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Should I report benefit fraud?

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Greeksummer · 14/05/2023 18:49

Firstly, this isn’t a benefit bashing thread. It’s something I feel hugely conflicted about.

A couple I know is committing benefit fraud and have been for quite a few years. They live together with their school aged child however, the dad is not actually down as being at the address so their rent is paid for as the mum works part time, as well as single persons council tax discount. The dad earns a very good salary (not 6 figures but for where we live in the UK it’s a lot of money) so there’s absolutely no excuse for it. I know the mum better than the dad and she’s quite open about it all and money in general. Both of their parents’ help them out as well - regularly buying their weekly food shop, covering the costs of their child’s school uniform every year, school trips etc (no issue with parent’s helping out if they’re able to, I’m just highlighting that they’re in no way struggling financially).

It just makes me so cross as I know a disabled person who’s benefits were stopped as they were deemed not disabled enough and had a horrendous ordeal trying to get them back. I think it’s so wrong that they’re taking money they’re not entitled to and don’t need when so many people are struggling. However, I’m also aware that it’s a drop in the ocean compared to what millionaires and billionaires get away with hence why I’m conflicted as to whether I should report it or not.

YABU - keep your nose out, people get away with much worse

YANBU - it’s wrong and you should report it

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Shade17 · 15/05/2023 12:19

Absolutely report them. A family member used to be a benefit fraud investigator who saved the taxpayer millions. He found it very satisfying work.

JudgeRinderonTinder · 15/05/2023 11:35

It always absolutely fascinates me how people are so open telling everybody about their financial affairs when they are supposedly committing fraud. I read it all the time on here about how the neighbour brags they are getting benefits they’re not entitled to, or the mum at the school gates.

It doesn’t ring quite true, really.

GasPanic · 15/05/2023 11:33

Everanewbie · 15/05/2023 11:11

Yes, but shop lifting is also a drop in the ocean compared to the Hatton Garden heist, but its the principle we prosecute, not just the value. If we let this criminality slide then we are letting down those legitimate claimants who deserve more, and the hard working people keeping their social contract of paying a fair chunk of their wages in the understanding it helps people who need it.

It frustrates me how people who claim to be on the side of the people who need benefits to survive seem the happiest to let fraudulent claims go because of 'tories' or 'Starbucks'. No one would be happy that the charity box was stolen by Mr Bloggs and he bought a new tv with it because, well, Madoff and Stanford stole more.

It's called whataboutism.

Standard misdirection tactic to divert attention from the real issue onto something else.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Whataboutism

An example might be, I go into the street and kill someone.

Someone else says, you shouldn't kill someone, it's bad.

I say in response, well what about Hitler, he killed 30 million people ?

Whataboutism - Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Whataboutism

MrsMikeDrop · 15/05/2023 11:32

drpet49 · 14/05/2023 19:15

I agree. Though MN seem to love benefit cheats for some bizarre, messed up reason.

I have noticed this and don't understand it. They are literally stealing from us, and many hardworking people probably less fortunate than them! Total scum.

Crikeyalmighty · 15/05/2023 11:26

@Everanewbie I loathe Starbucks and the current government but I also have no time for comfortably off people totally playing the system. Look at it this way- one single working mum on here , struggling but just about coping may well be seeing all her monthly tax take go to a couple of chancers like this . If we were all making direct payments to others in that way I think folks would soon get very pissed off and start reporting . And I'm not with this 'well they are a couple for all intents and purposes and yes he's the kids dad' but we register him somewhere else so we can get a nice bit of xtra- that way lies madness. If someone is staying over multiple nights a week and not just popping in and particularly if they have children or have previously been claiming as a couple - then it needs investigating- you are either fully separated and have a separate home or you aren't.

Everanewbie · 15/05/2023 11:11

Tidsleytiddy · 15/05/2023 10:35

No of course it shouldn’t but what I’ve stated is correct. Benefit fraud is a drop in the ocean compared to what these corporations are able to get away with.

Yes, but shop lifting is also a drop in the ocean compared to the Hatton Garden heist, but its the principle we prosecute, not just the value. If we let this criminality slide then we are letting down those legitimate claimants who deserve more, and the hard working people keeping their social contract of paying a fair chunk of their wages in the understanding it helps people who need it.

It frustrates me how people who claim to be on the side of the people who need benefits to survive seem the happiest to let fraudulent claims go because of 'tories' or 'Starbucks'. No one would be happy that the charity box was stolen by Mr Bloggs and he bought a new tv with it because, well, Madoff and Stanford stole more.

