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He stepped on a spider

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Alwaysrushingaroundffs · 20/04/2023 20:22

With glee/relish…

Man I like and have been attracted to for a while…(we’re not together)
There was a medium sized spider on the floor, one of the women in our party (not keen on spiders) asked him to remove it/get rid of it. He came over and stamped right on it with his big foot, sort of scraped his foot back, laughed and said ‘It’s the circle of life’ and walked off.

Aibu to have gone off him, pretty much immediately?

So disappointed

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Alwaysrushingaroundffs · 20/04/2023 20:37

@CindersAgain I didn’t even have a chance/get a say, he did it so quickly

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TheInterceptor · 20/04/2023 20:35

My husband won't even drop a caught spider out of a window 'in case it gets cold'. He always releases them into the garage Grin

CindersAgain · 20/04/2023 20:35

Spiders and wasps often get killed as there are more people who are scared of them. I wouldn’t mind a spider being killed if someone was really upset by it. But maybe there could have been a conversation about it, so that people who want it to be saved could have moved it. I mean, if you’d moved it, that would have suited everyone?
Possibly just a bad judgment call on the bloke’s part.

MrsTerryPratchett · 20/04/2023 20:32

ChilliWine · 20/04/2023 20:27

My decorator stamped on a ladybird but I still fancy the arse off him. What is it about tradesmen?

To be fair to him he thought it was poisonous and didn't take glee in it. The circle of life stuff makes him sound like a proper prick. Ew.

The lack of danger and glee make the OP worse than your example.

I couldn't shag anyone taking pleasure in pain or death.

Tilllly · 20/04/2023 20:32

I don't like spiders. At all.

I have a spider catcher and put them out in the garden (with a stern warning to stay out)

He's a horrible man

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Alwaysrushingaroundffs · 20/04/2023 20:31

He was so nice before…or so I thought

I’ve never had such an instant, shocking going off someone…just downright mean

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staceyflack · 20/04/2023 20:31

Total turn off... how unpleasant he is.

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Alwaysrushingaroundffs · 20/04/2023 20:31

*Maybe, not judge

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Branleuse · 20/04/2023 20:31

Yeah that would put me off someone

musicforthesoul · 20/04/2023 20:30

Eww, yup that would put me off immediately.

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Alwaysrushingaroundffs · 20/04/2023 20:30

Tbf, the woman has quite a phobia of spiders and couldn’t sit at the table any longer. She didn’t ask for it to be killed though and certainly not like that.

The only thing I could possibly think in his favour is that judge he was scared 🤷🏻‍♀️Still, the comment etc…just horrible

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AreYouHavingAGiraffeNoItsACamel · 20/04/2023 20:29

Wanker

MrsBungle · 20/04/2023 20:29

Horrible. I couldn’t be attracted to him.

42isthemeaning · 20/04/2023 20:29

What he needs is a giant boot out of nowhere stamping on him.

GiraffeLaSophie · 20/04/2023 20:28

I would have nothing more to do with him after that. YADNBU!

ChilliWine · 20/04/2023 20:27

My decorator stamped on a ladybird but I still fancy the arse off him. What is it about tradesmen?

To be fair to him he thought it was poisonous and didn't take glee in it. The circle of life stuff makes him sound like a proper prick. Ew.

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Alwaysrushingaroundffs · 20/04/2023 20:27

So shitty for the poor spider, I mean I don’t love spiders, but what had it done wrong ffs, just walking along doing it’s thing

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IAcceptCookies · 20/04/2023 20:27

Who are the 24% who think OP is being unreasonable?

Show and explain yourselves!!

JaffaCake70 · 20/04/2023 20:27

That's just cruel. I'd swerve him 100%

DeflatedAgain · 20/04/2023 20:27

That's so out of order.

I love all spiders and they're welcome in my home.

What a meanie!

Suzi888 · 20/04/2023 20:26

I’d presume he isn’t keen on spiders and was too scared to pick the spider up.

Could we have just left the spider alone perhaps?

To be honest I wouldn’t think much of the woman in this scenario either!

Susieb2023 · 20/04/2023 20:26

Honestly think you can tell a lot about a person by watching how they treat the tiniest things. He’s nasty. Lucky you saw that before getting involved with him!

PonyPatter44 · 20/04/2023 20:26

My DP really hates spiders, but he's never deliberately cruel to anything. I would go right off this man instantly.

Qbish · 20/04/2023 20:26

Yuck. And what a way to do it. Idiot.

LittleMG · 20/04/2023 20:25

Absolute no no what a wanker

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