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Do you save stuff ‘for best’?

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Merryoldgoat · 11/05/2023 18:23

I used to but after some realising that best hardly ever comes I’ve stopped.

However I fancy a glass of wine and all I have in is a gift which is a £50 bottle of champagne. I’m thinking I could have two glasses tonight, the rest tomorrow and it’s all good.

But also seems wasteful.

WWYD?

YABU - wasteful bint - are you an alcoholic? Save for sharing

YANBU - crack it open and add a penguin for good measure (the only chocolate in the house)

Obviously a lighthearted thread!

OP posts:
whatatool · 11/05/2023 19:55

Best never comes.
Crack on!!

woodhill · 11/05/2023 19:54

Yes, it comes from the front room/parlour mentality and my dm is like that

I try to use my stuff and enjoy it

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 11/05/2023 19:53

I used my Emma Bridgewater teapot jug and sugar bowl at the weekend (coronation tea) and thought why don't I do this more often?

twoshedsjackson · 11/05/2023 19:51

I visited a good friend of mine for posh afternoon tea, not long after she had completed the sad task of winding up her DM's estate - a truly lovely lady, who was always friendly and hospitable to me.
Tea was served in the most beautiful china set, laid out on an equally beautiful tablecloth, and I admired both.
My friend told me, ruefully, that she had found it all when clearing cupboards; there was more of the same, and it had all been carefully saved "for best", and she was unaware of most of it. Her DM always used mugs etc. which had come free from the petrol station, or with a purchase of tea or coffee.
I have made a point, since then, of using the "best" china and silverware regularly!
We're here for a good time, not a long time.

Florissante · 11/05/2023 19:47

TwilightSkies · 11/05/2023 18:26

I used to save things. Now I use and enjoy it all! Life is too short. Light the fancy candles, spray the perfume, drink the posh wine 🍷 😀

I like your attitude!

KohlaParasaurus · 11/05/2023 19:40

I'm glad you're drinking the champagne. There's plenty of champagne on the supermarket shelf if you need to have a bottle to hand.

I used to be a devil for "keeping for best". Then I married a man who, when he gets something nice or something new, just dives straight into it. New clothes are on as soon as he gets home from the shop, nice chocolate is open as soon as it's in his hands. I've become more like him.

Champersandchocolate · 11/05/2023 19:36

No way! Sure I’ve broken a few nice glasses, but we use the “Christmas cutlery” every day! I love it.

MrsMitford3 · 11/05/2023 19:36

My DH died aged 29.

We were still saving our wedding stuff "for best".

Everyday is best!! Drink the wine, wear the clothes, drink out of the glasses!!

BodyKeepingScore · 11/05/2023 19:34

There is nothing wasteful about enjoying every moment of your life as the opportunities arise. The champagne won't taste any differently another day. Enjoy it, for the sheer extravagance of it not being a special occasion :)

Efficaciou5 · 11/05/2023 19:30

Provided it's chilled, open it !

GentlemenPreferBlondes · 11/05/2023 19:25

I knew someone who used to save a lot of things “for best”. Unfortunately she got cancer and died, leaving behind a lot of stuff she’d never used or barely used. Enjoy the champagne, OP!

reelcat · 11/05/2023 19:19

Enjoy!

Trumpton · 11/05/2023 19:09

I had breast cancer and 6 operations and chemo.
Drink the damn champagne! Use the best perfume! Light the expensive candles!
Nothing in this house gets saved for best!

ssd · 11/05/2023 19:05

Enjoy!!!

jay55 · 11/05/2023 19:04

My motto is don't save anything for best.
I like to use things and get the joy.
Hope it's delicious

BarelyLiterate · 11/05/2023 19:04

My grandparents lived in a small terraced house which had a kitchen, dining room & separate lounge. The TV and two armchairs were in the dining room. The lounge was furnished with the ‘best’ carpets & furniture. It was used once a year, on Christmas Day. They also used it once when the priest visited.
I always said I would never live like that, and I never have.

Enjoy your champagne, OP.

YoucancallmeKAREN · 11/05/2023 19:03

The "best" time is now. Drink the Champagne, eat the chocolates, tomorrow is not promised.

AssertiveGertrude · 11/05/2023 18:58

Enjoy 😉
I used to save things for Best But now I dont

MrDrEvilPorkChopToYou · 11/05/2023 18:56

Was it cold?! I would also have opened it but only if it had been in the fridge

Original poster
Merryoldgoat · 11/05/2023 18:53

Looks like I’ve found my people!

I’m sipping whilst crocheting and watching a very bad film (which I’m enjoying).

OP posts:
Pseudonamed · 11/05/2023 18:46

No, could be dead tomorrow. Live for the now and enjoy it while you can.

ShandaLear · 11/05/2023 18:45

I’ve started using every day the Wedgewood cutlery I got as a wedding gift 20 years ago. Wish I’d thought of it sooner.

Lampzade · 11/05/2023 18:44

I stopped saving things ‘for best’ years ago.
I mean , how often does best come along

TheChosenTwo · 11/05/2023 18:44

I’m not someone who saves things ‘for best’. Every day could be our last. Eat and drink the good stuff, wear your nicest perfume/clothes/shoes, drink out of the nicest glasses you have.

uncomfortablydumb53 · 11/05/2023 18:42

Open it and savour every sip I say
Life is for enjoying and the simple pleasures are the best, in my opinion