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Flute56 · 16/04/2023 23:15

There was another thread on this but it was a while ago so I thought I would make a new one. I have this friend who does not really bother with me very much. I do all the phoning and when it was her birthday I went to her house and gave her a present. She kept me at the front door and did not even invite me in. I thought that was pretty rude. I thought at least she would invite me in for a cup of tea considering I travelled quite a way to her house. I dont live that far from her but on that occasion I came from somewehre else. She always gives me a birthday card but I find her a bit secretive. She was not very well a while back but refused to say what the matter was and soemtimes she just says she is out and does not say wehre she has been. I sent her a video to watch as she showed an interest in it and even linked it to her wassap so she could just click on the link and that was 3 weeks ago and she still has not watched it. It makes me think I wasted my time. For my last birthday a year ago she took me out for a meal and paid for it. Big Deal. That was a one off.

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tuvamoodyson · 27/05/2023 14:18

Wow! My profuse apologies! I didn’t notice the date….

TheRealShatParp · 27/05/2023 11:29

tuvamoodyson · 26/05/2023 06:45

No.

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Thanks for this, but clarification is totally meaningless 5 weeks later.

AliceOlive · 26/05/2023 22:55

Sumthingsweet · 26/05/2023 22:35

Same could apply to you ? You are doing that you must be very miserable . I didn’t realize was an old thread as I don’t invest in mumsnet all day but responded with quite fair comments and advice . Goodnight I think you are looking for an argument , good luck

That’s for the best. Have a good evening.

CarCrazy · 26/05/2023 22:47

Life is v busy! If someone arrives uninvited, of course it's lovely to see them, but unlikely I'd invite them in as often I'm busy with stuff to do! I expect your friend is the same :)

This friends actions all sound fine to me :) I think you should maybe back off a bit OP, in the nicest way 💐

Sumthingsweet · 26/05/2023 22:35

Same could apply to you ? You are doing that you must be very miserable . I didn’t realize was an old thread as I don’t invest in mumsnet all day but responded with quite fair comments and advice . Goodnight I think you are looking for an argument , good luck

AliceOlive · 26/05/2023 21:53

You feel great so you find someone who needs help and pick on them? Doubtful!

Sumthingsweet · 26/05/2023 18:49

Not at all feel fab 😍a good sign if you feel bad that does not make much sense ? Are you ok ?

AliceOlive · 26/05/2023 16:24

Sumthingsweet · 26/05/2023 09:26

“Ok i thunk its time to drop this thread now, i wo t be contributing to it anymore”

I thunk you should delete it no one cares that much 🤷🏻‍♀️

Actually quite a few caring people have commented.

Are you feeling badly? You’ve not been nice and usually that’s a good sign.

QueenSmartypants · 26/05/2023 11:49

Sumthingsweet · 26/05/2023 09:26

“Ok i thunk its time to drop this thread now, i wo t be contributing to it anymore”

I thunk you should delete it no one cares that much 🤷🏻‍♀️

Says the person who restarted an old thread 🙄

Sumthingsweet · 26/05/2023 09:26

“Ok i thunk its time to drop this thread now, i wo t be contributing to it anymore”

I thunk you should delete it no one cares that much 🤷🏻‍♀️

Sumthingsweet · 26/05/2023 09:23

You said your ending the conv about three times yet keep coming back ? You started the conversation and asked others - I think it will be over when you delete the thread not when you decide you can’t handle it . 🧐

tuvamoodyson · 26/05/2023 06:45

TheRealShatParp · 17/04/2023 08:47

Wait, is the elderly neighbour who is now in a care home the friend you’re referring to?

No.

AliceOlive · 26/05/2023 03:50

Don’t take the comments from the randoms too seriously. You sound like a lovely friend!

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Flute56 · 26/05/2023 03:11

Sumthingsweet · 26/05/2023 01:01

At least you still have next doors eh ? Night night

You make it sound as if I have no other friends which is not true and I found your comment a bit patronising so I think we will end things here bye

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Sumthingsweet · 26/05/2023 01:01

At least you still have next doors eh ? Night night

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Flute56 · 26/05/2023 00:46

I have got rid of her. I do not need her end of conversation.

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Sumthingsweet · 26/05/2023 00:34

Only explanation really as you seem to want to keep the friendship with this person even though you complain on here about them - you must need her friendship . Maybe you should stop trying so hard with her - feeding her etc letting her come over as clearly your put out . Remember , you are allowing her to treat you like this because you are giving the impression open house hospitality etc draw some boundaries - you might not like it but it’s true she doesn’t need to change you do .

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Flute56 · 25/05/2023 13:00

Sumthingsweet · 24/05/2023 11:09

You and your neighbhour seem to be alike - both lonely stick to her rather than friend

i am not lonely.

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Sumthingsweet · 24/05/2023 11:09

You and your neighbhour seem to be alike - both lonely stick to her rather than friend

Sumthingsweet · 24/05/2023 11:00

Why do you keep inviting her ? You must love her company - why did you give her the left overs ?

from her point of view your a lovely friend - but you think she’s a piss taker but won’t say it to her or allow his to continue by inviting her

are you really good friends ?

SparklingLime · 18/04/2023 21:29

* worth* talking to your GP!

SparklingLime · 18/04/2023 21:28

If you are interested in the possibility of ASD, @Flute56, you can ask your GP for an assessment, via right to choose. I've just done so and am now waiting. If you are curious, it might be worse talking to your GP before putting the forms in. This is the link my GP gave me:

psychiatry-uk.com/right-to-choose-asd/

whatapfaff · 18/04/2023 19:17

I thunk you are wise.

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Flute56 · 18/04/2023 16:22

Ok i thunk its time to drop this thread now, i wo t be contributing to it anymore

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TheShellBeach · 18/04/2023 16:14

Flute56 · 18/04/2023 15:52

My mother had rigid thinking patterns but she was not autistic

Was she actually assessed for autism, though?
You're in your late fifties now, so your mother was probably born in the 1930s. Women of that generation were almost never assessed.