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Does this sound rude?

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MumTeach1 · 11/05/2023 17:47

I’m just about to send a WhatsApp party invite. My child just started new school last term so I don’t know parents very well. So I’m writing along the lines (this is NOT word for word) of “details of party….I hope you can make it. RSVP date is… if I don’t get a response by the RSVP date I’ll assume your child will NOT be attending x”

the bit I’m unsure of is “if I don’t get a response by x day I’ll assume your child will NOT attend”.

im just worried incase this sounds rude? But I also want to be clear if they don’t respond on time there don’t be a space as I will be inviting cousins, old school friends etc, and places are limiting - I’m obviously not gonna write this out this in the message but just what wrote above in quotes. Rude or not rude?

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determinedtomakethiswork · 11/05/2023 17:55

Please let me know by Date. I can only pay for people who respond on here. There is a long waiting list of cousins wanting to go so if your child wants to go, get your name down now!

Hesma · 11/05/2023 17:53

NOT is extremely rude, not would be much better

lovemelongtime · 11/05/2023 17:52

Don't use the caps on NOT , that is rude. Apart from that it's fine

GreenIsle · 11/05/2023 17:52

How about if your unable to attend then no need to respond. Therefore if they don't respond then they aren't going,

Findyourneutralspace · 11/05/2023 17:51

I’d just say, ‘I’ll be confirming numbers on xx and won’t be able to add extra after that. Please let me know in time so your child doesn’t miss out’

BellaJuno · 11/05/2023 17:50

It’s a bit blunt! I’d change it to something like “please let me know by X date as numbers are tight” then chase up the day after the deadline to non-responders before assuming they’re not coming.

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MumTeach1 · 11/05/2023 17:50

@trisfreya but the venue will allow people to just turn up on the day as it’s that kind of activity. How else can I phrase it?

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QuickNameChangeForMeToday · 11/05/2023 17:50

trisfreya · 11/05/2023 17:48

Maybe add in "as I need to confirm numbers by xxx if I don't hear from you..."

That’s a good shout.

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MumTeach1 · 11/05/2023 17:48

The invite is for whole class. Last school was a nightmare as some people didn’t respond even though I knew them very well! They just turned up on the day and I had already paid for X amount of kids.

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trisfreya · 11/05/2023 17:48

Maybe add in "as I need to confirm numbers by xxx if I don't hear from you..."