Neededanewuserhandle · 15/05/2023 10:56

Paperlate · 14/05/2023 20:16

Funny how the benefit cheats always brag about it. Hmm

Yes this is really weird.

SouthCountryGirl · 15/05/2023 10:54

Daisydu · 15/05/2023 09:11

Keep your nose out. I also know someone who is doing this but I wouldn’t report it. Not going to achieve anything really, and also they do take your details when you report I wouldn’t believe you would always be anonymous!

This isn't true - I've been reported and it was anonymous.

Greeksummer · 15/05/2023 10:46

Beezknees · 15/05/2023 09:06

I find these threads so hard to believe. Why would somebody openly tell lots of people they're committing benefit fraud, knowing they could get sent to prison.

The cynic in me says people make this stuff up to start benefit bashing arguments.

You’re obviously not from a low income area. This really isn’t uncommon and as I’ve said, most people in my town don’t think of it as committing a crime. There’s also a huge stigma against being a grass which is probably the main thing stopping me from reporting.

The issue with this couple is that they’re not doing it because they’re struggling to make ends meet, they’re doing it because they can get away with it. Although, I’m starting to wonder if they don’t even realise how wrong it is because it’s so normalised where we are.

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Tidsleytiddy · 15/05/2023 10:38

It’s jarring but it’s endemic. Keep your nose out. No good can come of reporting this

Greeksummer · 15/05/2023 10:36

CarpetSlipper · 14/05/2023 23:01

No, you don’t know their circumstances. He may actually live elsewhere and not be contributing financially to her household at all. Just because he’s there a lot doesn’t mean he lives there and contributes.

He absolutely doesn’t live elsewhere or have another house. From what I know he uses his parents address for anything official but he hasn’t lived there for years.

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Tidsleytiddy · 15/05/2023 10:35

No of course it shouldn’t but what I’ve stated is correct. Benefit fraud is a drop in the ocean compared to what these corporations are able to get away with.

Everanewbie · 15/05/2023 10:33

Tidsleytiddy · 15/05/2023 10:12

Why don’t you report the giant corporations who don’t pay tax. Amazon is one but I’ll bet you use their services. This country isn’t on its knees because of people on benefits (not much of a lifestyle is it); it’s on its knees because of greedy Tories making sure there’s money for them and their mates and because of ludicrous tax loopholes. Wanting to report someone for alleged benefit fraud always smacks of deep unhappiness and jealousy to me. Mind your own business and if you’re not happy, change it

I really dislike this point. Yes, I agree that the big corporations should be paying tax at a fair rate. But that stance shouldn't give private citizens carte blanche to commit fraud.

Swrigh1234 · 15/05/2023 10:31

DurhamDurham · 15/05/2023 08:13

I used to be a benefits advisor for a charity and I wouldn't report suspected benefits fraud. It's usually a drop in the ocean and no good comes out of it, usually a load of grief and no resolution. Save your anger for those committing huge levels of tax avoidance and evasion.

How did you know it’s a drop in the ocean? Clearly most people don’t report and many are at it themselves, based on this thread.

Tidsleytiddy · 15/05/2023 10:12

Why don’t you report the giant corporations who don’t pay tax. Amazon is one but I’ll bet you use their services. This country isn’t on its knees because of people on benefits (not much of a lifestyle is it); it’s on its knees because of greedy Tories making sure there’s money for them and their mates and because of ludicrous tax loopholes. Wanting to report someone for alleged benefit fraud always smacks of deep unhappiness and jealousy to me. Mind your own business and if you’re not happy, change it

LakieLady · 15/05/2023 10:11

caringcarer · 14/05/2023 22:49

I'd probably report because there is not an unlimited pot the government has. Each government department has a budget. If people claim fraudulently then there is less left for those who genuinely need to claim.

The DWP budget doesn't work like that. If someone is entitled to a benefit, and they apply, they get it, and if the budget is overspent, so be it.

I'm fully expecting the PIP budget to be overspent in a year or two, because the number of applications doubled in 22/23 compared to previous years.

Everanewbie · 15/05/2023 09:55

Do you like this friend? If you do, and want to stay friends but can't separate this behavior, I'd drop it into conversation in a subtle way next time she boasts of her fraud. Maybe "I'd feel really uncomfortable doing that knowing that I don't really deserve it" Maybe you'll milk just enough about her attitude to help you decide whether this is a friendship you want to keep.

