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Text message or WhatsApp?

47 replies

Thriwit · 24/04/2023 18:12

I’ll admit I’m socially inept.

DD has a party invite from school, with a mobile number to RSVP to.
Do I send a text message, or WhatsApp?
What’s the done thing?

YABU - Text message
YANBU - WhatsApp

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ComeTheFuckOnBridgett · 24/04/2023 18:36

If they haven't got WhatsApp, their name and picture won't come up on the app when you type their name in.

Kedece2410 · 24/04/2023 18:35

TeenDivided · 24/04/2023 18:14

Hi. JamesD would love to come to Timmy's party. Thank you. Caroline.

She didn't ask what to say. She asked what method to use to reply 🙄

I'd WhatsApp. That way you know she's got your reply

AttentionToDetal · 24/04/2023 18:35

I'd text, everyone has text on their phone.
Not everyone will have WhatsApp.

(I also had this exact scenario recently)

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Thriwit · 24/04/2023 18:33

Heroicallyfound · 24/04/2023 18:26

I’d text - WhatsApp feels like I’m invading their life a bit because of the the profile photo - it’s sort of like a step into social media and knowing a bit too much about a stranger’s life. I know that’s a bit irrational!

i don’t think it matter IRL!

This is how I was feeling, but then I didn’t know if texting was very kinda old-fashioned, because I haven’t texted anybody in ages!

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mainsfed · 24/04/2023 18:30

Jesus wept. This isn’t social ineptness, this is life ineptness.

RaininSummer · 24/04/2023 18:29

Wouldn't occur to me to WhatsApp as how do you know if someone uses it?

ComeTheFuckOnBridgett · 24/04/2023 18:28

@TrueScrumptious well you go for it but there's no way I'd ring a stranger to have a chat about a party my kids were invited to when a simple "thanks for inviting X, he would love to come" would work in a message.

they could be doing anything and if it was a big party where every parent called to confirm, they'd waste a lot of time.

Each to their own though.

Heroicallyfound · 24/04/2023 18:26

I’d text - WhatsApp feels like I’m invading their life a bit because of the the profile photo - it’s sort of like a step into social media and knowing a bit too much about a stranger’s life. I know that’s a bit irrational!

i don’t think it matter IRL!

TrueScrumptious · 24/04/2023 18:25

ComeTheFuckOnBridgett · 24/04/2023 18:21

God don't phone. Especially if you hardly know the family.

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Why on earth not? I’m more likely to phone especially if I don’t know them.

ComeTheFuckOnBridgett · 24/04/2023 18:22

ComeTheFuckOnBridgett · 24/04/2023 18:21

Withers fine as long as they get the message.

Either is*

ComeTheFuckOnBridgett · 24/04/2023 18:21

Withers fine as long as they get the message.

ComeTheFuckOnBridgett · 24/04/2023 18:21

TrueScrumptious · 24/04/2023 18:15

Well, it doesn’t matter. I might even phone.

God don't phone. Especially if you hardly know the family.

VisionsOfSplendour · 24/04/2023 18:20

It really doesn't matter 😂

Easterbunnywashere · 24/04/2023 18:19

Texts are useless for people with limited mobile signal so I always prefer to use Whatsapp that works better on wifi.

Sux2buthen · 24/04/2023 18:17

TrueScrumptious · 24/04/2023 18:15

Well, it doesn’t matter. I might even phone.

Oh hell no

TiredOne12345 · 24/04/2023 18:17

Either is fine 🙂

SarahLHs · 24/04/2023 18:16

I never text anyone, always use WhatsApp!

Kittykatchunjy · 24/04/2023 18:16

TrueScrumptious · 24/04/2023 18:15

Well, it doesn’t matter. I might even phone.

Phone??? What the deuce....

TrueScrumptious · 24/04/2023 18:15

Well, it doesn’t matter. I might even phone.

TeenDivided · 24/04/2023 18:14

Hi. JamesD would love to come to Timmy's party. Thank you. Caroline.

TeenDivided · 24/04/2023 18:13

text.

MaydinEssex · 24/04/2023 18:13

I'd just send a text