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Pregnancy sharing

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FTMom2323 · 21/04/2023 22:29

DH and I had our first scan today after finding out we are pregnant. I’m older, was very worried about my fertility and ability to conceive and by miracle, it’s happened!

DH’s sister texts us often in group chat and has been anxious to know how it’s going. After the scan we got into the car and I said I’m going to respond to your DSis. He said ok. As part of the response I included a scan pic.

DH went NUCLEAR. Screaming at me down the motorway how I’d betrayed him, how I was disloyal and how I was not to be trusted for taking the right for him to tell his family about HIS baby from him.

I was stunned and really upset, trembling, crying. I accept his premise, however I said I was replying to which he said nothing and I clearly didn’t intend any malice by sending a pic. Hours later and he’s not talking to me and ignoring me.

I’m very upset and have taken to bed. WIBU to share the pic?

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FTMom2323 · 21/04/2023 22:44

@Miscellaneousme i didn’t know that, how sad. I’m so alarmed by his reaction and calling me callous names for doing something I perceived to be innocent. I accept he may be let down but this is not a proportionate reaction? I also don’t think it’s right to speak to or upset a pregnant woman like that (or any person for that matter). Im stunned.

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Miscellaneousme · 21/04/2023 22:42

Be wary. Domestic abuse often starts or escalates during pregnancy.

FTMom2323 · 21/04/2023 22:39

@BirthThoughts yes they knew about the pregnancy, when the scan was exactly and I was replying. I am quite scared at how he’s reacted. I don’t know if I’m now overreacting by saying he’s taken all my joy away and now I’m sat wondering wtf have I done with this man.

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BirthThoughts · 21/04/2023 22:38

Did his family already know about the pregnancy and that the scan was today? If so then this sounds like an enormous overreaction on his part.