A lot of people are telling you to report this, and are rightly calling it fraud and stealing. In the real world there its not quite as cut and dry as to just report. People are ostracised for being a 'grass' and as some people have mentioned, you might not be 100% certain that there isn't some circumstance you don't know about.

LakieLady · 15/05/2023 09:50

Robinni · 14/05/2023 20:42

Yes she would as the claimant, depending on how long it’s been going on and what they can prove.

If he is maintaining a property of his own/paying bills there and they have separate finances, then it’s not fraud, as you can stay over in partner’s house several nights a week.

There may be other reasons they are doing this - if the mum and/or the child have disability (hidden) then it wouldn’t work for them all to live together - she’d be utterly ruined financially. That could explain why the parents are helping out so much too.

You can stay with your partner/have them stay over every single night and still not be committing fraud.

If the partner has his own address, and that is where his clothes etc are kept, where his car is registered and insured, is used for his bank, HMRC, his employer etc, any decision by DWP to stop her benefits would be challengeable.

If they eat all their meals together, that would reduce her chances of succeeding at any appeal, but that's not a given.

I've won 2 alleged cohabitation appeals for clients, and my colleagues have won another 3 in the last few years. The question of number of nights spent together has never even been asked. In every one, the tribunal seemed to attach more weight to where "stuff" was kept than anything else. They also seemed to accept that the children's father stayed over regularly to help with childcare and to maintain a relationship with his children.

I've also seen first hand the utter misery that has been caused when benefits are suspended for months (it can take a year) and someone has sod all to live on, which is why I'm never in favour of reporting.

It's also worth bearing in mind that if someone is on UC, they can be getting huge amounts in child maintenance and it isn't taken into account.

TrollyHolly · 15/05/2023 09:43

Beezknees · 15/05/2023 09:10

I'm stretching to not believe it because lots of these threads seem to crop up and it's incredibly unbelievable that people committing fraud would be telling all and sundry about it. Do you tell all your acquaintances the detailed ins and outs of your finances?

Some people do. Because they don't see it as a big deal. Same as some people openly talk about taking coke at dinner parties or making false insurance claims.

I've got an asshole of a cousin who laughs about reporting his Amazon deliveries as missing if the driver leaves it outside, gets a refund or replacement and sells them on. He doesn't see it as a big deal because Anazon make loads of money.

GasPanic · 15/05/2023 09:37

It's a crime on society like vandalism, and it hurts everyone, not only people paying for benefits, but those on them as well.

It takes money away from people who need it. Not only that it is bad press for the people actually on benefits, as every time people read threads like this it gives them the perception that there are a lot of people out their on the (unjustified) take.

Daisydu · 15/05/2023 09:11

Keep your nose out. I also know someone who is doing this but I wouldn’t report it. Not going to achieve anything really, and also they do take your details when you report I wouldn’t believe you would always be anonymous!

Beezknees · 15/05/2023 09:10

Username84 · 15/05/2023 07:52

There are a lot of people really stretching to not believe this.

And yes the money might not go to someone who deserves it instead but the housing association house probably will...

I'm stretching to not believe it because lots of these threads seem to crop up and it's incredibly unbelievable that people committing fraud would be telling all and sundry about it. Do you tell all your acquaintances the detailed ins and outs of your finances?

Anoisagusaris · 15/05/2023 09:09

Axahooxa · 14/05/2023 18:55

YABU!!!

what do you think you’ll achieve?

Hopefully the benefits that they are wrongfully claiming will be stopped. Or do you believe everyone should lie and claim something they are not entitled to? Do you think the money for benefits grows on trees?

Beezknees · 15/05/2023 09:07

IseePatterns · 15/05/2023 09:03

What I've never understood on mn is how people know these benefit cheats who're so open to them about cheating. Makes me think they're not the most honest either because I can't imagine someone I know telling me or bragging to me about cheating the system or just doing something wrong/criminal/illegal in the first place unless they're confessing and wanting me to help them sort it out or something.

So why is this person so free to express wrong doing with you, hmm? You've come to mumsnet to ask if you should report but you've probably not told her off, corrected her, told her what she's doing is wrong and you think they should stop, or have you?

What do you do when she tells you these things? [Asking not only OP but all the other posters who seem to personally know fraudsters]

Yep. Suspiciously there seem to be an awful lot of people who are dying to tell mumsnetters that they are committing benefit fraud. 🤔

Beezknees · 15/05/2023 09:06

I find these threads so hard to believe. Why would somebody openly tell lots of people they're committing benefit fraud, knowing they could get sent to prison.

The cynic in me says people make this stuff up to start benefit bashing arguments.