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Child never picked..

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Idontknowwhy1 · 17/05/2023 15:43

My child's communion is in a couple of weeks & loads of children have been given roles in the mass... My dc had her reconciliation in Feb, the teacher said whoever doesn't get a role will have something in the communion mass.. My dc has been given nothing in this either & is so disappointed. Especially as the teacher said that those who didn't get a part in the reconciliation would have a part in the communion mass.. I feel so disappointed on my childs behalf, please talk sense into me. I don't want to be that parent!

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IrregularChoiceFan · 17/05/2023 16:12

I was always forgotten, it was not a great feeling. I don't think you would be 'that' parent if you went to speak with the teacher.

My personal confidence was never good enough to even tell my parents about things like this, even now I wish I had.

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Idontknowwhy1 · 17/05/2023 16:10

@TheYearOfSmallThings she said there's others too who aren't doing anything..They are combined with two other classes so 60 kids in total..

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wildfirewonder · 17/05/2023 16:10

Idontknowwhy1 · 17/05/2023 16:07

It's through school... Others didn't get jobs either.. I asked dc again & he said teacher said if somone had a job at the reconciliation they wouldn't get one at the communion service. Some dc mightnt be bothered but mine is crushed...

This does not mean everyone will get a job...

I'd tell them it doesn't matter, tbh, and say I'll take you for a treat after.

StephanieSuperpowers · 17/05/2023 16:09

Do you have a parent's meeting?

TheYearOfSmallThings · 17/05/2023 16:08

People may not be crystal clear what is going on due to the terminology!

But I think it would be totally reasonable to have a word with the teacher so she can carry up an offering or something. They've just overlooked her and you won't be That Parent for reminding them.

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Idontknowwhy1 · 17/05/2023 16:08

Cantthinkofaname2203 · 17/05/2023 16:07

What kind of role?

iirc the role is receiving communion. None of the kids at ours did anything else.

the reconciliation wasn’t a big thing either and no one had “roles”.

some of the older kids were altar boys/girls as they would do normally.

otherwise have a quick word with the teacher. “Just wondered what dc’s role is in the ceremony as the kids were told those who didn’t have a role at reconciliation would do”. Kind of thing.

Singing, readings, prayers & bringing gifts..

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Shadyladyo · 17/05/2023 16:08

Give up religion?

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Idontknowwhy1 · 17/05/2023 16:07

It's through school... Others didn't get jobs either.. I asked dc again & he said teacher said if somone had a job at the reconciliation they wouldn't get one at the communion service. Some dc mightnt be bothered but mine is crushed...

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Cantthinkofaname2203 · 17/05/2023 16:07

What kind of role?

iirc the role is receiving communion. None of the kids at ours did anything else.

the reconciliation wasn’t a big thing either and no one had “roles”.

some of the older kids were altar boys/girls as they would do normally.

otherwise have a quick word with the teacher. “Just wondered what dc’s role is in the ceremony as the kids were told those who didn’t have a role at reconciliation would do”. Kind of thing.

Stompythedinosaur · 17/05/2023 16:06

Is the communion through school? I would have asked the teacher if there had been an oversight, if he'd been told he'd have a role and then wasn't give one.

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Idontknowwhy1 · 17/05/2023 16:03

Anyone?!

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