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First birthday

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Jamal2003 · 07/05/2023 22:13

So it’s almost my daughters first birthday, we want to have a small tea party with just grandparents and aunties and uncles (that’s already 11 people), one auntie has 4 children, none of who are a similar age to my daughter or who see her often (probably seen her twice). Am I unreasonable to say that we would like her to attend however we can not cater for her children as it’s just a small gathering at home??? There will be no other children attending and I feel having 4 children there brings number up even higher and makes it more difficult

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Wherewithout · 07/05/2023 22:25

To be honest it does seem a bit strange to have a child free child’s birthday party. I think it depends on their ages and how much you want the auntie to come, as she may not be able to come on her own?

TellHimDirectlyInDetail · 07/05/2023 22:24

Not inviting children to weddings is one thing but not inviting them to a one year olds party is just a bit sad to me really. Why exclude the kids and not some of the adults?

KnittingDiva · 07/05/2023 22:20

It depends on her circumstances and age of her children. Do you expect her to get a babysitter so she can attend a 1-year olds party?
Personally am not a big fan of expecting other people to want to celebrate my child's birthday.

FionnulaTheCooler · 07/05/2023 22:18

Depends if you genuinely don't have the space. If you can squeeze them in it's not a big deal to do a few extra sausage rolls and cupcakes for the kids, they are your child's cousins after all. Be prepared for the auntie in question to not turn up if her children aren't included.