16 Year Old Daughter sat on fathers knee. Disgusting?

She went on to say that this made her feel sick and about to faint.

Bit of a drama queen, isn't she?
She sounds jealous of your DD and the only disgusting thing is her reaction.

This

Definitely not disgusting. It's disgusting of her to sexualise affection between a father and daughter. It's a concern that she thinks this is an issue.

Quite normal in our house. DD, 17, and DH are often tucked up together to watch TV.

Moody all night, or upset all night?

My upbringing was not normal or healthy and I sometimes do not know what normal boundaries are. Sometimes someone does something entirely unremarkable that makes me react badly, because if it was done to me at that age it would have meant something traumatic. And I don’t know how to act. I might feel dizzy or sick or angry. I’m working on it. But sometimes things make me panicky that I cannot foresee happening and I have a reaction I do not expect.

maybe there is something else going on.

I would honestly dump my partner over that. What an utterly ridiculous attitude.

Yep. My 16 year old very often cuddles up to me on the sofa or sits with her legs on my lap. Completely normal.

I'm nearly 60 and my Dad still gives me a hug when I sit next to him, he's 86 and thankfully going strong. He still calls me Bab and rings ever day to check I'm ok. You sound like you have a lovely relationship with your daughters, just dump your partner 😊.

She's is incredibly insecure. Do not let her make this about your daughters behavior, or even yours (look for gaslighting signs). If she continues to be unreasonable then get rid of her! She's probably gonna have a problem with you having a dance with your daughter at her own wedding!

She sounds bonkers ... honestly to have that reaction to your daughter sitting on your knee is bizarre. I never had a dad growing up and also suffered from sexual abuse from a non relative as a teenager and I still find your new partners reaction completely weird

🚩 behaviour from your partner. Please reconsider your relationship with her.

You need to dump her fast!!

that noise you are hearing is an alarm bell.

No age is too old for a daughter to sit in her dad's knee briefly for a hug!

Likewise no age is too old for the daughter to do the same to her mum, or for a sin to do the same to either parent.

The girlfriend is very much the strange one and tbh her attitude regarding it would be a big red flag for me.

Another one saying she’s weird and jealous, and is sexualising your relationship with your child. There are some things that would be crossing the line but sitting on your dad’s lap and briefly hugging him is not it.

Completely normal. I would hold my dads hand sometimes when I was a teenager and we were out shopping together, and at 32 I'd still cuddle up to him on the sofa in front of the TV. Parents are the few people in the world who you can still feel safe and young with, let your daughter have that for as long as she wants!

Easy answer - only YOU know your intentions by putting your arms around your daughters. It sounds to me based on very little evidence that you are a caring and loving father.

Therefore who gives a fuck what anyone else thinks? YOU know it comes from a kind and healthy place.

Your partner is not only unreasonable but possibly malicious.
There is something seriously amiss when a child sitting on her father's knee for a hug causes resentment and/or suspicion. Your partner sounds like she is either jealous or she may have some experiences in her past that could make her feel like this but that should not stand in the way of a loving father and daughter relationship.

Has your partner objected to elements of your relationship with your DDs before?

Its a very creepy thing shes suggesting, as well as being very possessive.

I sit on my dad's sometimes - or more often the arm of his armchair. I'm 35, he's 80. Nothing weird in it at all, he's my dad and we're close, it's really nice to have a proper hug and feel safe like when I was young.

I was brought up in a house which was far from tactile. I can only remember a couple of occasions when my father hugged me (because he was happy, nothing to do with me). I can remember thinking how odd it seemed to me when his nieces or nephew would sit on their Dad's lap or even drape themselves across the top of the sofa kind of thing. But, mostly, I was envious of the wonderful relationship they clearly had with their Dad. Someone who they felt so safe and secure with they could just be themselves in his company. Someone who had shown them tactile affection that they wanted to return.

So, disgusting it is not but it can seem weird if it's far from your normal or, dare I say, it's being misconstrued due to personal experience.

Get rid - your partner sounds weird and controlling (“moody all night”). Prioritise your relationship with your daughter and don’t let this woman impact on the affection between you.

Yes this. She’s the creepy one. I’d take this as my cue to end the relationship now.

She sounds as if she's sexualising your relationship with your teenage daughter AND views her as some kind of rival for your affection/intention.

How fab to have a daughter who loves you and shows it.

This gives me the shivers, she is weird and disgusting not you. Get her out your life before she drives a wedge between you and your daughters