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Unprofessional?

38 replies

Greenpasture · 28/04/2023 19:31

I attended a job interview on Thursday morning, and as I left, the interviewer said she would: "definitely be deciding this afternoon, so I will be phoning you by the end of the day."

I didn't hear anything that day, or today.

I'm really put off this company now, AIBU to think it's quite unprofessional to not follow up on what you say you're going to do?

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Jibo · 28/04/2023 20:32

You sound a bit high-maintenance. Assume the best of people, not the worst. Follow up nicely and see what happens. For all you know the woman could have been taken ill or had an accident!

ChessieFL · 28/04/2023 20:14

They’re waiting for the first choice to give a definitive answer. They can’t give you a definite answer yet so that’s why they haven’t rung you.

Restinggoddess · 28/04/2023 20:12

I agree this is unprofessional
Yes things ‘come up’ but they should have got a message to you - I was always aware when interviewing etc that the interviewee had been through enough with out added drama
Unless there is an amazing reason - that you accept - this is a red flag for how they treat staff

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Greenpasture · 28/04/2023 20:06

strawberryjeans · 28/04/2023 20:01

I agree, it’s unprofessional. Takes 30 seconds of your day to type an email sending apologies that you haven’t yet got round to it but will be in touch next week

Exactly!

Things absolutely happen and get in the way - unexpected aspects I can completely understand. But good communication is so important and it would take no time to phone or email and say 'we're still deciding'.

I would have no issue if they said they needed X amount of time - but saying "I'll be phoning you by the end of the day" and then not following up at all is unprofessional.

If I did that to a client as part of my job, I'd be rightly pulled up on it!

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Greenpasture · 28/04/2023 20:03

cruisebaba1 · 28/04/2023 19:37

That’s extremely bad form . But perhaps if this is how they run the business , you wouldn’t enjoy working there? .x

It really is bad form I'm glad you agree!

I value myself as an employee and I think if this is how they're happy to treat potential employees, it's not a culture I want to be involved in.

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strawberryjeans · 28/04/2023 20:01

I agree, it’s unprofessional. Takes 30 seconds of your day to type an email sending apologies that you haven’t yet got round to it but will be in touch next week

Escapefromhell · 28/04/2023 20:01

it is usual for recruiters to contact the successful candidate first, and obtain a definite answer as to whether they accept the offer of a job. If the preferred candidate declines the offer, they contact the next preferred candidate… and so on. After that has been done they contact the unsuccessful candidates. This can take days if people don’t respond quickly.

Hold on in there, you might get an offer.

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Greenpasture · 28/04/2023 20:00

LubaLuca · 28/04/2023 19:36

Things happen, priorities change. Seems a bit dramatic to start going off working for the company because of a relatively short delay.

I understand it's hard when you're just waiting for a yes or no so you can move on with your plans, but would this really cause you to refuse the role if they offered it? Unlikely.

After not hearing anything today I certainly won't be accepting if they did offer. They were my first choice, but I do have another offer on the table and being true to your word is very important to me.

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blueshoes · 28/04/2023 19:41

Is she going to be your line manager if you get the job? More important if she is but not so important if it is HR or recruitment.

You got to be more patient and grow a thick skin. Sometimes they are interested but you are not the first choice so they want to keep you warm. You can still get the job. Try not to think about.

TeenDivided · 28/04/2023 19:38

It gives you a perfect 'in' to contact them, say you haven't heard as promised, but you are very keen.

cruisebaba1 · 28/04/2023 19:37

That’s extremely bad form . But perhaps if this is how they run the business , you wouldn’t enjoy working there? .x

Anon1368 · 28/04/2023 19:36

Something probably came up. I wouldn't hold it against them. Have you definitely not had my missed calls?

LubaLuca · 28/04/2023 19:36

Things happen, priorities change. Seems a bit dramatic to start going off working for the company because of a relatively short delay.

I understand it's hard when you're just waiting for a yes or no so you can move on with your plans, but would this really cause you to refuse the role if they offered it? Unlikely.