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Flirty estate agent

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Mooshamoo · 23/05/2023 11:06

Hi guys I own a small terraced house. I'm selling it. This is the first time I've sold a house.

I talked to two estate agents and I decided to go with the second one as his fees were better.

However he has started to be very flirty.

The last time he came round he kept telling me that I was beautiful. He said it about six times.

Then he came around today for me to sign a contract. He told me I was beautiful.

He took a few more photos of the rooms. I wasn't sure which room he was taking a photo of , I said "do you want me to move into the hall".

He said "well the house would sell for a million more pounds with you in the room".

Then as he left he said "you're gorgeous!". He is in his sixties if that has relevance. I'm a single woman in the house in my own. I felt a bit uncomfortable .

How would you take it? Surely that's being unorofessional

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CindersAgain · 23/05/2023 15:53

It’s usual to get about three valuations form estate agents anyway, and then you can decide which to go for. It usually gives you some ammunition to use when knocking them down on commission too.

Just as an aside.

Aeth · 23/05/2023 15:52

CatchYouOnTheFlippetyFlop · 23/05/2023 15:46

🙄Let me guess - you're the type who would knee someone in his balls, if he tried it on with you?

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I'm inclined to agree with you. I usually would be, but we had a contractor in (big, national company), probably in his 60s or so as well. Was rude the entire time, blamed me for his company's mistakes and was just horrible, to be honest. I usually would have no problem just saying "get out", don't know if it was due to being very pregnant by that point, but after he left I could barely speak down the phone to DP for crying (which I usually never do). DP did, however, call up and explain what would happen if he ever came back - bit more than just a kick in the balls too. 😬
You don't always react in the moment.

GoodChat · 23/05/2023 15:51

girlfriend44 · 23/05/2023 15:38

Why didn't you deal with him at the time.

And do what? She was a lone woman in a house with a creepy man who she needed the services of.

Why didn't he just not be a weirdo?

Aeth · 23/05/2023 15:47

I wouldn't want him in the house again. Since you've signed a contract, check if there's any way you can withdraw without penalty (cooling off period?). If not, call the office and ask for someone else to do viewings if you aren't doing them yourself - I wouldn't want him having keys at any time!

CatchYouOnTheFlippetyFlop · 23/05/2023 15:46

girlfriend44 · 23/05/2023 15:39

Why didn't you deal with him at the time.

🙄Let me guess - you're the type who would knee someone in his balls, if he tried it on with you?

LoonyLois · 23/05/2023 15:41

Estate Agents are often over the top friendly. A married relative of mine had an affair with the estate agent that sold their house. But to repeatedly call you beautiful, I’d contact the office and ask for someone else to deal with it

girlfriend44 · 23/05/2023 15:39

Why didn't you deal with him at the time.

girlfriend44 · 23/05/2023 15:38

Why didn't you deal with him at the time.

Paq · 23/05/2023 12:30

I would cancel the contract. You only signed it today. You will have to work with them really closely over the next few months. It's just not worth it.

Call them and ask to speak to the other managing partner and explain exactly why.

Aprilsh0wers · 23/05/2023 12:15

You have a 14 day cool off period where you can cancel without penalties. Every agency has to comply with this, providing the contract was signed in your home.

Peanutlatte · 23/05/2023 12:07

report him, that's very unprofessional

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Mooshamoo · 23/05/2023 12:00

determinedtomakethiswork · 23/05/2023 11:57

Does he own the company? If not, that will make things a lot easier.

He co-owns it I think

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CaloundraBlues · 23/05/2023 12:00

It doesn't matter if it's happened to anyone else, you need to report this to the EA and tell them you don't want to deal with him again.

determinedtomakethiswork · 23/05/2023 11:57

Does he own the company? If not, that will make things a lot easier.

MumblesParty · 23/05/2023 11:56

I wouldn't got through the hassle of starting again with a new estate agent at this stage, but I'd make sure you were out for all the accompanied viewings, so you don't have to see him again. Or make sure you have a friend round. It's creepy and annoying but it wouldn't scare me enough to put myself through the stress of starting afresh and having to extricate myself from a contract.

Clarinet1 · 23/05/2023 11:55

Yes - go for the cooling off period angle. He sounds like a total creep. One other thing - have you given them keys for viewings? If so get them back or change the locks - possibly both!

waterrat · 23/05/2023 11:51

Agree its not flirting its sexual harassment in your own home which makes it worse as you are particularly vulnerable

Report him. He may be frightening other women as well.

Firstmonthfree · 23/05/2023 11:47

Can I just add this is not “flirty” it is harassment.

2bazookas · 23/05/2023 11:46

Change agents, and tell the MD of the first one why.

Firstmonthfree · 23/05/2023 11:39

Most estate agent contracts have a 14day cooling off period any way

FlamingoQueen · 23/05/2023 11:36

Is there another estate agent in his office that could accompany him at all times when visiting / dealing with you? I would ring and ask to speak to the office manager / boss. Say you are massively uncomfortable dealing with him on your own and you don’t want prospective buyers being shown around by him if he’s like that too.

AuntieSoap · 23/05/2023 11:31

Presumably he is a member of the RICS so under a strict professional code. Report him.

CatsOnTheChair · 23/05/2023 11:30

Withdraw from the contract.
He will put off viewers as well.

Push the estate agents to move fast.
Ours took 24 hours to come round after phoning them, and we were on rightmove 24 hours after that. It doesn't need to be a drawn out process.

GoodChat · 23/05/2023 11:23

Contact the company and tell them you want to withdraw from the contract and why. You get a cooling off period.

If he's like this with you, what's he going to be like with potential viewers too?

KimberleyClark · 23/05/2023 11:20

Unprofessional creep.