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AA lied! WWYD?

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misstrot · 09/05/2023 12:48

I am FUMING! Lies! OMG-please read-sorry it's long-I need advice!
DD (20) hit a small piece of debris on motorway on the way home from uni on the motorway. Car seemed ok but next time she took it out it overheated so we called AA. Patrolman said everything was fine-it just needed oil and water (he filled water but we had to go get the oil) Now DD is a bit nervy driving so she asked was he sure it was ok to drive back to uni (2 hr drive) and he assured her-yes. Then I asked him and he said he 'wouldn't send a young girl onto the motorway in the car if he didn't believe the car was perfectly safe and roadworthy' Enter DH who asks him is he sure ok-doesn't need to be checked at the garage as his DD is very precious and he wants her to be safe etc-again AA reiterates 'all safe-all roadworthy-doesn't need anything doing"- I follow him to the van to input my email/sign attendance from and he tells me no need.
You guessed it-she goes back to uni and breaks down on the M4 in bad weather (it takes 5+ hours for them to send a recovery truck and she is traumatised!)
We get the car delivered back here and ask a local garage to come and look. The garage owner states the car had a severe water leak (the AA didn't pressure test the system) which has caused car to overheat and blown the head gasket-so dead. Bearing in mind DD worked and saved up all summer and only bought the car in August- from a reputable National chain and paid £4000 (it's a little mini) she is devastated.
Ok, so we send report to AA and ask for compensation/new (2nd hand) engine for car. They send an 'Independant Assessor' (paid for by AA and does most of his work for AA so not really independent!?) who literally spends 4 mins taking photos -opens the bonnet and says the head gasket has gone and leaves. His report states that it was our fault for driving it as the head gasket had gone (for clarity it was fine before-no smoke from exhaust and only had a full service and 120 point check in August etc)
The AA then state the patrolman informed us that the car was not roadworthy and should be taken to a garage so they don't hold liability!!!!!! WTF! A complete LIE and 360 on what he said to us. Sadly too late to download Ring doorbell footage to support us -as its gone and he never sent us an emailed report stating what he did or advised-normal protocol. Help! What can I do?

OP posts:
LiveAHappyLifeBePositive · 09/05/2023 14:40

It seems to protect ourselves these days we have to video everything on our phones.
Or strap a camera to our heads !

YANBU

LisaVanderpump1 · 09/05/2023 14:40

OP, it sounds like your daughter might not be mature enough to be on the road. She's a nervous driver, "traumatised" by having to wait for a recovery vehicle (not sure I've ever experienced this as anything more than annoying and boring) and seemingly doesn't know the correct thing to do when her car's showing signs of difficulty.

Dulra · 09/05/2023 14:39

littleripper · 09/05/2023 14:27

There are 2 things here:

  1. AA let her down and gave poor advice but are unlikely to be legally negligent
  2. if she is so lacking in resilience that 5 hours on the hard shoulder traumatises her she should not be driving/going out alone and needs therapy

This.
Cars go wrong all the time for lots of different reasons we need to be able to deal with it. I'm sorry your daughter was traumatised but I'm worried about such easily traumatised people driving on motorways!
As for the AA his advice was poor but they're not mechanics as far as I'm aware their job is to get you and possibly your car to a mechanic or home not necessarily to fix your car. He definitely should not have said it was safe to drive but if you had doubts you should have got it checked over by a mechanic.

Whatthediddlyfeck · 09/05/2023 14:38

Whatthediddlyfeck · 09/05/2023 14:37

To be fair this is relevant. There’s such a thing called culpability

And this has quoted the wrong post 🙄. That the driver didn’t pull over when the temp was rising is very relevant

Whatthediddlyfeck · 09/05/2023 14:37

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 09/05/2023 13:36

I see the helpful car expert has logged on to save the day

To be fair this is relevant. There’s such a thing called culpability

Mortimercat · 09/05/2023 14:35

I think you just need to move on, sometimes cars need repairs.

