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MissyMissMs · 02/05/2023 00:11

I've got a final exam tomorrow morning and im completely terrified. I studied like I normally do but I know absolutely nothing and Im going to do so shit. I tried my best and I studied every single minute I could but im so stupid and nothing has sunk in, there is no way I'll be able to pass

This exam has a huge weighting towards my final degree score and if I fail I won't be able to graduate, I will have to resit in the summer. I have a job lined up for after graduation and I am due to start in June. If I fail my exam tomorrow and have to resit it in the summer before I can graduate my job offer will be withdrawn.

Im so unbelievably scared. Im always nervous but this is next level nerves. I couldn't keep anything down today and kept throwing up because im so worried.

everyone in my family is so smart and then there's me. Im going to let down my extended family but most of all I'll be letting down my parents. They've sacrificed so much for me and yet I'm still completely thick. I really want to make them proud and I dont want to let them down but im going to do so badly tomorrow and im going to completely fail at everything and let everyone down

I was going over my notes one last time and it made me realise how little I know. I know nobody can help me but I just wanted to get this all off my chest before I cry myself to sleep about it. Everything always seems to scary at night and I feel so alone and scared about what's going to happen tomorrow

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electriclight · 03/05/2023 12:43

Well done op.

YouCould · 03/05/2023 12:36

MissyMissMs · 03/05/2023 10:38

Hi- thanks for all the lovely messages ❤️ the exam was very tough but I surprised myself that some of my knowledge came back to me during it and I knew more than I realised. I had worked myself into an awful state before it and was convinced I knew nothing! I don’t think I’ve got a good score and I don’t know if I’ve passed it, but it’s over now so I’m not going to dwell on it 👍🏻 thanks again everyone.

That doesn't sound too bad! Hopefully you have done enough to pass. 🤞🏻 good luck

Royalbloo · 03/05/2023 11:54

Well done for doing your best. I hope you smashed it! X

MissyMissMs · 03/05/2023 10:38

Hi- thanks for all the lovely messages ❤️ the exam was very tough but I surprised myself that some of my knowledge came back to me during it and I knew more than I realised. I had worked myself into an awful state before it and was convinced I knew nothing! I don’t think I’ve got a good score and I don’t know if I’ve passed it, but it’s over now so I’m not going to dwell on it 👍🏻 thanks again everyone.

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padsi1975 · 02/05/2023 20:31

How did it go op?

ActDottie · 02/05/2023 20:27

Just have a nice evening, no more study. I’ve sat many exams at a level, university and also for my professional qualification. There comes a point I find where I tell myself what will be will be. It took me many exams to learn to just trust myself and not study late the night before or wake up early to cram some bits on. But honestly just have a relaxed evening tonight you’ve done what you can now and I’m sure you’ll surprise yourself with how it goes tomorrow.

Gizlotsmum · 02/05/2023 20:06

Take a break. Do something that relaxes you. If you genuinely know nothing ( not that I think you do) cramming all night won’t help. Assume you know all you will know now, relax, be refreshed for tomorrow. Or take a small break eat and list everything you do know afterwards. Can you check in with others on your course?

Fairowing · 02/05/2023 20:02

Hope it went well, Op and you’re treating yourself tonight.
For what it’s worth your classmates are probably thinking and feeling similar. I have just done my dissertation and I thought I would fail, be the worst, all that’s bad. Turns out I was in a better position that a lot of my classmates and I think majority of the class ended up with some form of extension.
Also I’m not sure how your exam is graded but it might be done on a grading curve so it might all depend on how your classmates have scored and national scores so even with some mistakes you might end up with a really good grade.

Damnedidont · 02/05/2023 19:55

When all else fails just play around with the info in the question - you'd be surprised at how often you just "fall over" the answer

Damnedidont · 02/05/2023 19:53

The good news is that you get marks for moving towards an answer even if you don't actually get there. I found that when all else fails start doing anything you can with the info you have - you'd be surprised at how often you "fall over" the answer.

Royalbloo · 02/05/2023 19:29

And read the question more than twice x

Royalbloo · 02/05/2023 19:29

Breathe!!!

