Husband doesn't know my middle name

I'd be more worried about him than upset, to be honest. That's a pretty serious memory loss.

Was married 6 years and still got my (now x)DH DOB wrong! 😆

And no, it wouldn’t bother me either unless you were known by your middle name or unless it’s particularly unusual and/ or meaningful. I am pretty sure DH knows mine but if he’s forgotten I wouldn’t judge him; it’s a very bland name that I never, ever use. I probably haven’t even said it out loud for years.

I find my DH’s birthday really difficult to remember for no good reason at all. It’s like the day/month sounds better in my mind the opposite way round and when people ask me his birthday I have to think about it and say it very slowly to avoid flipping it round.

Annoyed, miffed - yes.

Offended 🤦‍♀️😂

And, while I'm not bad at remembering people's dates of birth, I try to ensure that as few people as possible know mine, and if they do know, they'd better pretend not to! I can't bear to be wished a happy birthday, aka transition-to-a-new-age-day.

I wouldn't be hurt, unless perhaps he remembers everyone's middle name except yours.

People have different strengths and weaknesses with regard to memory and perception. I'm pretty good at remembering details like people's middle names, and conversations that we might have had 10 years ago, but have sometimes upset people by failing to recognise them visually out of context.

Knowing details such as a middle name to me means you listen to your partner and value them. So yep I'd be pissed off

I think it's a bit different if he has memory loss due to a brain injury.

I hope you're all doing ok though.

I am lucky that when hubby introduces me to a friend of his that he remembers my actual name. Am I offended no- he has never remembered it when asked since his brain injury and I am known as the cats mother.... however he remembers our daughters name (together over 5 years daughter nearly 3)... if he didn't remember my middle name it wouldn't be a deal breaker either

Does he know this is important to you? I would ask him too memorize your middle name.

My husband doesn’t ever remember mine
he always says a similar name but never the right thing
daft bugger!

Nah this wouldnt bother me.

Most people have bits of information they simply can't retain. With no real reasoning. I always think dp birthday is the 14th. It's not, no idea why I always think it is. Its exactly 2 weeks before mine. I get it wrong so often I have stopped guessing and just work out from mine. Never missed his birthday though.

I am 41 and still can't ever remember my own national insurance number. It just doesn't stick in my mind.

I do know his middle name. But that's because it's his Dad's name and I knew his Dad before I knew him.

My middle name isn't on any bills or anything I use often. I can't imagine dp has heard more than a couple of times, if he didn't recall it, wouldn't bother me.

I completely forgot my daughter middle name when she was about 2 years old. Tried to remember it all day before I admitted defeat and had to ask DP. I picked the bloody name.

DP also cannot spell mine and daughters surname, always gets two letters the wrong way round.

It's hardly the end of the world OP.

My dh registered our dd at primary school with a hyphen between her name and her middle name and in year six, when I found out, and asked him about it he said that he'd done it because that was her name.

Which it wasn't. He was there when she was registered and for every other part of her life so I've got absolutely no idea where this idea came from!

When it was the census, my sister texted her dh 'what is your name?' As she couldn't remember either of his middle names. They have been married over twenty years.

🤣 I did that too! I thought the registrar might get suspicious that it wasn’t a legit marriage but luckily she saw the funny side!

My husband gets confused about his own!!!

It shows nothing more than you have no idea what the word offensive means.

I guess we are all different but I just can't imagine not remembering the date we met or, more importantly, our wedding date.

We still celebrate both 43 years on!

Took my DP several years to full remember DC2 birthday (he always said thr day before, which was the due date to be fair). We then went on the have DC3 who has a birthday very close to DC2 so now there are two birthdays he is a bit iffy on. DC1 shares his birthday so he doesn't have any trouble with that.

He does however know my middle name and he also remembers the two made up middle names I used to use when we first met (almost 30 years ago!!) as my middle name is very boring.

He’s doing well @mydogisthebest. I can’t remember the date I met my bloke and the date we married is engraved inside his wedding ring so he had no excuse for forgetting!

Of course DH knows what my middle name is. He also knows my birthday, the date we got married, the date we met, where we went on our first date, where I was born, what school I went to and plenty more.

I know all that about him too except he does not have a middle name.

We both have terrible memories but can remember all those details.

DH doesn't know any of his families' birthdays or middle names but that is because he doesn't get on with them