Pedestrian holding parking space

regarding bagging a table before ordering food - our local Burstons gets so busy at lunchtimes they always now ask ' have you found a free table before you order food?' makes perfect sense to me! Another local cafe has people queuing a lot for takeaway drinks so yes I feel fine about finding a table first then ordering when my friend arrives. Cafe is small & I'm hardly going to survey everyone in said queue & try & work out who might need a table 🤷‍♀️🤣🤣

Had this in a supermarket one Xmas. Two fairly young women screaming and shouting that they were saving the space at anyone who tried to park. I drove a massive people carrier at the time so inched in until I was halfway in, locked the doors and turned the engine off. Got called some very rude names but they moved!

Yanbu

Personally I think YABU, as you don’t know the circumstance.

I did this recently as despite turning up 45 minutes early as parking seems to have been a nightmare lately we were circling for 25 minutes until I resorted to something similar to this. The issue is you drive in a circle so new people could just arrive and get a space as it’s pot luck which doesn’t seem fair when we queue for just about everything else in Britain ha! I ended up approaching a couple who were about to get in their car and asked them if they’d mind waiting a moment till my husband come and they were more than obliging understanding the circumstance we were in.

All the best and positivity as best as possible op.

I remember the cafe debate one, that was a good debate

This would bother me WAY less if it was a supermarket or shopping centre car park.

It bother me so much because it’s a hospital car park - I don’t want to get into hospital attendance top trumps.

The ONLY thing that would make me revert back to supermarket/shopping centre stance in this scenario is if I was visiting a hospital for the happy occasion of a baby born or collecting a relative or friend who had been discharged.

Otherwise, we’ve all got appointments to make and give the benefit of the doubt that they really needed that spot as much as me.

Then does the hospital expect you to pay for parking if there are no spaces?

I think that is a more sensible idea

@Frabbits I'm slightly puzzled you would be more inclined to let this go in a hospital than at a supermarket?? what do you think OP was there for, a party?
They were there for a scan for a possible MC!! but you're implying she should let it go. If it were a supermarket on the other hand....

I'd be much more inclined to let this go in a hospital than in say just a supermarket carpark. Getting to hospital appointments is stressful enough without the absolute shit-show that is inadequate parking provision at most hospitals.

What you need to do is write to your MP and raise the issue that there clearly isn't enough parking.

Ah good! Glad she moved. I would have felt
the same as her husband. How embarrassing for him (and for her). 😬

Soontobe60 and the lady doesn't know the OP's circumstances either. V selfish to reserve a space if a car is there before yours. Personally I might be tempted to get someone else to stand in a space if we were struggling to and they found one but would absolutely move if another car for there before ours

There is no rule on this.people claiming there is, are inventing stuff to suit their narrative.

Yanbu. Well done for standing up to the madness

@BelperLawnmower maybe read all my posts?
My mum was actually critically/terminally ill in my car as it turned out - how much longer do you think I should have waited on top of the time I had already spent driving around the hospital site? Should I have just told her to pull herself together and stop complaining? Would you do that to your closest family?

I did this a few times, many moons ago. Difference was it was a private car park, next to a Royal Mail sorting office. They'd decided it was their dedicated parking and we couldn't park our cars, if they were ahead of us in the queue, a passenger would jog and hold the space.

I can't imagine doing it in a public car park though!

I really have no idea what you're on about now, but you have a nice day too.

Maybe play fair and wait for a space?

I think there’s a massive difference between sending someone to reserve a space when the car isn’t in the car park as some pp’s have said there parents made them do as kids which is just queue jumping and silly because there is no car to use the space at that moment or anything soon, and having a passenger who has arrived in the car park in the car get out and help look for a space. In the second situation the car has arrived in the car park already, it may have even been there first so it hasn’t queue jumped and is ready to take up the space in a matter of moments. It can be really hard to see free spaces in a crowded car park especially in old style lower down cars and standing up taller than parked cars can help or Maybe they had driven by the space, only seen it when they had gone past, couldn’t turn as one way, and so decided to loop round for a better approach.

Hopsital parking is very stressful and there is never enough. I work in a hospital and usually cycle or take the staff bus from a park and ride, however the 3 days per month when I work 12-midnight I can’t use the park at ride as it stops at 8pm, don’t feel safe cycling as it’s gone midnight at the roads are deserted (9 miles, not all lit) and as I only need it 3 days a month I can’t get a staff permit for the staff on site car park (there’s a waiting list prioritised by need) so I have to park in the visitors park. I go extra early as I can be circling for 30min for a spot and feel horrid taking a visitors space. Hospitals could help themselves and keep staff out the visitor car park by keeping their park and rides open later or offering more flexible staff carpark passes (one place I worked in that did it better allowed staff parked in early closing car parks a break at 8pm to move their cars onsite)

@FergalforPM
Aye right!
😂😆😂😆

To be clear I am neither apologising nor shifting the focus. I have an opinion which differs from yours. I have nothing to apologise for.

Spacestace · Yesterday 17:29
CatchHimDerry · Yesterday 17:27

Maybe they’d been circling for ages hoping for something and had appointments too etc?
This, I was circling for ages and waiting around when going to say goodbye to my dad as he died, I would have absolutely had a passenger jump out and grab a space if I had someone else with me, and I wouldn't have felt bad about”

This. On a shopping street, I’d agree with you but we don’t know anyone else’s story in a hospital car park.

@FergalforPM I imagine trying to change the focus is as close as you ever get to apologising! 🙄
Have a nice day 😁

Hard agree. Everyone is stressed and in a hurry at a hospital. You drive around trying to find a parking space like everyone else. Dumping humans out to help find and reserve a space is immoral.

If you haven't got it by now I don't know how I can put it any more clearly. It's selfish and unreasonable and there is no excuse for it.

@FergalforPM cunts are magical, I am proud to have one and feel very lucky. That's that point.

Otherwise, perhaps you have only ever been to one hospital and can't conceive (see what I did there?) that others have different layouts, access and parking requirements?

My original post was to the OP and I explained why I took the action I did - which gave another viewpoint on the type of experience she had had. I stand by it.

I did not have the option you apparently availed yourself of (a convenient short-stay parking space) so your experience has no bearing on mine, or OPs.

I loved my mum very much, I love my children. I acted in their best interests in an emergency not of my making and I did not harm anyone else. Why does that make me a target of your vitriol?