Holiday accommodation & DD

I wouldn't do it, and depending on distance/monitor signal you might not even be able to rely on that - we've stayed in a treehouse at Center Parcs before which had a separate games room, it was no further away from the main lodge than some peoples garages.
The second we stepped foot in the games room the monitors stopped working.
All children involved were over 2, but we still didn't feel comfortable.

None of their business, do what you're comfortable with.

I don’t think you’re necessarily being U, it depends on the setup. Myself and my friends have left kids asleep in massive holiday houses (think over 10 bedrooms) with baby monitors on. In reality they were probably as far away as a separate apartment and they would have had to walk through a bit of the garden to get to us (we were eating and drinking in the garden). But I regularly checked on them and I agree that a separate apartment would have felt different. I’d suggest just closing the discussion down along the lines of “well we’ll have to see how things go when we get there, I am sure we’ll work something out.” And then just do what you want once you get there (make sure DP is on board too).

She either goes to sleep in the main villa or one of you goes with her to the apartment.

Nothing would mean I would have left my DS at any time let alone on holiday. As for locking her in! What?

And can you use any clocks changes to your advantage? If the holiday place’s 9pm is UK 7pm, then just stick with their existing body clock sleep cycles and keep them on UK time…

I wouldn't be comfortable with my 10 year old sleeping in locked accommodation away from me, and she's a perfectly level headed and risk adverse child (who would also sleep through a tornado).

No way on earth would I be happy with a small child and that set up. It'd be my hill and I'd be building a fort alongside my picnic blanket!

Really depends how the place is laid out. If the apartments are just “wings” of the main building, and can be all accessed not too far away internally, then yes that would be fine - I’d lock all doors to the outside so they couldn’t wander out to the outside / pool, and keep internal access. But I wouldn’t leave child in a locked separate building.
And neither of mine would have been ok going to sleep in the main building and being carried through - they’d def have woken and been a massive PITA all night.

Remind them of Madeline McCann

I don't think you are at all unreasonable, I too would not have wanted to leave a two year old alone in an apartment. However mine always stayed up quite late on holiday, had dinner with us in the evening, played around later and a lot of other small children staying at the resort did the same - especially the non English. You might find your daughter keeps different hours on holiday.

My goodness a 6.30am start would not suit me one bit, do all the young children wake at that time? You might find if they don't go to bed so early they sleep later.

However this is your child so your rules. As long as she is safe, you are not doing wrong. I do hope you enjoy your holiday.

Agree I wouldn't leave her either.

She sleeps in some part of the main villa and then carry her across.

Yanbu, I wouldn’t leave my children locked in an apartment and spend the evening in the main villa. I wouldn’t lock my child in my house and go sit next door for example so it’s not ok because you’re on holiday. This wouldn’t stop me going though. I’d either put the children to sleep somewhere in the main villa or get a travel cot if she still fits in one and move her when you leave.

Separate buildings or one building with essentially extensions on it?

I think the latter is basically like being in one large house. Of course all the doors are locked at night just like I'd lock my back door and front door, and windows etc on my small house. Presuming you can get to her without going outside. Perhaps negotiate the closest room?

If I had to go outside to get to her building, I'd agree with you and probably just hang out in another room in that building.

I agree and there's not a hope I'd leave her. Tbh though the very concept of going on holiday with my in laws would make me want to never leave the apartment 😂

Sorry cross posted!

Can't you pop her to sleep in the main villa then you just transfer her when you go to the apartment?

Can’t she sleep in the main villa and then you carry her to bed?

Yanbu - you should do what you feel comfortable with, you’re the parents