Large age gap relationships

Um no, I've seen interviews with them both quite to the contrary. Just have a look on TikTok. She gives off creepy vibes.

18 years gap here DH is 72 and I'm 54. Been married 33 years, its worked for us however he didn't have any children from his previous marriage and we have 1 child together.

A friend of mine met her husband when she was 25 and he was 51. They’ve been married 7 years or so now and are so happy, they’ve got mutual interests and lots of mutual friends. I never thought big age gaps really worked in reality but they have proved me wrong.

I'm 16 years older than my husband and we've been together almost 20 years now. I give zero fucks if other people don't like it, it works for us.

Yes I read that too.

I was 17, he was 46.

He horrifically abused me, and when i finally fled to a refuge with our daughter it started coming out that he had been arrested multiple times for rape, sexual assault, and a previous girlfriend had commited suicide to the abuse.

He also sexually abused our daughter from the ages of 0-3 and is a pedophile.

Im still living with the damage he caused us both.

He has since decided he is a woman.

I don’t think it matters so long as there is acceptance of likely outcomes. My DH is older - he will retire well before me, I will likely be his carer and he will likely pass before me (although equally planning for the opposite). But the up side is I would likely have been carer for a man closer to my age but would also be in need of care. Hopefully I will be young and fit enough to manage. If I outlive him by a lot then yes that will be difficult but that is true of any partnership.

My DH is 11 years older than me. We have been married 33 years this year. I’m now 61 and DH is 72. There is no issue with the age gap. He is still fit, looks great for his age (better than some men younger than him), full of enthusiasm for life, loves to travel and although officially retired is still working as an academic expert his field because he loves it.

26 years, i was 20. together for 19.
Zero regrets

I don't have any feelings really on what other people do in their lives as long as it's what they want and they are consenting adults.

One of my sisters is 60 and her dh is 76. She moved him with him when she was almost 16 and he was 31. I don't think there was any doubt at all that she saw him as a way out of our shit home life and was looking for some security. But it worked. They've had a really lovely life together together, 3 children, 9 grandchildren. They are a big, close, loving and happy family.

The age gap was shocking at the time, mum called the police and there was a lot of fall out because of it. But it's stood the test of time. I know far more people in relationships where they are the same or close in ages where the female is being coerced, bullied, and generally treated badly.

My relationship age gap is not quite as big as your state 20+ , my dh is nearly 13 years older than me and we met when I was 24 and dh 36. It’s worked for us for coming up to a decade now. I guess you just can’t go through life wondering if that person will pass before you / end up sick. That can easily happen to a couple who are a similar age. You just have to take life as it comes. I guess that’s the attitude to most age gap couples?

Of course there will always be examples where the older partner is healthier and more active than the younger. But in general, where the age gap is such that one partner could be the other’s parent, there will be problems as time goes by, especially if they have children.

Women who are coping with an adolescent child and a man of retirement age with the usual health and fatigue problems are not to be envied, imho.

Because they apparently didn’t date until he was older. They first met when he was her student but the official line is that the relationship came significantly later.

My husband is 20 + years older than I am. Been together many years and are very happy with a growing family. It boils my blood to read comments such as why do men not go for women their own age. My husband is a wonderful man and could quite frankly have his pick of women. We are together because we have lots in common and our different strengths compliment one another perfectly. There is no power dynamic, I’m very much boss because I’m the more rational one and think things through logically. Does the age gap bring its challenges… of course… but it’s very helpful sometimes as well. We make a great quiz time with our knowledge across the decades!

Sorry to clarify- he's over a decade younger than me.

I'd be as judgy as anyone if I hadn't gone out one night and met someone I instantly and totally clicked with. I was hoping to meet someone a bit older than me if I'm honest but he can't help his age 🤷🏻‍♀️ and why throw away something wonderful because of what ifs?

I posted above at 10:45 👍

I know it's random, I'm not saying it's not, it's just an example

16/17 years between me and my husband. But I was 24 when we met so definitely a full grown adult. Noone has ever said anything about our age gap. I will be 33 when he turns 50 next year which seems a bigger gap somehow. I do feel sometimes we were at different stages when we met so I haven't had chance to grow like maybe I would. The mortgage for example isn't mine.

And yes loads of double standards on mumsnet when women are told to 'go for it' with a man 10, 15+ years younger. I often thing this is a reply to society however who frustratingly look down on older woman/younger man pairings but don't bother when it's an older man.

🤣 that made me laugh!

Such a random calculation. What's that based on?

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Exactly this. We had a big age gap- over 20 years- and I was the one saying that is was a great relationship, age means nothing etc. But as I got older, I realised that the dynamic was, in fact, unhealthy. In the years since I've left him, my attitude towards that relationship and person has changed a lot.

Why would a person want to be in a relationship with someone young enough to be their child?
And also, why did I want to be with someone old enough to be my father?
It's not a sign of a well-balanced person imo.