Believe in yourself and TRY!!!! If you have tried really hard and don't pass, you've still done YOUR best and I would be extremely proud of you if you were my daughter, regardless of the outcome Flowers

custardbear · 02/05/2023 19:17

How did you get on OP?

YouCould · 02/05/2023 18:46

How did it go OP? I hope you have a nice relaxing evening ahead of you.

Whochangedmynamec · 02/05/2023 18:44

It’s ok. The answers will pop into your head. Try some breathing exercises and relax. Focus on what you will do after the exam. Visualise yourself doing well and knowing the answers.

You can retake if the worst comes to the worst. But, the fear is your biggest weakness. Be bold, be brave and understand the worry is not helping you.

GinaGina22 · 02/05/2023 18:40

I studied maths also and I found it so hard. I didn't understand the vast majority of it. It used to wind me up when people would say that I will be fine in the exams and that I know more than I think etc. because I genuinely knew nothing. It's not like other subjects where you can write a bit and hope that you're including the right stuff. If you don't know it, you don't know it! I still have nightmares about my degree and I graduated nearly a decade ago 😱 So your exam is over and you may have scraped through. You may have failed terribly. But either way, it's OVER! Hope you're okay. PS. You've let nobody down. Life doesn't work like that. You know that I'm sure but it is good to hear an external voice reassure you if it ;)xxxx

electriclight · 02/05/2023 18:29

I always catastrophise before an exam too. It usually goes much better than I expected. I hope you slept, got through it and feel relieved.

LaLaLaNotListeningNotListening · 02/05/2023 18:26

How do you feel it went today? @MissyMissMs
I hope it wasn’t as bad as you feared.

Murdoch1949 · 02/05/2023 05:21

If you've done the revision it will come back to you. You're panicking and that's why you think you've not retained the information. Have a good breakfast, RELAX, take water and kick ass.

Mortimercat · 02/05/2023 05:13

MissyMissMs · 02/05/2023 00:29

thank you all so much, im going to listen to that video right now, I've worked myself into a right state and can't sleep.

the subject is maths, its my last year of my degree hence the added pressure x

Hardly anybody fails a degree and in any case no one exam ever has as much weighting as you are suggesting. Not even maths (which is my degree subject). You will be fine.

WeAreTheHeroes · 02/05/2023 05:08

Echoing pps that I hope you've gone to bed and are asleep. You cannot be thick or you wouldn't be studying maths at uni. Simple fact. Stop comparing yourself to others and try to stay calm. Good luck for the exam. Just take things slow and steady. Read through the whole paper before deciding what to answer first if that's possible with the exam format. Tackle your second best question first then your best one (your brain will be fully engaged then and you'll maximise your chances of a high score).

Emelene · 02/05/2023 02:50

Hope you’re having a good sleep OP. Cheering you on for tomorrow.
If you feel like this again I’d read up on imposter syndrome!
You’ve worked really hard so you can be proud of whatever happens. All the best.

Hottoffeesauce · 02/05/2023 01:24

Warm bath, hot drink, lovely smelling something eg spritz of perfume or some body oil, set your alarm and bed! You have done all you can and now your body needs to rest and recharge itself. Please stop the worrying, you know it doesn't help and your poor brain needs a rest before tomorrow. Your family won't judge you, they want you to be happy and content. Mental health is so important and right now you need to take care of yours. Sweet dreams and lots of sleep!

YouCould · 02/05/2023 01:13

TBF Maths is hard! Where are you studying? Even if you did fail if it's only one reset why do you think your job offer would be withdrawn? I've known a few people get 2.2s instead of 2.1s and not be chucked off their grad jobs. One was for an accounting firm and another was aeronautical engineering so not exactly lightweight jobs.

Do you normally get very stressed with exams? Or are you feeling worse than normal? Hopefully you will feel better in the morning. Once you are busy getting to the exam centre you might feel a bit better. The night before is always the worse.

I hope you get the best questions. Good luck. 🍀

Aweebitpainful · 02/05/2023 00:50

*set your alarm now

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