Who is Being Unreasonable?

I think B should go but if she doesn’t feel up to the concert then could skip that? Surely that was part of the point of making a weekend of it.

I don’t get why B isn’t going? Is she not working or anything? She’s really limiting her life if she’s not going to do anything until the baby arrives. That’s a bit odd.

I think you and B are being a bit unfair to A. Don’t you like her?

You might enjoy the concert anyway. One of my friends has the completely opposite taste to me. She’s sugary pop and I’m a metal head but I’ve had fun going to watch Britney with her. Mainly because she’s my friend and I love her. Seems like you and B don’t like A all that much, but won’t address the issue.

B is being ridiculous as 4 months pregnant with an uncomplicated pregnancy is no reason not to go. I think you should still go, but that’s what you’ve decided to do so good. You might even enjoy it.

Ahh I thought you were A. Nicely done.

I said no originally but allowed myself to be talked around which is completely my own fault & I regret it. I think you see the issue here. So yes its annoying you didn't want to go initially but you agreed. I guess you could say I didn't want to go in the first place so I'm pulling out too and next time don't pressure me when I've said no. But this will cause upset.

If you are C, I think you should still go. You will still get to spend time with a friend whom you presumably enjoy seeing. If B is pregnant she has a right to do what she feels is right for her and the baby. She may not be telling you everything about the pregnancy. One other thought - some bands can be a different experience live than recorded if you haven’t seen this one live before so, as a PP suggested, you might like the gig more than you expect.

Ah I thought you were A !

If you're C I think you need to go, because you agreed to. Are you actually having to go to the concert itself or can you skip that bit ?

I don't think anyone is necessarily being unreasonable. I can remember the crushing tiredness and nausea of early pregnancy, but I've also been in the scenario where I really, really want to see a band.

I don’t think that A has done anything wrong at all, all she did was suggest a particular night out, to which her two friends agreed and then subsequently dropped out. C is definitely the most unreasonable because she is essentially saying I am not going with just you A which is very rude.

A B and C can still have a long weekend together.

A and C go to concert, B rests up and meets them afterwards. Its only a couple of hours out of 48 ? Why cancel it all?

If it's a weekend away, why can't you all still go and B can stay in wherever you're staying while you're at the concert? There's no need to cancel overall?

A asked. Neither B nor C needed to say yes, but did.
B’s excuse if an uncomplicated 2nd pregnancy is pathetic. At 4 months pregnant there’s absolutely no reason why she can’t have a weekend away and go to a gig. I went to one 10 days before my due date and had a blast.
And you, as C need to go. You can’t “rearrange” if you’ve bought tickets for a gig - the band isn’t going to simply change the date of the gig.

Besides, I’ve sometimes gone to see bands I’m not that into and ended up coming away as a converted fan - might be the same for B and C.

The fact B & C don't like the band is irrelevant now.
It was relevant at the time A asked but once they agreed to go, it's their own choice. Once you commit to something you shouldn't flake because you don't like something that you knew you disliked and agreed to go.

B is in the wrong for using the excuse of being 4 months pregnant (unless there is a back story). C is even more pathetic than B - "I'm not going with my friend cos my bestie won't be there anymore"

Did you have a petted lip and stamp your feet at the time?

The most unreasonable one is C

You played that well.

I had you down as A! 😁

I can understand why you don't want to go now, B has cancelled and you don't like the band.

But lesson learnt, don't feel pressurised into agreeing plans you don't really want to do.

I completely agree. C is most unreasonable and a bit shit

Totally agree

Why would A be unreasonable to ask? I’ve been to bands that I’m not overly keen on, but fancied a night out and a catch up. They could have just said no. I think it’s more unreasonable to say ‘yes I’ll go, but only if we do this and this’. It’s not a crime to ask someone on a night out - you don’t have to agree.

B and C are annoying an flakey.

I don’t think A is unreasonable at all. They suggested it, nobody had to agree, but then B said yes (on their terms), then C agreed. B obviously has a serious issue with the pregnancy if they can’t go away for a night or two (so A is a bit unreasonable with this point), but C sounds like they don’t really like A or want to spend time with them. I’d be upset if I was A.

I’d be a bit upset of my friend cancelled a weekend away because they are 4 months pregnant, being pregnant doesn’t stop you doing things and 4 months isn’t that far along. Unless of course there’s big pregnancy complications or HG of course.

A is unreasonable for ever asking two people who obviously don’t like the band to go with her in the first place. I wouldn’t even enjoy going in A’s position knowing B and C didn’t really want to be there. But being dumped by both friends is hurtful and them having said yes she is reasonable to be upset B and C baled out.

B might or might not be unreasonable, pregnancy is different for everyone. It’s not necessarily a good excuse, but it might be if she’s struggling. But given B wasn’t that fussed in the first place they should have said no at the time.

C should be able to foresee that pulling out because B won’t be there is hardly going to make A feel like a valued friend. At the same time it’s not the get together she signed up for.

Basically everyone involved has a reasonable point but everyone involved is also a bit unreasonable. There is no clear cut answer.

Are you C?

I would've gone at 4m pregnant; and def gone if I were C, knowing it's important to A.

No wonder A is feeling frustrated B could still attend at 4 months pregnant so it does seem like she's using it as an excuse and C had basically told her she's only worth spending time with if B is there.

I think C is being unreasonable tbh. B has pulled out so even more reason for C to go. Shit to make plans then pull out. C knew she didn't like the band but agreed to it anyway so pretty rubbish to let A down just because B has

I think it was probably a bad plan in the first place though if no one but A likes the band! But once the others committed it was unfair for C at least to drop out.