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To just be a bit side eye at this comment?

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raydellsna · 01/05/2023 23:35

Out having a drink with a friend yesterday when she noticed she had a knot in her hair and laughed about it and said “oh I never brush my hair, my boyfriend brushes my hair for me”

She has no disability that prevents her from brushing her hair and seemingly managed to do it just fine in the 30 years she didn’t know him.

Aibu to think it’s odd a grown woman with no disability has her boyfriend brush her hair?

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FarmGirl78 · 03/05/2023 12:03

LobsterBiscuit · 02/05/2023 08:21

Silly Billy and cheeky monkey? 🙊

Let me guess, teaching assistant in a nursery?

I assumed 70+ aged woman. That's how they talk to me at church in a "oh you young people!" voice, when I'm actually mid 40s. 🤣

ilovesooty · 03/05/2023 02:56

raydellsna · 01/05/2023 23:59

Don’t gaslight me into thinking I’m weird you cheeky monkey.

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FFS. Isn't "gaslight" a bit dramatic?

Perhaps her husband has a hair fetish. So what?

gelliprintcess · 03/05/2023 02:29

It's a bit odd to mention (and does come across as a brag of some sort). I do love the sensation of having my hair gently brushed, but I brush it myself except occasionally, because I doubt DH would appreciate me asking him to do it every day!

There's nothing odd about having someone you love brush your hair, particularly when compared to all the objectively disgusting things that partners and spouses do to/with/for one another.

Downunderduchess · 03/05/2023 01:59

I would think it was a bit of a brag about her boyfriend, letting people know how great he is (in her eyes). People are sometimes weird about relationships, particularly if they haven’t been in one for long etc. e.g. prefacing every conversation with we or my boyfriend blah blah.

The people being snide to the OP don’t surprise me, it’s business as usual for MN. I don’t get the need for it, but it’s rife.

MattTebbuttsDenimShirt · 03/05/2023 01:49

Stripycatz · 01/05/2023 23:52

Dh brushed my hair once. It was just after an emergency section and I was out of it on morphine. He wanted to take a photo of me and baby.

When I saw the photos (which had already been distributed to family) he'd managed to make me look like an early Ken Barlow.

🤣 I can imagine that!

A nice middle part - curtains, or, a side part with just a little brushed across the forehead. She'll love that 🤣.

wildinthecountry · 02/05/2023 08:29

HepzibahSmyth · 01/05/2023 23:55

And you needed advice from internet strangers about this why?

It is amazing what people make threads about really , I'm assuming they are just bored . Anyway here I am commenting on a thread about nothing really .

CreationNat1on · 02/05/2023 08:26

OP is coming a cross as very policing and resentful in general. Lighten up!

LobsterBiscuit · 02/05/2023 08:21

Silly Billy and cheeky monkey? 🙊

Let me guess, teaching assistant in a nursery?

Arginalia · 02/05/2023 07:45

It sounds like a nice, sensual thing they do together - I doubt you'd have batted an eyelid if she'd had tense shoulders and gone on to say her boyfriend regularly gives her a massage.

QueefQueen80s · 02/05/2023 07:35

@raydellsna Were
We're all different I guess.

LBFseBrom · 02/05/2023 00:46

I don't think it is that unusual for a male partner to brush a woman's hair. Some like to do things like that. I doubt that she never brushes or combs her own hair but he probably does most of it.

How nice, wish mine had.

PinkButtercups · 02/05/2023 00:24

Mydcchangedmyusername · 02/05/2023 00:12

Ooh OP is calling names <checks clock> I'm here to stay.

🍿 🍿

😂

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 02/05/2023 00:21

My partner brushes my hair. I love it. I find it super relaxing. It is one of my favourite feelings.

Mydcchangedmyusername · 02/05/2023 00:12

Ooh OP is calling names <checks clock> I'm here to stay.

🍿 🍿

TillyTollyTully · 02/05/2023 00:11

Each to their own bla bla bla...but yes, it seems odd to me.

Dh has cut my hair for me before and dyed it...but only because I was finding it difficult to do the back. I can't imagine getting him or anyone else to regularly brush my hair, why would you?

Actually, I lie. Ds3 likes to brush my hair. But y'know he's 5...

TheFormidableMrsC · 02/05/2023 00:09

I had an ex who liked to brush my hair. I didn't think it was weird, I think we both found it quite relaxing. Never occurred to me it would be viewed as strange. It also didn't mean I didn't brush my own hair. Each to their own 🤷🏻‍♀️

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raydellsna · 02/05/2023 00:05

QueefQueen80s · 02/05/2023 00:03

Ex used to brush mine after my shower, it was part of our closeness. It's far more pleasurable when someone else does it!

I have mine brushed every 2-3 weeks by the hairdresser. No pleasure in it and I’m paying her.

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raydellsna · 02/05/2023 00:04

Iwantamarshmallowman · 01/05/2023 23:45

.. so you just had to rush home and put it on mumsnet.. I think you need to get out more op.

Oh you silly billy, this was yesterday as stated in the OP, but sorry Sophia Ritchie, I’ll try and get out more despite posting about a time I was out in the last 24 hours, thanks for the life advice xox

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QueefQueen80s · 02/05/2023 00:03

Ex used to brush mine after my shower, it was part of our closeness. It's far more pleasurable when someone else does it!

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raydellsna · 01/05/2023 23:59

NeatCompactSleeper · 01/05/2023 23:57

It's a bit 'out there' yes, but if they're happy then they're happy.

It is a bit weird but you starting this thread about it is even weirder I think.

I mean, why? Confused

Don’t gaslight me into thinking I’m weird you cheeky monkey.

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switswooo · 01/05/2023 23:58

HepzibahSmyth · 01/05/2023 23:55

And you needed advice from internet strangers about this why?

And you felt the need to comment on the thread why?

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raydellsna · 01/05/2023 23:57

HepzibahSmyth · 01/05/2023 23:55

And you needed advice from internet strangers about this why?

Not sure where any advice was sought?

But also when do a majority of threads posted actually really need to be posted for the internet strangers?

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NeatCompactSleeper · 01/05/2023 23:57

It's a bit 'out there' yes, but if they're happy then they're happy.

It is a bit weird but you starting this thread about it is even weirder I think.

I mean, why? Confused

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raydellsna · 01/05/2023 23:55

Notimeforaname · 01/05/2023 23:37

But maybe he does brush her hair...

I mean yeah probably, but of an odd thing to lie about. It’s just … odd.

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HepzibahSmyth · 01/05/2023 23:55

And you needed advice from internet strangers about this why?

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