Child never picked..

Ignore the comments Re staff havi g a laugh about an email op, any decent teacher would deal with this. They might be hacked off at creating themselves extra work by not allocating parts fairly but that's tough.

Yes, speak up, as previous posters have said, some children and parents are quiet and it's easy for them to be overlooked either accidentally or to appease the gobsh*te parents.

There are easy issues here:

Teacher said anyone without a role in reconciliation would have a role in communion - did they make it clear it would be the opportunity of a role or implication it was guarantee of a role?

Pupils who have had a role in reconciliation have got a role in communion causing some pupils to have two occasions to have a role rather than another pupil have a chance.

Favouritism towards PTA pupils.

You should feel confident approach g tje teacher about this, whether it be by email or face to face.

I would have a word with the teacher in person rather than sending an email.

And I would not give a shit about the staff room laughing at a parent for asking that their child should not be overlooked. Some children are, especially if they are quiet and easygoing and tend to be compliant, and their parents are the same.

Your post says child 'NEVER' picked. Does that mean that this has happened before and he is being singled out by the school? If so, you could just mention to the teacher (or better still get the kid to) 'what can X do to work towards being given more responsibility/chances). If it's a one-off over the communion, it could just be one of those things.

I would send one! Probably along the lines of "Just wanted to let you know that DC was really disappointed not to get a role. I wondered if there's any little job you could find for them to do" You might find that they say, sorry, no, but they might remember next time they're giving out jobs!

I am a teacher and I can confirm that that email would be very low down the list of laugh-inducing emails we receive from parents!

Genuinely curious about which points are laughable. It's always good to see the world from different perspectives.

I know nowadays where I am it's normal for every single child to have a role in the first communion ceremony . No one gets left out. I was at a friends child's communion party in Saturday afternoon and it was commented on that the mass had been lovely and every single child had been involved. I know it was the same when my DD made her communion in a completely different school. I see no harm in raising it with the teacher

Contact the teacher and very politely ask about it. It may be an oversight in which case the teacher will probably fix it. You can bet other parents will have asked. Sometimes you need to be ‘that parent’ to fight your DCs corner. You never need to tell your DC you have done this.

I would mention that she's very upset and is there anything she can do? There's no harm in advocating for your child when she can't do this herself.

Your dc doesn’t sound too bothered and seems very keen on you not contacting the school

If there are 60 kids then across the 2 services that would be giving 30 children jobs per service. That is clearly impractical.

There is also a difference between the teacher saying anyone who didn't get a role in the first service will get a role in the second and the teacher saying those who got a role in the first wouldn't get a role in the second.

There's nothing to suggest your child has been forgotten. There probably weren't enough jobs for everyone. So yes, raising it with the teacher would make you that parent.

I’m afraid you’ll have to be the pushy parent.

My junior school was exactly the same, same kids picked time and time again; their mums were prominent PTA mums or altar boys/girls.

I was a really good dancer as a child and never got picked for this dance troop thing and I was heart broken (so dramatic I know) but my mum bounced up the school and told the teachers straight and that it was always the same kids etc.

Low an behold I got a role thanks to my mum.

How old is your child op?

Bloomin heck… that will raise a laugh in the staff room 😂

* I don't want to be that parent!*

so instead just start a mumsnet thread about it 😐
drop the teacher a line. No drama. Just a heads up that your dd has been missed off

I don't think I'd message the teacher as if I was her line manager and she was one step from having a chat about performance.

Teacher probably forgot. Just send in a message saying:

"Jenny was disappointed not to have a role in x, but was reassured she would have one in Y. Y is on the 30th of May and the roles have been given out and Jenny was left out. She is disappointed, especially in light of assurances from her teacher that she wouldn't be left out twice. I know there is a lot to organise and that this might be an oversight, so please let me know when you can now the matter stands."