Drinking before school pick up

Why would a teacher be smelling your breath?! You arent working or driving.

Where Im from, drinking at lunch is 100% acceptable, even if you are working.

In fact, it is pretty common to drink with every meal.

Enjoy your cocktails, OP! No one cares!!!

Can i come?

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I think a drink is fine. I don't drink but I would think depending on your tolerance a drink or 2 is fine.

I used to teach in France and the teachers had red wine at lunch followed by espresso!

A sociable drink at lunch on a friday is very different to sitting at home having one by yourself at lunchtime on a weekday. Technically, it could be the same units but it's the motivation which is the concern.

Totally agree and wouldn't think should be a problem for the vast majority in the UK. I just think that "abroad" includes places where it very much doesn't fit in so a bit more detail might be useful. I've lived in conservative communities in the US where I expect this would have been frowned upon, but I'm sure there are other areas in the same country where it would be perfectly usual. Again the OP has implied it's within the cultural norm where she is which has likely influenced the answers given if that makes sense.

Well I wouldn't call a single glass of wine one that could be four unit, obviously you don't drink out of a glass that looks like a bowl if you're trying to drink 1 or 2 units.
bottles of wine have the units and percentage written on them. Cocktails do not: they taste sweet (usually) and the alcohol content is ambiguous.

I'd love to do that

What a load of nonsense. A cocktail can be two units and a glass of wine four.

I think the fact that it is weekly is too much - drinking should never be a requirement of a lunch with a friend! I would do it, but I should only have the alcoholic version now and again. How does it affect you for the rest of the afternoon? Are you still able to engage with dc? Big difference to between a single glass of wine and a cocktail!

Mumsnet is not a hive mind, of course there are different reactions to different threads. There are tens of thousands of posters, probably more.

Sounds great to me.

Absolutely fine. I have a group of friends who I have lunch with the last Friday of every term and a few drinks before pick up.

I'm really friendly with one of the school mums who was in the same class as dd2. We live pretty much outside the school gates. We would often have a catch up on an afternoon and have a couple of drinks before pick up. Neither of us got drunk and sometimes we'd take the girls back to play and we'd have another drink because we hadn't finished putting the world to rights. Although it was pretty embarrassing when a teacher told us my friend's daughter had said v is for vodka when they were practicing the alphabet 🤦‍♀️

I don't see any problem of having a drink or two as long as you aren't drunk and you don't need to drive. Life is too short to miss out on cocktails and lunch with friends.

"From what you've said I think it probably does fit in with local culture so no problem."
I live in England. Going out for lunch on a Friday certainly "fits in with local culture"🤣

A glass, walking not driving, all fine.

Ha not offended in the slightest, just pointing out that just because you are in the sun and having alfresco dining etc, whatever you are drinking before you pick up the kids is the same as if someone is sitting on a council flat having a couple of cans first the going down the school in a a onesie. Of course wearing designer gear makes it more acceptable? It’s the same units. Do it if you want? I couldn’t give a shit, just drop the double standards ….

"Abroad" is a big and varied place. I can't see anything wrong with it tbh as not driving but really how it is interpreted depends on the specifics of the culture wherever you are OP. Middle east - probably not a great idea, Mediterranean Europe probably perfectly Ok. From what you've said I think it probably does fit in with local culture so no problem.

Thank you. It was. I didn't have class (or class hate) in mind when I wrote that comment.

That sounds lovely OP. Go and enjoy yourself!

What?! I wouldn’t give this a second thought? One of our favourite things to do is to take a day off work (when the child is in nursery), go out and do all the things we can’t (galleries, leisurely shopping, then a slap up lunch and share a bottle of wine, maybe even have a digestive). I didn’t realise this was a prisonable offence?

I can't imagine doing it. I'd never relax enough to enjoy it if I knew I had kids to contend with afterwards.

It’s because she is abroad. It’s culture, innit

😁 exactly my thoughts. This is a fickle, fickle place.

OP - it sounds lovely! I'm sure, as PP have said, as long as you don't turn up hammered, it will be fine. Enjoy!

I voted YABU because I think it’s fine but looking at the results was I supposed to vote YANBU if I think it’s fine? 🤔

Anyway, it’s fine. Few things are better than a mojito on a summer afternoon!

I read Pizzas comment as referring to quantity I.e. one or two drinks fine (even if it’s cheap!), totally sloshed not fine (even if it’s posh cocktails!)

Goodness me is MN unclenching ?? Is it not the mantra that any consumption of alcohol beyond a small glass of Prosecco at Christmas... is tantamount to a life forever lost to alcoholism and child neglect . ?
A COCKTAIL?
ON A FRIDAY LUNCHTIME ?
BEFORE PICKING UP SOLE CHARGE OF KIDS ?

Give your head a wobble and report yourself to social services at once .