To feel too old?

45 here and I love a sparkly hair clip!!

I’m almost 40 and wear clips in my hair and scarves wrapped round too. All women in my family look a lot younger than age so probably good genes there but I think it’s important to make sure you wearing nice clothes you feel good in and take a little time to do your hair/put some make up on.

Definitely not too old. I think some women are just like this. I remember my mum being quite judgy about a school mum back in the 90s who was celebrating her 40th birthday and mum said to a friend 'hmm, and still going about with long hair' and I still remember it now. I'm 34 and have told my mum in no uncertain terms that I will not be cutting my hair when I turn 40, for starters I don't have the jawline for it ;)

Honestly, I think I would rather be considered mutton dressed as lamb than lamb dressed as mutton. I see photos of my mum at my age in M&S twinsets and think to myself she looks far older than any of my friends do now.

One practical point though, I find when I've got a headband or similar on I'm much more likely to get ID'd. Lovely that people think I look younger but as I've fallen out of the habit of carrying my driving license around I've been caught out a few times! If I know I don't have my license with me I take off said hair accessories before attempting to buy a bottle of wine...

Mid thirties is so young! Friend sounds insecure, reassure her jokingly that you won't be wearing Daisy Dukes any time soon and you'll save your wellies for dog walks - but you really like the way your hair accessories look so you'll be sticking with them.

You are in your 30's - you aren't old.

You are still so young! Wear what makes you happy and tell your friend to stop being such a boring arse! Life is too short to constrain yourself so much.

Wear what you want and everyone else can sod off with their ageism. I notice Michaela Strachan was wearing her hair in plaits the other day and she looks great. She's 57.

I'm 44. I have a dress with dinosaurs on it, one with foxes, a pair of trainers with tigers on them. I've just bought a lovely grey sweatshirt with a multi-coloured confetti pattern which I intend wearing with some very short navy shorts at the weekend.

I've also got long, naturally curly hair that falls in ringlets halfway down my back, which I wear with great pride (and treat like a pampered pet).

I love my style and I couldn't give two shiny shits what anybody else thinks.

Sorry pressed send to soon
but nothing wrong with festival style ,if u like that type of style ,you would probably like joe browns ..it’s all festival and flows .
fashion world and simply be have some in the sale

Try being in your 50s with no idea on what style u want and still have long hair .
im having a major crisis in confidence clothes wise ..
but I was the same in my 30s too .I think I’ve just never found my style

Wear what you like! I'm 39 and I generally like following fashion but try to chose things that suit my shape, I sometimes worry I look like I'm trying to look younger, so a bit muttony but life's too short! I enjoy fashion and it makes me happy and feel good!

Well I'm 42 and still kicking about in ripped jeans, vans or docs, and a hoodie.

OP, what did you used to wear? Sometimes it helps to go back to a previous style (it might mean some new clothes if your body has changed since pregnancy) and then go from there. Give us an idea of what you like and I'm sure you'll get some helpful site links and ideas.

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Wear what you like! I'm 50 this year and I find a fake tan and summer clothes very flattering! I also had my grey hair highlighted which is a massive confidence boost. I'd love to be 32 again. Your still a baby 😊

Wear what you bloody well want. That is the only fashion advice anyone needs.

No...wear what you want.

By the way, why are you wearing your husband's clothes? Genuine question... don't you have any stuff of your own?

@ifancyajamdonut love it, I have blue hair too

I'm old enough to be your mum/gran and I've had bright blue hair for god knows how many years now. I'll still be at the hair dressers having it done when I'm 85 because I like it and really don't give a duck what anybody else thinks about me or my look. None of their business.

You only live once. Wear whatever you like! I’ve seen people of all ages wearing bows and flowers, barrettes particularly are worn by old ladies. I’m not a massive fan of pigtails, but that’s because my hair is super thick. I still wear plaits - dutch pigtails and french braids etc. I’m mid30s too. Just wear whatever suits you!

I'm 33 and I wear whatever I like. I like crop tops with high waisted jeans, dungrarees, Doc Martens, pinafore dresses. I don't care if people think I'm too old for them.

I wouldn't be friends with anyone who said something like that to me! What a cow!

I'm in my early 40s and couldn't care less what people think. I don't wear a lot of make-up, but I do kick boxing so spend a lot of time in sports stuff! I'm completely comfortable with how I look and wear what is comfortable or what I like!

Wear what makes you feel good OP, don't listen to someone else's silly rules. I agree your 30's is a weird age, I sometimes wonder if I can get away with ripped jeans and converse anymore, but don't really suit blouses and more 'grown up' styles.

Plus I often see women of all ages wearing great stuff, the trick is they wear things that fit well, and suits their shape.

www.theguardian.com/fashion/fashion-blog/2013/sep/18/fabulous-fashionistas-inspiration-older-women

Ignore your ridiculous friend and wear whatever brings you joy. You are never too old to wear flowers in your hair.

I'm 34 and wear scrunchies and bows to work - I have all colours and styles. Mid 30s isn't old!