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WhatsApp scam?

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Sweetus · 14/05/2023 09:52

I recently saw that my partner had blocked 3 numbers on WhatsApp. 2 pictures were the same person, and one was a different woman. All British numbers. They were either Korean or Hong Kong ladies. He says they had tried calling him, so he blocked them and deleted the call history? Is this a potential scam?
For some background information, I previously caught him watching raunchy videos of women of this ethnicity, so I know he likes this type of woman. He says I'm being paranoid.

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LucaJones · 12/08/2023 08:43

The situation does raise concerns, but it's essential to have an open conversation with your partner. Addressing the issue calmly and understanding each other's perspective can help dispel any misunderstandings and determine whether there's any cause for genuine concern. 🤝

mrsed1987 · 14/05/2023 15:31

My husband got one the other day and I was sat with him. 100% a scam as he googled it at the time

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Sweetus · 14/05/2023 15:15

Thank you X

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soontobeamama · 14/05/2023 14:41

I'm sure it is a scam and it sounds like in this case, he is trying to prove to you that he has nothing to hide.

Hopefully you can get through this and get your relationship back on track xx

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Sweetus · 14/05/2023 13:09

soontobeamama · 14/05/2023 12:37

I have had this happen to me; three calls on WhatsApp in quick succession, each only ringing once. In my call history, each has a photo of a female and the number appears to be foreign. This has happened several times now, each time with a different picture and number - I have blocked them all.

Why are you checking his phone and looking at his call history and blocked numbers on WhatsApp?

It was wrong of me to check, I know that. There are trust issues, and I'm also aware that it isn't healthy. But there have been issues in the past with lies and deceitful behaviour, and something he said recently made me have some doubts. I'm hoping it's just a scam, and since it's happening to a lot of people, it more than likely is. He's left his phone at home while he's gone to work, I didn't ask him to do that. I'm not going to look at it again, though.

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soontobeamama · 14/05/2023 12:37

I have had this happen to me; three calls on WhatsApp in quick succession, each only ringing once. In my call history, each has a photo of a female and the number appears to be foreign. This has happened several times now, each time with a different picture and number - I have blocked them all.

Why are you checking his phone and looking at his call history and blocked numbers on WhatsApp?

CarolDunne · 14/05/2023 11:12

I get them all the time
Sometimes they have very big muscles 💪 /sometimes women snd recently they are recruiters looking for my cv

Butterfly44 · 14/05/2023 11:09

Yes there are ALOT of WhatsApp scams about. I think if you reply to even one saying wrong number or something they flag it as an active cell and pass on that number to other scammers. Then you get inundated!

CadburyDream · 14/05/2023 10:46

Yes I’m getting loads as well usually starts with “hi friend” I just block them

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Sweetus · 14/05/2023 10:45

I don't know what to do here. It could very well be a scam, but it also could be something sinister. He unblocked the numbers and said he is leaving his phone at home while he goes to work. The reason for this, he says, is because he is not hiding anything.

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NeighbourhoodonWatch · 14/05/2023 10:31

Its not ALL scams, both DS and I have had the most amazing job opportunity...£10k per month anyone?! 🤣

PurpleFlower1983 · 14/05/2023 10:24

Both me and my husband get these messages sometimes but with your husband it sounds like it could be either.

Stratocumulus · 14/05/2023 10:22

I have a suspicion that once anyone taps into anything like yr DH has previously subscribed to, that he will get this kind of junk for ages yet. They’ve got their hooks in and every now and then they’ll pop up.
I suspect they hope some poor loser will give in to temptation and start looking and paying for what’s on offer lin a weak moment.
I really am naive about such matters but logic suggests what I’m thinking. It’s a global billion £/$ industry like the OLD sites. Once you subscribe to them they’ll keep bothering the “customer” with pop ups for weeks/months afterwards. Especially when it gets near to renewing a subscription time. (This I know from a 3rd party’s experience last year.)

Its an absolute pain so I’d probably, given his history, keep my antennae up.

User124534687 · 14/05/2023 10:21

Modda · 14/05/2023 10:17

I get these as a message but never a call. I never delete the history either.

This is a good point. We are all saying we block these people but we never delete the history.

You’d only do that to cover your tracks. I can’t think of any other reason to do it.

Modda · 14/05/2023 10:17

I get these as a message but never a call. I never delete the history either.

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Sweetus · 14/05/2023 10:15

Schroedingersimmigrant · 14/05/2023 10:13

It's a scam but tbh I don't see much future in your relationship anyway with the issues

You're right. It's pretty much full of insecurities, mostly on my behalf, because of his past behaviour. We have a child, animals, and home together, though. I will need to have a good think about our situation and go from there

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Sweetus · 14/05/2023 10:13

Well, it's reassuring to know that it's probably a scam. Just with his previous behaviour, I was worried he had met someone on a site.

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Schroedingersimmigrant · 14/05/2023 10:13

It's a scam but tbh I don't see much future in your relationship anyway with the issues

SpringOn · 14/05/2023 10:11

My DH got one of these supposedly from a Thai woman last week. He showed me and blocked it. I have had similar. Scam.

Irishmammy2022 · 14/05/2023 10:10

Yes it’s probably just a scam.

LuckyPaisley · 14/05/2023 10:10

I've had calls like this on WhatsApp recently, they're UK numbers and a beautiful Asian woman in the profile pic. They ring several times in quick succession then no more, even if I don't block them.

WheelsUp · 14/05/2023 10:08

The pics I get with the accounts are women in swimwear. Your h is right to block

wormshuffled · 14/05/2023 10:07

Also had fake recruitment contacts from unknown numbers that are too good to be true and written in bad English.

WheelsUp · 14/05/2023 10:07

I can scammers on WhatsApp too. I block so I don't get any more offers of cheap designer bags etc

Fraaahnces · 14/05/2023 10:05

I’ve been getting them too. Also fake recruitment agencies with modelesque women