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Did I say something wrong?

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DollyPlop · 01/05/2023 07:20

I’m a community nurse. Last night I was doing an out of hours shift and I was paired up with a young HCA.
As we drove off I tried to get conversation going and asked her where she worked previously, she said this was her first job so I said “oh right, are you doing your nursing?”

Well this seemed to really piss her off!! She replied “doing MY nursing? Errr no … I’m working as a HCA”. I was a bit taken back as she seemed so offended! So I just said “oh it’s just that a lot of people train to be a nurse whilst working as a HCA, I thought maybe that was what you were doing” so she said “why would you assume that? Not everyone wants to be a nurse”

We didn’t talk much after that!! Did I say something wrong??

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Catlord · 01/05/2023 07:46

She was very spiky but it might be a point of contention for her- didn't get in, other commitments mean she can't train, or was just ungracious about saying that she's happy as a HCA, thanks. Rude either way. A lot of HCAs are doing their nurse training so it's not an unusual question.

Fatandfunny · 01/05/2023 07:41

I’m not in the industry but I don’t understand why you assumed she was only doing this job as she was training to be a nurse. Plenty of folks work in health care without being a nurse. You surely know that.

PaigeMatthews · 01/05/2023 07:41

Idontgiveagriffindamn · 01/05/2023 07:24

Possibly the assumption that what she’s doing isn’t enough and she has to do something better.
maybe it’s a sore point for her.

Id say this.

MintyBinty · 01/05/2023 07:27

She was rude. It’s not you.

Ladybug14 · 01/05/2023 07:25

You made an assumption and your implications was that it could only be a stepping stone to another job

It may be that she's tried to become a nurse and has been turned down

Idontgiveagriffindamn · 01/05/2023 07:24

Possibly the assumption that what she’s doing isn’t enough and she has to do something better.
maybe it’s a sore point for her.

Yogameup · 01/05/2023 07:24

She sounds odd. You said nothing wrong.

shakeitoffsis · 01/05/2023 07:21

No, she's a miserable git!

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