He stepped on a spider

@FatsiaJaponicaVariegata it is well known that by far the most dangerous and nasty creatures on Earth are human beings,so maybe we should start with ourselves then?

In case anyone is concerned, just because I believe what I just said in the paragraph above, I am not about to become a mass murderer, or even an individual one...

Ltb. (And I mean it!)

He didn't kill for fun or cause unnecessary suffering. He was called over to deal with it by someone who was upset and it sounds like the death was very quick. He stomped on an insect that he was asked to get rid of. There was no fun or suffering involved.

I wouldn't think much of a farmer who deliberately hurt animals for fun, or who caused unnecessary suffering to one. Meat also tastes better when animals are killed locally and don't have to travel miles beforehand, getting more and more stressed as they go.

It is clear no one comes from a farm or rural area with all this outrage over the death of an insect or arachnid (to be precise)! No one gardens or uses pesticides or sprays to manage lawns or plants or veggies or flowers. No one has vaccuumed up a harmless housefly. Their houses are full of spiders and spider webs who live happily in peace? This thread seems filled with ladies of the manor type women. "Please tell the butler to come and catch and release this insect I see, now, Jeeves"

No different to sitting down to a chicken korma or beef stew imo. Just because he took joy in killing does not negate to suffering your decisions have on the animals in the meat isle. Where is the moral line? A victim of the meat industry wouldnt know or care where you draw the line.

It was an unnecessary thing to do and it sounds like he took pleasure in it. I don't think YABU at all to have the ick.

For the people asking what is alright to kill? Imo if it isn't hurting you, then just let it be or remove it. I wouldn't kill anything living if I could help it. Fleas are different, they are parasites and need a host to survive. My way of dealing with fleas is preventative - my dog is treated to prevent fleas, and if it came down to my dog being bitten constantly by fleas - I'd kill them. If I had an infestation of any kind in my house, of course I would want it resolved, but I would explore the most humane solution first.

Of course there will be times when killing would be the only option, but it would be a last resort, and it would leave me feeling unhappy and guilty.

Quite a few people have said they’d kill it too

Killing is killing. Perhaps the man in the op was bitten by a spider and it got badly infected.
To many people in WA, malaria is like getting cold or flu - par for the course.

Maybe he was just as scared and this was a way to be the hero he was asked to be without having to pick it up?

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Not cool to kill a spider. Flies on the other hand...

He just sounds nasty. Ditch forthwith.

So why does that mean a group of women couldn’t deal with a spider?

Isn't a lot of this down to the extent to which they have the capacity to carry and spread disease though?

It's unnecessary and seems quite an odd way to behave. I would be put off.

I am really terrified of spiders (illogical, I know, but I can't help it!), however, I wouldn't want them to be stepped on/killed. I just get someone to carefully put them outside! They haven't harmed me so I don't want them harmed.

one of the women in our party (not keen on spiders) asked him to remove it/get rid of it

Why have you changed ‘woman with a phobia called him to remove a spider’ to ‘a group of women couldn’t deal with a spider’?

I'm terrified of spiders but I don't think they should die because I'm frightened of them. DH killed one 'for me' once early in our relationship and I was very clear that I didn't think that was ok. 38 years in and he now disposes of them humanely by picking them up with a tissue and putting them outside. Somehow one of my adult DDs has absolutely no fear of them and can pick even the largest one up in her bare hands and take it outside.

in the unfortunate even I am home alone and see a big critter I either put a cup over it until someone braver is around or relocate as far away as possible.

i have devised a way of letting family know where the terrifying culprit is!

I find it more repulsive that a man had to be called over to ‘deal’ with a spider because a group of women couldn’t

That’s shitty. My H hates spiders too but he just calls me to get rid of it.

He’s not a nice person. This incident tells you a lot about his personality. He’s selfish and mean, and has no respect for others Good job you found out before it went any further.*

*spiders

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He’s not a nice person. This incident tells you a lot about his personality. He’s selfish and mean, and has no respect for others. Good job you found out before it went any further.

That would squash any positive thoughts I had for him.

I’m not too fond of my MIL, she also hoovers spiders and in the summer kills wasps one after the other. I do think it takes a certain type…