Would you knowingly marry an asexual man

No. It isn’t about sex, as I have issues with sex anyway, as a survivor of CSA. It’s created issues with my DH and now we haven’t had a sexual relationship for a very long time. (This isn’t just about sex, we’re also both drained because of years of bringing up 2 adopted DDs, now 14 and 11.)

The reason I’m saying no is because of the revulsion. That would be too damaging for my already fragile self-esteem. Despite our lack of a sexual relationship, my DH is very attentive towards me and I know he loves me very much.

Absolutely not. I have needs.

How many asexual people have you asked? I'm not a fan of men's genitalia, it's hardly an attractive thing to look at, although there's every chance I might be repulsed in person (never seen it!). What cause do you think there is?

Oooooh...am I secretly a lesbian despite never being attracted to any woman ever?

Can people stop calling him gay when she says he's asexual. FFS. Talk about invalidating someone's sexuality.

That's not why people are suggesting he might be gay. It's because the OP says he's repulsed by women's genitalia. IME people who are asexual are indifferent, not repulsed. The repulsion tends to have a different cause.

People always come out with that crap. "Not being sexually attracted to women means he's gay". No it doesn't. Not sexually attracted to women means not sexually attracted to women. Being sexually attracted to men = gay.

There's also nothing wrong with not accepting it. It just means you're not compatible and want different things.

Can people stop calling him gay when she says he's asexual. FFS. Talk about invalidating someone's sexuality.

Does his name begin with T?

Because there's only one asexual man in Britain?

OP, it doesn't matter what other people think, it only matters what you think. He's not going to change his sexuality and it has nothing to do with you. (I'm asexual and Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp and whoever others are attracted to would be a no from me.) If you can't accept it then it's best to end it as it will only drag you down.

Revulsion of female genitalia suggests he's either gay or has experienced sexual abuse. Leave him and find someone who will love you in every way you need to be loved and give him the opportunity to work out why he's repulsed by women so he can address it, either by finding a man he can love or getting therapy for his trauma.

Pre menopause no
Post menopause, probably 😂

Of course not.
The woman needs to understand what asexual means. You can't change someone's sexuality and turn on that kind of feelings because they don't have that.

An asexual woman and asexual man would have a possible future.

Hell no

That's not what asexuality is. It isn't revulsion. Revulsion indicates there is something psychological going on. A phobia. Maybe a traumatic experience in his past, or shame, or guilt.

No of course not. Why would you want that? Are you very desperate not to be single? Why don’t you just call yourself best mates and find a boyfriend so at least you can have sex and think about having kids if you want them (which it sounds like you do, since you’d written it off because ‘he doesn’t want them’).
I’ve met men who aren’t really bothered about sex, they can take it or leave it, mostly as they get older. The only men I know who are repulsed at the idea of having sex with a woman are gay.

No. No. No.

Unless she wants to have her confidence and self-esteem destroyed.

Why would she?

What an astoundingly ignorant and insensitive post.

@SinglePonders was your comment really necessary?
Op has posted about something in her relationship and you've jumped right in asking if you can have her man.

No. I wouldn't want to be with someone who lied to me. Sex is very important to me in a relationship. I can cope with fluctuations and dry spells, but not with no sex ever again. And the revulsion would be soul destroying.

I would also want to know why he lied. Why be dishonest to get into a relationship? Was he just looking for a housekeeper and someone to make life easier, rather than a loving partner? Is he gay and just trying to hide it? Just no.

No. I would assume he’s gay. Totally different if in 60’s, 70’s sex life died a death. That’d be ok.

No.

No. I would not be happy with no sex life in a relationship.

One of the things about abusive relationships is they really lower your standards for future relationships. Don't you think you deserve a relationship with someone who loves all of you? Who would not dupe you into a relationship by lying about their sexuality? Is sexual connection important to you? Do you want a sexless life with no prospect of children? Are you so afraid of being alone you would settle for this?

No, I couldn't do it, knowing how hard I've found it being in an otherwise very happy marriage with a husband with a much lower libido. My self esteem has been battered by sexual rejection, despite him being otherwise physically affectionate and loving. I find it really hard not being desired by my husband. We do have sex occasionally, and when it happens (only ever at his instigation), it's great. But just infrequent.

I know others may not be so fussed about lack of sex, but there's no way I could be with someone who found sex with me repulsive.

Gently I would add the only men I know who are actually repulsed by female genitalia are either gay or victims of csa.

No. I like sex and the lying for years would end all trust.

Now, in a heartbeat. I am more than happy with no sex and would love cuddles that had no expectations attached. When younger no as I wanted kids and sometimes sex.