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CF- leaving do-- what to do?

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Boxshibe · 24/04/2023 17:53

A much loved colleague is leaving end of this week. Due to our management not realising this or forgetting nothing had been organised.
So last week I started organising an evening out. Booking a restaurant and drinks after. Getting pre orders, paying for the deposits etc. I set up a teams chat and invited people who know her .
someone I invited it turns out is also leaving (I didn't know, don't work with them) has announced that this will also be their leaving do! And can they input on what we do and invite people!
Can I tell them to but out and organise there own or grin and bear it!
He'll totally change the dynamic of the dinner and drinks
I think he's being a massive CF and it should be up to his manager to sort it.
Aibu?

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MsMcGonagall · 24/04/2023 18:04

yes you're answer can be No. This isn't a work organised or work paid for event. Nice reply by hotfootgoose. or, sorry this is a personal party focused on Friend, hope you can find your own way to mark your leaving

makingbrownies · 24/04/2023 18:02

did they announce it in the group chat or to you?

Do you know them well are they difficult?

If you think others will see this and agree with you I would say something like ' hi CF, I want DF to feel really special at this doo and for it to be all about her and just with her closest colleagues and I think sharing and having people who she doesn't know it will take away her moment. ill be happy to come to yours if you arrange your own.

Gymnopedie · 24/04/2023 18:01

Tell him to butt out. My suspicion is that if you gave in he would make it all about him.

Daffodil92 · 24/04/2023 18:01

Cheeky sod! Laugh it off as if it’s a joke “hahaha good one CF. Imagine actually trying to hijack someone else’s leaving do” then just carry on as you planned

Hotfootgoose · 24/04/2023 18:01

Just say you are sorry, but your colleague means a lot to you and you want this to be their special night. Thanks for understanding and good luck in preparing yours! Job done

thecatsthecats · 24/04/2023 17:58

I don't think it's necessarily CF behaviour. They might just be piqued to see someone else being made a fuss off when nothing has been done for them - unless they're not leaving for a while.

I would think that work leaving drinks were an open invitation anyway - hard to get a good crowd otherwise if people don't want to do too many work socials in one month.

mmgirish · 24/04/2023 17:55

Don't let him muscle in on this! Defo CF behaviour.