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Children's party

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tkkid93 · 22/04/2023 10:58

Would you say 6pm to 8pm is a reasonable or unreasonable time for a 4 year olds birthday party at a play centre?

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londonrach · 10/06/2023 07:25

No. It's too late. 11am best time for that age. I'd turn a 4-6 pm party down. You have children saying their hungry till food put out

LuvSmallDogs · 10/06/2023 06:17

For me, it would depend how far away it is.

I don't drive, and buses tend to go "funny" (aka get taken off the schedule without showing on the website) after 20.00, so if we needed to bus there it would be a no.

If we could walk there, I'd take my 4y/o, possibly with his brother's buggy if it was a long walk as he would be knackered at the end.

MRex · 10/06/2023 04:53

Much too late for us; destroys dinner, sleep, my evening and the next day when exhausted. Some kids don't "just sleep in", they become whiny sad tired ones. Worth it for a major event, but not for another kid's party. That said, at least 4 kids we know seem to be up until past 9 regularly, so it might work for them.

SimonsCow · 10/06/2023 00:39

I wouldn’t go. DD (5) has been to a couple of 4-6 parties and even that is quite late. 6.30 by the time she gets in. She’s all hyped up and probably wants more food as a sandwich and cakes does seem to her like she’s had dinner.

Tourmalines · 10/06/2023 00:23

A bit unusual but my DGCs bed time is anywhere between 9.30 and 10 pm so she would still be running around having a ball and she’s only nearly 3. lol

BodyKeepingScore · 10/06/2023 00:17

Unreasonable and I'd turn down the invitation tbh.

Glitterandmud · 10/06/2023 00:02

I'd go but do pjs and teeth there so straight to bed when you get in. My kids are still up by 8 though so the drive home and tiring them out at soft play would actually be a positive fpr me...

MyFavouriteKindOfBalloon · 10/06/2023 00:00

Ridiculous

Kitkatcatflap · 09/06/2023 23:55

Way too late

Newmum738 · 09/06/2023 23:31

Too late!

FerretFarm · 09/06/2023 23:24

If it doesn't work for you then say no.

It does seem late!

Aug12 · 22/04/2023 14:07

It is a bit late but I would probably still go. Let the kiddos run their wiggles out and then after the party, pop them into their pjs in the toilet and let them fall asleep on the way home then just lift them into their beds?

Hankunamatata · 22/04/2023 12:58

I'd probably just turn down invite as mine were nightmares if not in bed by 7.30pm and still up at 6am

MiniOreo90 · 22/04/2023 12:39

Totally unreasonable. They should be in bed before 8!

ZenNudist · 22/04/2023 12:24

It's not great but will be fine on a Saturday. Most 4yo can stay up if there's excitement, possibly give a nap earlier in day.

CorpusCallosum · 22/04/2023 12:21

How far? We've had a couple of late parties, not that late but far away (1hr+ driving). I took PJs and got them changed before we left so if they did fall asleep we could just get straight into bed once home.

I'd be worried lots wouldn't go, everyone just wants their child to enjoy their birthday party and I'd feel bad they clearly got stuck with a time that isn't ideal. So, I'd make the effort if you can.

Blizzard23 · 22/04/2023 11:51

Terrible idea

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tkkid93 · 22/04/2023 11:45

I wouldn't mind if I only had 1 but I have 2 to take with me. More than likely they will fall asleep in the car on the way back and be a nightmare to get to bed

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IhearyouClemFandango · 22/04/2023 11:29

Ah shame, yes, probably only slot left. Ds is 5 and would be fine as a one off, depends on your child though

bussteward · 22/04/2023 11:28

Prime witching hour. DD needs to start winding down with quiet play at 6pm to have a hope of sleep at 7.30. She’s not a child who can have a late night, as a treat. She’s the devil.

cpphelp · 22/04/2023 11:22

I wouldn't go to this one. They will get the hint when most decline!

Youcancallmeirrelevant · 22/04/2023 11:21

I'd assume only time left, wouldn't worry me on a saturday as DD could sleep longer on sunday morning and have a lazy day

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tkkid93 · 22/04/2023 11:19

It's on a Saturday.
Not family or friends. Just an invite from nursery

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Kickingupmerrybehaviour · 22/04/2023 11:14

God no. Way too late

PuttingDownRoots · 22/04/2023 11:14

If it was a good friend and it was a Friday or Saturday... maybe.

Nursery/school the next day no way!

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