16 Year Old Daughter sat on fathers knee. Disgusting?

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Not unreasonable!! I remember the hostility emanating from my stepmum when I used to, as a kid and teenager, put my head on a pillow on my dad’s lap and my dad would stroke my hair while we watched a movie together. I felt so safe and relaxed, exactly as a dad should make a kid feel, but I was made to feel bad about this, like it was inappropriate.
I’m good friends with my step mum now and she has told me since she felt very threatened by me and that she wishes she’d been more understanding and we could have been friends a lot longer.
Please don’t feel weird, it’s lovely your daughter is still a little girl at heart who obviously adores her daddy.

Not disgusting at all. Nice that you and your kids are so close. Your partner sounds a bit anal. She's a weirdo.

Firstly it's not disgusting at all, you should be very happy that you have such a normal relationship with your daughters.
Secondly may I suggest you talk to her about why it made her feel that way, something has triggered her and it may be an experience from her childhood, but obviously bear in mind it might not be easy for her to talk about. I disagree that you should run or that it's a red flag, if you found out she had experienced abuse as a child would her reaction make more sense? On the other hand of course it could be that she is an insanely jealous person which would obviously be a huge red flag, but unless you talk it through you won't know for sure

Agree and she'd probably report him as a pedophile. Something wrong with her. Probably sexual abused as a child.

I'm now 65 and I lost my dad last year. It was a privilege to sit on my dad's knees and I have done so untill my own children were young adults. (Yes o.k. they rolled their eyes but my daughter still sits on DH's knees). Then my dad had knee surgery, his prostetic knees didn't like to be sat on. From then on I sat on the armrest of his chair. I would give a fortune to be able to sit on my dad's knees one more time. Your partner is in the wrong, you should explain to her that nothing and nobody, ever, gets between a dad and his daughter(s).

I'd be getting a new partner. If she's like that now what's she going to be like if you got married.

Absolutely lovely that your 16 year old daughter shows affection for you. I know many parents who would wish the same from their 16 year olds. There maybe something in your partner's past for her to react like this but it doesn't bode well for your future with her as she clearly will always have a problem with your DD unfortunately.

I'm going to presume that your daughter is a very pretty young lady.. and probably out shines your partner! And your partner defo sounds jealous.. which is never good when kids are involved.. so kick the old boot to the kerb and find someone whose going to like and hopefully love your kids

My DD 16 sat on my knee yesterday and we had a full conversation, the horror.

I'm her DM but that doesn't make the slightest difference.

I also hug and kiss my dad on the cheek

Your partner is a bit crazy so I'd swiftly move on before she starts causing trouble for you and your family

It sounds like your totally normal and loving behaviour triggered something in your partner for some reason. I would suggest trying to talk to her about this as calmly as you can manage

Went to a family party a couple of months back and there was as a lack of seating. I actually told my daughter (16) to either sit on the arm of the chair or her dads knee haha. She never does so I thought she’d choose the arm. She went and sat on her dads knee for about a minute before sitting on the floor. Nobody said a word. Because it’s not weird

Every family is different each to their own, our 15 year old will cuddle us and kiss us on the cheek every evening before bed and say she love us. Our 18 year old will cuddle us on occasion and tells us she loves us after every calls. They are too big to sit on our knee but a cuddle is good but wouldn’t think it’s disgusting. xx

Sounds to me like your partner is jealous of the affection you have with your daughter. Save yourself a lifetime of misery and cut your ties.

It's disturbing that she is reading so much into this. What she's suggesting is extremely uncomfortable

Your partner sounds like a lunatic.

Total agree the fact she made something so innocent into something dirty is awful.

She's either got an abusive past that makes her overreact like this or she's totally bonkers. It's great you have such a lovely relationship with your daughter. You've done nothing wrong and certainly not done any disgusting. Talk it out with her and if she's just being over the top for no reason I think you should end your relationship. If there is something dark in her past that has made her react like this all you can do is talk it through and be there for her. Oh and happy belated birthday 🎂💐🤗

Some people may have experienced very little physical contact as children and they are shocked and feel uncomfortable when they see displays of physical affection between parents and children. I don't think it's at all strange that your daughter sat on your knee and hugged you to wish you happy birthday. In fact I think it's lovely. My son, who's 16, occasionally sits on my knee and hugs me especially when he's feeling down or once in a while comes over and gives me a hug. I say the above because there were very few displays of physical affection when I was growing up from my parents towards me and my sister, which with hindsight wasn't great, and I had to cross a line and change this when my sons were young.

I remember my mum having a similar reaction to my 20+ year old cousin sitting on her dads knee. I wasn’t there but my mum came home and told me about it. She said something like how old is she!! Sitting on her dads knee like a big baby! I didn’t say anything but inside I thought good on her & felt a tiny bit jealous that my cousin felt so free and secure to do that without giving it a second thought. My parents didn’t show much love so the fact that you do, is actually a wonderful and healthy thing. Carry on & ignore this women. She is sexualising it sadly. Find out what’s going on by all means but can you really stay with a women who thinks that you are capable of being inappropriate with your daughter?

Your partner is a nutcase. Does she have kids ? I'd stay well clear if honest she's going to cause you trouble . Perfectly normal in a loving trusting parent child relationship. She also sounds jealous and that will be an issue ...sorry

She's obviously jealous not a good basis for a relationship

Something is wrong with her, not you are b your daughter. I think it's sweet that she still wants to do that.

I agree

Nothing wrong with that at all. I am 56 and if I wasn't such a chunk I'd still feel comfortable sitting on my dad's knee to say Happy Birthday to him, he's 81. DD is 17 and she sat on my knee a couple of weeks ago to say HB to me, I am female though, but I'd have been OK if she's sat on her dad's knee.

TBF I'd dump anyone for this anyway... She went on to say that this made her feel sick and about to faint. How pathetically dramatic.