Council House advice

Just been looking for same kind of advice and scared of my replied now. I feel you have been attacked on this one. I totally underage and anyone who doesn't needs some compassion. Not every size fits all. Hope you get sorted.

I have health issues with my daughter and as she has grown it really is needing more space. I am waiting on a letter from her consultant. She is hard work . We had to make her a bedroom out the back living room which does work but not long term. We have a yearly check soon and just know they will say to move back . Its so hard

I suppose your husband working does change things though.

You definitely need to speak to some sort of adviser in the flesh.

If your in-laws kick you out, the council should put you in temporary accommodation but that would be worse than your current situation from the sounds of it

The point of temporary accomodation is that it's temporary though, it's not forever, and God willing after that the person gets their own permanent space.

@Akkhan94 We're quite lucky in Birmingham that we have quite a lot of council housing compared to most places.

The medical points are allocated by you showing why your child's health means your family needs extra space, and more urgently.

Definitely claim DLA for your LO then you have more proof of the extent of his disability.

But you should be able to count as homeless really as your nuclear family doesn't have a home.

I work in a related area.

First of all you need to apply for dla for your son. Don't do this alone - get help from a specialist at CAB or a welfare advisor. Proitise this - do it this week. Waiting time to get this assessed is very long so you need to do it asap.

Then you need to apply for carers allowance for yourself based on the caring needs of your son.

Then you need to have a frank conversation with your husband about your household income & outgoings to ensure you fully understand what your financial situation is. This will all need to be shared with the council/housing association before you will be accepted as a tenant as they will need to be clear that you can afford any property they let to you. It can be very indepth and you need to start prwparing for it now as you seem to have a complicated family set up. They expect that you are not paying for any wider family commitments (who is the tutoring for?) Your husband will be expected to be working full time and claiming UC as a top up if appropriate. Again, a welfare advisor from your council or cab can help with this - you need to maximise your income.

You also need to arrange a meeting with your sons school that he's starting in September so you can discuss how his diagnosis effects him & any adaptions he may need (the earlier this is addressed the better).

None of this will specifically help with being re housed but it should make your current set up more comfortable for you and give you more options.

Good luck

Depending on area 'the oo might not be able to apply to indvidual.housing association,s where.I live you have to go through one register for all.social housing

Don't be 'fake thrown out'.

It's fraud and you could be imprisoned for it.

Any temporary housing will be checked to see that you are actually living there. You might be in a grotty hotel for months and months. You won't be able to have visitors or stay at your inlaws.

Of course, people plan to have a disabled child who turns their life upside down. 😠

Enough of the daily mail bile.

OFF not of!

Well, that’s me and me the whole of the BBC pissing of @PonyPatter44 !

Coronated?? The word is actually crowned.

You better tell the BBC as they have said it a thousand times in the last few days.

No, coronated is grammatically correct. (Is this REALLY what you took from this thread?) Just to divert the thread even more, would you like a recommendation for a quality dictionary?

@PonyPatter44 Apparently both are ok.

Someone being coronated would be someone going through/having gone through a coronation, grammatically, of course.

Coronated?? The word is actually crowned.

@EmmatheStageRat yes but that isn't really relevant or helpful to the OPs situation right now.

Well, there is plenty of free stuff when it comes to prime ministers/former prime ministers - oh, and about to be coronated royal family members.

@Lemoncakefortea how do you know their financial situation when their children were born?
And how were they to know that one child would have a disability meaning one parent can't/it's difficult to work.
Also council housing is not "free" 🙄

Fucking hell, this is an absolutely despicable response: how cruel! Do you have personal experience of parenting severely disabled children 24/7? (I imagine that you will reply yes anyway…)

How stressful OP. I know all councils are different but maybe getting all the evidence you can for council. GP and Paediatrician letters and also saying re overcrowding. I would really hope that moves you up bands. It is extreme but if the family you live with say you have to go that can move things on..BUT might mean emergency accomodation which probably wouldn't be ok for you all. I wish you all the best.

Could the inlaws be asked not to have so many people over or the boy be taken elsewhere when guests come? I live in an Indian area and people opposite live with the husband's remaining parent and the non working wife, but they have quite a lot of space and seem to be happy so I suppose it just depends on the overall situation.

The UK has the highest tax burden for 70 years on tax payers so if you can afford not to take state housing/benefits then that is much better for those of us who are forced to work full time to help through our massive taxes those unable to work.

I suppose your name is 'akkhan' but it's with 2 'k's. I thought it was a character out of a game or something.

I was homeless twice before I eventually quickly got a place the second time.

@Akkhan94 This is a bit underhand but could you be fake-thrown out (or real if you feel that way) by your husband? Then turn up to the council saying you're homeless, queue up. You'd be put in temporary housing while they decide what to do. Initially it can be unpleasant in B&Bs or whatever, but then they moved me to a temporary flat while I waited for a permanent one, which was fine.

People are not supposed to do this but they can't prove it.

Then after you move, your husband could join you.

I suppose the problem is that as it's your in-laws house they would have to agree to be in on the plan. And they mightn't want you to leave because of all you do around the house etc and how useful that is to them.

The PP is wrong about people on UC not having much luck with the social housing here. Virtually everyone who applies for it will be on benefits.

I suppose there are registered social landlords that are private individuals and they'll be like any other landlord and not want people on benefits really (which is discrimination if the family have a disabled member of course, but that's by the by.)

But things like housing associations will be mainly applied for by people on benefits (though I know HAs etc like to try and have a mix of people.) get on the list/apply for absolutely everything.

@Akkhan94 I think if you private rent what you can afford, you could probably still stay on the council list as band C overcrowding due to needing more space than the average family because of your son's disability.

The thing with agenesis of the corpus collosum as I've understood it in the past from reading, is some people with it have no extra problems than anyone else whereas some will have major problems. So you have to demonstrate the level of impairment. If you get DLA that will help prove that.

I got an ok private rental in the past which was previously a council flat and the estate agents were laid back about who they allowed there for that reason (I'm disabled and unable to work pretty much for that.)

Other places you can private rent @Akkhan94 are over to the North of town I think. A lot of places there are cheaper. City Road etc etc. They're not the nicest of areas but would be a space of your own.

Nothing anyone's said is about your surname having Khan in it BTW. Seeing as how we're not psychic and wouldn't know what your name is.

I think a lot of us understand that Asian women sometimes end up in this cultural family set up, but most of us would have nothing but empathy for someone in that situation, because we can only imagine what that situation might be like, and even imagining it sounds hard work enough, unless you happen to have parents in law that are actual saints, and even then it'd tend to be more cramped than most of us would enjoy.

I haven't read the entire thread and I've named changed for this. My advice may not be that helpful as your situation is somewhat different but many years ago my partner (already a Council tenant) was living in an overcrowded 1 bed council flat with his 2 small children - his local Councillor happened to be canvassing and asked how many occupants were living there. He told my partner he would put his situation before an "emergency" housing committee, which he did. My partner was then given one offer only of a house which he took. The point being it can't hurt to ask your local Councillor as they may possibly be able to help you if they are on the local housing committee.

My annoyance with posts like this are yet again people having children the can’t afford. You need to increase your income with an evening shift or weekend job. There’s no magic solution to free stuff.