Holiday accommodation & DD

How would this be improved in the main villa?

No way would I leave a child in another building remind the grandparents of theadeline situation

If the family is a little overbearing I'd happily put the kids down and stay with them and enjoy some chill time deadscrolling on my phone. I think the only way to deal with a family holiday without coming home deranged is to schedule a bit of time away from each other.

Surely better for those with small kids to be in the villa as they can go upstairs to bed but there is plenty social space for everyone in the apartments to come and eat and socialise in the evenings?

Accommodation allocation yes obviously it’s a discussion and people can expect to have input. But my in-laws could give me £1m, they’d still get no say or opinion whatsoever on how I chose to keep my toddler safe within the accommodation that’s been agreed.

Will your DD definitely not just fall asleep after a days swimming in her stroller, or a lounge in the villa? Then just carry her to bed. I've done that heaps of times. Kids get tired on holidays. Just put her in pj's before you head out for dinner.

There is no way i would do that with my daughter and she is 4. She wakes up in the night and calls for a wee etc and when she was still in nappies she would call for water, I want to be near for eventualities. I don´t think much of Madeleine scenarios, but the pool gives me the heebie jeebies, such a risk. I know someone whose daughter died in the family pool years ago. Not worth the risk.

I don't think I would go on such a holiday set up. Pools with a lot of small chikdren are highly dangerous.

This villa and apartments building sounds amazing - it would be great if you could share the details if you can.

I think plan for the worst, hope for the best.

It sounds like you can't really assess what you can do until you're there. You might be completely happy with putting your child to bed and then popping back next door with a baby monitor.

Would your preference be that you're in the main villa? The only problem with that is that the entire villa will wake when the first DC gets up - that's not great for anyone.

I just read the OP but oh my god, they expect you to lock her, in, in a strange place?? That's mad. Poor wee thing!
Let them judge you all they like, eff what they think or say to you OP, She's a baby. Your baby.

Not really if they’re paying the majority of the cost. And if you go on a big family holiday there obviously has to be negotiation on accommodation allocation.

You’re caring too much about what they think. Your child, your rules.

We had this when we went with friends to a villa & we slept with DS age 1 in a room next door in a different building. We'd pop him to sleep in friends room in small travel cot & literally move him & cot over to our room when we going to bed. He was a sound sleeper but early waker! Our friends DD wud wake at the slightest thing which is why we agreed they sleep main house.

But I'd say don't make a fuss right now & when time comes just do what you need to & others probably won't even notice!

My son is 2.9 years and I'd not do this. Yanbu. Aside from the danger, sometimes DS still wakes, sits up and calls for us. Doesn't happen a lot anymore but I'd want to be close if it did.

I'd probably also be quite happy to have the evenings to myself anyway😅

Your in laws need to reign their necks in ..... it's up to and DH to decide what you are comfortable with regarding YOUR DD. None of their business.

I think it would depend on the exact layout and what you are all doing.

Won’t you be out on the terrace, outdoors, in the evenings? If your apartment opens out on to the communal areas in the same way that the house does, and has no doors out on to the street I would be as OK with my child in the apartment as I would in the villa.

Also, you might want to go to bed earlier than Uncle Eric and value peace after 11pm.

I think on hol you have to expect some change in routine, and I would go with 2 year old drops to sleep in the villa and you carry her over later. Mine slept in pushchairs in restaurants til almost 4. We did put sunglasses on them to keep out the light 😂

Sounds ideal, you if it were me I'd go with her every night and have a lovely peacefully eve away from meddling in laws!!

Op how much time do you ACTUALLY want to spend with your ILs?

I'd probably be glad of being able to escape and get some time to myself. See how it goes she might sleep that you can carry her to the villa, you might be glad of being able to escape.

I can see the logic in the 3 young families being in the main villa and all getting a long like a John Lewis Christmas Advert. But life's not like that, kids might keep each other up, routines will clash etc

Reality having your own space, your own fridge, might be the better option esp when the ILs get on your nerves.

Madeline McCann, not a chance I would do that!

I wouldn’t be staying anywhere with a toddler that had an unfenced pool! As the sleeping arrangements are also unsuitable, I’d be wanting to arrange to stay somewhere else nearby.

That holiday sounds like hell.

Can you opt out and do something you truly want to do?

What if there was a fire or a break in? There’s no way id leave them alone in a separate building. Uncle Eric just wants the main villa because it’s the nicest bit.

Theturtlethatcried · Yesterday 13:46
Why can’t those who want lie ins go in the apartments? Seems far more sensible.

But otherwise I’d be joining you there on your hill with a picnic basket - mine are now primary age but they’d be alone asleep in a separate locked building abroad over my dead body, baby monitor or not”

This.

Why is it anyone else’s business what you decide you are comfortable doing with your own child? Stop discussing it then when you get there you do what you see fit.