Woopzies · 09/05/2023 14:34

Male101 · 09/05/2023 14:23

Definitely. The responses are 100% based on the assumption I'm male

this is the funniest thing I've seen on MN for quite a while. 😂

Boomboom22 · 09/05/2023 14:34

Bit unfair to male, if she passed her theory test she should know you pull over as soon as the engine start overheating. Anyone who drives must know that. On the it her hand he saud it was safe to drive when it wasn't, how long was she driving before it blew? I think that's the crux of it.

Burnamer · 09/05/2023 14:29

With regards to your actual question though OP, I would get legal advice.

littleripper · 09/05/2023 14:27

There are 2 things here:

  1. AA let her down and gave poor advice but are unlikely to be legally negligent
  2. if she is so lacking in resilience that 5 hours on the hard shoulder traumatises her she should not be driving/going out alone and needs therapy
BonnieGlasses · 09/05/2023 14:25

SargentSagittarius · 09/05/2023 14:11

She was stuck on the side of a motorway alone for five hours. Anything could have happened to her.

FML this reminds me why I never start threads on here.

What exactly could have happened to an able bodied adult with a mobile phone, in full view of constantly passing traffic?

Male101 · 09/05/2023 14:23

Burnamer · 09/05/2023 14:22

@Male101 I think if your username was 2 letters longer you wouldn’t have had the response you’ve had.

@SargentSagittarius but she presumably had a phone and whilst I’m sure it was an unpleasant experience, she could see that it was ultimately going to end ok. To describe is a trauma seems strong.

Definitely. The responses are 100% based on the assumption I'm male

Burnamer · 09/05/2023 14:22

Also, she can’t have been more than 2 hours from OPs house so her parent could have gone and got her if it was that bad.

Burnamer · 09/05/2023 14:22

@Male101 I think if your username was 2 letters longer you wouldn’t have had the response you’ve had.

@SargentSagittarius but she presumably had a phone and whilst I’m sure it was an unpleasant experience, she could see that it was ultimately going to end ok. To describe is a trauma seems strong.

Male101 · 09/05/2023 14:18

SofiaSoFar · 09/05/2023 14:14

Absolutely.

Quite shocking that people are seemingly replying that you need to be a formula one mechanic to know to stop.

It also implies a level of responsibility to the op DD for the car needing a new head gasket, and we cant have now can we lol

SofiaSoFar · 09/05/2023 14:14

GimmeSleep · 09/05/2023 14:08

In Male's defence isn't pulling over if the temp goes up common knowledge? 🤔

Absolutely.

Quite shocking that people are seemingly replying that you need to be a formula one mechanic to know to stop.

SargentSagittarius · 09/05/2023 14:11

Burnamer · 09/05/2023 14:03

Traumatised??

Sorry, I know that’s unhelpful!

She was stuck on the side of a motorway alone for five hours. Anything could have happened to her.

FML this reminds me why I never start threads on here.

bunnyrabbitsandbutterflies · 09/05/2023 14:11

You should have received an email of the report that you signed on your drive. Surely that can be re-sent by AA?

Either way, did the car not indicate it was overheating on the journey back to Uni? The temp gauge would have been off the scale to blow the head gasket.

GimmeSleep · 09/05/2023 14:10

Male101 · 09/05/2023 14:08

Careful I keep getting twaty replies to asking this

😂

Male101 · 09/05/2023 14:08

starfishmummy · 09/05/2023 14:07

So why didn’t she stop as soon as the temperature gauge showed it was rising or the warning light came on?

Careful I keep getting twaty replies to asking this

GimmeSleep · 09/05/2023 14:08

In Male's defence isn't pulling over if the temp goes up common knowledge? 🤔

starfishmummy · 09/05/2023 14:07

So why didn’t she stop as soon as the temperature gauge showed it was rising or the warning light came on?

Appleass · 09/05/2023 14:07

Male101 · 09/05/2023 13:12

Why didn't she pull over when she saw the temp rising?

Really useful response !!

Burnamer · 09/05/2023 14:03

Traumatised??

Sorry, I know that’s unhelpful!

Male101 · 09/05/2023 14:01

peachespeachespeaches · 09/05/2023 13:34

@Male101 both absolutely fantastically helpful responses. Thank god you're here.

Wheres your helpful response then???