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Flute56 · 16/04/2023 23:15

There was another thread on this but it was a while ago so I thought I would make a new one. I have this friend who does not really bother with me very much. I do all the phoning and when it was her birthday I went to her house and gave her a present. She kept me at the front door and did not even invite me in. I thought that was pretty rude. I thought at least she would invite me in for a cup of tea considering I travelled quite a way to her house. I dont live that far from her but on that occasion I came from somewehre else. She always gives me a birthday card but I find her a bit secretive. She was not very well a while back but refused to say what the matter was and soemtimes she just says she is out and does not say wehre she has been. I sent her a video to watch as she showed an interest in it and even linked it to her wassap so she could just click on the link and that was 3 weeks ago and she still has not watched it. It makes me think I wasted my time. For my last birthday a year ago she took me out for a meal and paid for it. Big Deal. That was a one off.

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Thesearmsofmine · 16/04/2023 23:45

You sound intrusive and she doesn’t like that.
Did you let her know that you were coming with her present? I wouldn’t invite someone in automatically, I like to know if someone’s coming over beforehand.
Also why does she need to tell you her exact health issues? It’s her private business.

Dontbelieveaword · 16/04/2023 23:42

Ffs not you again

IfsAndAnds · 16/04/2023 23:40

You sound intense, nosey and a bit controlling. It doesn’t sound like your friend has done anything wrong, they are entitled to privacy and shouldn’t have to share everything with you.

aureus3012 · 16/04/2023 23:29

Maybe she finds you a bit intense or that you overstep the boundaries of friendship. That was nice of her to take you for a meal.

Dithyramb · 16/04/2023 23:26

Well, did you let her know you were coming? Maybe she was busy? You sound quite over-involved. I can’t imagine even my closest friends expecting an account of exactly where I’ve been, or details of my illnesses, unless I volunteer the information, and I don’t get the outrage over whether or not she watched a video you sent her or not!

barmycatmum · 16/04/2023 23:26

I think you might need to listen to what her actions are telling you and back off.

QueenSmartypants · 16/04/2023 23:25

gives me a birthday card but I find her a bit secretive. She was not very well a while back but refused to say what the matter was and soemtimes she just says she is out and does not say wehre she has been

And you're entitled to know, why?

For my last birthday a year ago she took me out for a meal and paid for it. Big Deal

You're not coming across terribly well here.