Husband and his sisters!

Your husband is a piece of shit. What the actual fuck is wrong with him? His sisters are cunts.

I don’t know what to suggest beyond saying you have to find it in you to leave. This situation is insane.

Cultural issues can be very difficult to get past. He doesn’t support you though which makes it much harder.

I agree that I would allow his family over (it’s his house as well) but go out when they are there. What you do outside your house and who you spend that time with, is up to you and not for him to be controlling over.

I would personally tell him to stop being a controlling bastard! I would tell him you will invite whomever you wish into your home and he can do the same. Don't let him control you. Tell him he can invite his sisters whenever he likes, be polite and say hi, and then that's as much as you need to do. I do not condone his behaviour in the slightest but ultimately you can't stop him from inviting his family over and expect him to feel okay about you inviting yours.

I'm also struggling with their logic... given that they too are daughters??

I've no advice OP, sending love.

I know in some cultures people are more excited about boys than girls but I was shocked to read they'd talked about how you could've got rid of your daughter. I'd be devastated if someone said that about my daughter.

His sisters are the probably, your family is not, and until that changes your sisters are not welcome and your family is, if he has a problem with that tell him to get lost or sort his sisters out. Simple

You haven’t said a word to them in 7 years and yet you alternate christmases?

You can't leave him because he earns lots of money? Is that the only reason? Your poor children.

This relationship is no good for your mental health.The way husband and family behaving towards you is a form of abuse.Not nice for your daughters to grow up around either.Please get some support and move on.Money doesn't buy happiness.

Money isn’t worth being abused like this.
The way he behaves in front of your family is unhinged.
The fact that he wants you to be friends with people who have openly stated you should have aborted your child shows what rotten people they all are.

You are being abused by him and his sisters. Make no mistake if you invite them to your house, they will continue to abuse you - they will have 4 years to make up for.

And they will move to you daughter when she’s old enough to understand them.

Get the support of your family - they have seen how he behaves.

wouldnt your family help you leave?

Your MH and inner strength will multiply ten times over with this arse out of your life.

You sound like you perhaps come from an ethnic minority background -
Asian ? (comment about aborting female foetuses)

Have you looked up female support charities that would understand your cultural background and the specific difficulties you feel are in the way of you leaving this awful marriage ?

How aware are you of your legal rights ? You refer to him as DH so am assuming you are legally married not just religiously ? If so, then you have a legal interest in the property regardless of being on the deeds. A woman's rights charity can help you to leave and hold your hand whilst you leave and guide you through a divorce , financial settlement and child maintenance.

If you would like me to help you find such an organisation, then please DM me.

Invite his sisters. Invite your own sisters to visit at the same time. Leave them to it.

Uh..
Leave this son of a bitch already

He is the issue
Not his sisters or his mum
He is.

Protect you kids!!

There would be no amount of money in the world would make me stay with him.
As for speaking to my family like that, or dictating who could and couldn't visit my home, well ...that would definitely have ended my marriage on the spot.
There is only you who can decide if the money is enough to continue being abused op.

@Mum1135
What do your parents think? Do they care about your situation? Can they help?

Essentially, you are being abused. I don’t think you can change your husband. So I think you need to try and work out what to do now. I fully understand staying because he’s paying for you and your family but you have to work out if this is worth it overall. Would you be happier without him? Could you live with your parents? Did they arrange this marriage?

Goodness me OP there is a lot wrong here, a lot! Not sure if you see that? I think it’s worth you finding a therapist of the same cultural background. If you’re South Asian there is a directory and I’ll post it on here, so many unhealthy or lack of boundaries here. So much toxicity to unpick,

https://southasiantherapists.org/

LTB.

It’s this I’m afraid. The marriage is dead and he’s controlling (and quite frankly unstable by the sounds of it). The sooner you and the kids get out the better.

Please leave this man, he sounds absolutely awful.

There is no future for you and your children with this cunt.

Gather your courage and do the right thing. Leave him.

What the actual hell?!

Ok, I think you're looking for practical solutions. I would invite them round for coffee and cake for one hour (it honestly requires a time limit), and then say that you need to attend an appointment. It doesn't matter if they believe you or not, but I would probably tell them about the 'appointment' in advance.
The problem is, this visit won't be a one-off occasion. Presumably your husband is going to expect you to keep doing it? If they're obnoxious, just say that he has to host their future visits, while you go out.
Finally, do you think his sisters would be more bearable if they visited individually? You could try that. They sound like bitchy teenagers who behave badly when they have an audience.

I wouldn’t be making any food then, if DH wants them round he hosts