things, it's clear that you still want them and you don't want them to be thrown out!!

Has the bin been collected?

I hated all that stuff, the forced ‘activity’ items kids brought home. It meant nothing to me and I threw them out the same day they came home. I did keep the stuff my kids freely close themselves to make for me. The point is, we all find different things sentimental and I think we all have the capacity to realise something is important to others, based on how ( different) things are important to us.

Your H has been an utter dick to throw it away, and even more so not to be mortified when he realised what he did. I think I would be more disturbed at him for the latter than the former.

It would upset me greatly so absolutely not at all unreasonable. It doesn't even matter if he's not sentimental he obviously knew you were keeping them because they were important to you and yet unilaterally decided to throw them away.

Has the bin been emptied ?