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He stepped on a spider

207 replies

Alwaysrushingaroundffs · 20/04/2023 20:22

With glee/relish…

Man I like and have been attracted to for a while…(we’re not together)
There was a medium sized spider on the floor, one of the women in our party (not keen on spiders) asked him to remove it/get rid of it. He came over and stamped right on it with his big foot, sort of scraped his foot back, laughed and said ‘It’s the circle of life’ and walked off.

Aibu to have gone off him, pretty much immediately?

So disappointed

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Redebs · 20/04/2023 22:22

He had a chance to show you how thoughtful, mature, respectful and considerate he was...
and he blew it.

Dump him, the nasty little boy!

GasPanic · 20/04/2023 22:20

I must be the mumsnet equivalent of Hannibal Lectuer because I have killed literally hundreds of those tiny flies with yellow sticky boards this week in the conservatory.

While we are on the subject, I know what happens if you don't cull the spider population in your house, because the last occupant of mine didn't do it. They breed and breed producing an inbred spider horde that no longer stays nicely in the corners of the ceilings trapping flies but rampages over the entire house.

Fortunately I was equal to the challenge and the horde is now largely dead. It took me about 3 years of checking the ceilings once a week and disposing of one every time I found one.

Emmamoo89 · 20/04/2023 22:18

What an arsehole

Sylvaniandysfunctionalfamily · 20/04/2023 22:11

That would be that for me

grosslyunfair · 20/04/2023 22:11

I wouldn't give a toss tbh, but I've also spent a lot of time living somewhere with dangerous insects so I'm in the kill them and move on camp!

Mummynew08 · 20/04/2023 22:08

Was this indoors, didn't it make a mess? (Misses the point)

Anyway yanbu, I love spiders and the way they kill flies and mosquitos for us. We also gives ours names but more long-legged names like Curtis and Tallulah and Rex (Fred to me is a short-legged name)

Annoyingwurringnoise · 20/04/2023 22:08

My ex would kill spiders. It was one of the things I liked least about her, and there were quite a few things I didn’t like about her.

TorchwoodWho · 20/04/2023 22:05

Squashing a spider - fine, getting joy out of doing it - not fine.

BotterMon · 20/04/2023 22:04

Dump him by saying to him "it's the circle of life". What a tosser.

Babyroobs · 20/04/2023 22:02

Nasty and instantly off putting.

Ponderingwindow · 20/04/2023 22:01

This is the most uk thread of the uk threads on mumsnet.

Most of the spiders we find inside here bite humans, with bites ranging from annoying swelling and itching to deadly. I don’t want them in my garden any more than I want them in my house. It’s why we pay an exterminator to keep both spider free. The rare non-biting variety I will happily leave alone, but they are almost non-existent.

TheMiddleOfTheMiddle · 20/04/2023 21:59

What a nasty prick. At least you know.

newfence · 20/04/2023 21:54

elm26 · 20/04/2023 21:53

That's so funny!

Bless them. It's funny because every spider I see I name it Fred in my head but it doesn't make them any less scary to me 🤦🏻‍♀️

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Hahah! Absolutely not - awful things 😂

elm26 · 20/04/2023 21:53

newfence · 20/04/2023 21:34

@elm26 Awww, my dad always named every spider in our house, 'Fred'. He was an older man as well (1928) - perhaps a generational thing (or just a standard spider name 😂)

That's so funny!

Bless them. It's funny because every spider I see I name it Fred in my head but it doesn't make them any less scary to me 🤦🏻‍♀️

ShowUs · 20/04/2023 21:50

PriamFarrl · 20/04/2023 21:44

They always say you can tell a lot about a person by how they treat animals and waiters. It would be an instant no from me.

I completely agree!

ShowUs · 20/04/2023 21:49

My friend has a massive phobia of spiders (has to take medication and ended up in hospital due to crippling anxiety over it) but she would never kill a spider!

This would give me the ick and it would be over for me.

Mynewname2023 · 20/04/2023 21:48

I’d go off him as well! Unnecessarily cruel and possibly showing off by doing it so casually. RIP spider 🕷

stonedaisy · 20/04/2023 21:48

I hate spiders but killing it like that gave me the ick too. My OH always gets a glass and a piece of card to do a humane rescue. Never considered what a turn on that is until now...

PriamFarrl · 20/04/2023 21:44

They always say you can tell a lot about a person by how they treat animals and waiters. It would be an instant no from me.

Justcallmebebes · 20/04/2023 21:44

He'd be dead to me after that. Bastard

SirVixofVixHall · 20/04/2023 21:43

WhineWhineWhineWINE · 20/04/2023 21:38

I used to have bit of a crush on a colleague, until he told a "hilarious" story about the time he shot a bird with an air rifle because it kept shitting on his car. Never gone off someone so fast in my life.

That would be instant death to any crush of mine too.

SurrogateSoul · 20/04/2023 21:43

We all want our very own Spiderman but that ain't it!

Don't get trapped in his web.

TellHimDirectlyInDetail · 20/04/2023 21:40

What if he did the same to a cockroach? Or mosquito?

Snugglemonkey · 20/04/2023 21:40

CindersAgain · 20/04/2023 20:35

Spiders and wasps often get killed as there are more people who are scared of them. I wouldn’t mind a spider being killed if someone was really upset by it. But maybe there could have been a conversation about it, so that people who want it to be saved could have moved it. I mean, if you’d moved it, that would have suited everyone?
Possibly just a bad judgment call on the bloke’s part.

Taking pleasure in killing is not a bad judgement call, or a matter of suiting everyone. Noone needs a creature to be dead rather than released outdoors.

WhineWhineWhineWINE · 20/04/2023 21:38

I used to have bit of a crush on a colleague, until he told a "hilarious" story about the time he shot a bird with an air rifle because it kept shitting on his car. Never gone off someone so fast in my life.

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