16 Year Old Daughter sat on fathers knee. Disgusting?

she thought it completely inappropriate for an adult woman to sit on my knee.

When did this happen then?

Before or after your teenaged daughter gave you a quick birthday hug?

does anyone think that it is inappropriate behaviour or disgusting?
Nope.

I think it is funny when my teen/young adult nieces or nephews sit on their parents lap, especially if that parent is my sibling, as we weren't bought up with such affection.

I think your girlfriend has serious issues. She is an adult and if she doesn't know what is in the range of normal including not being moody then to save yourself more aggravation it is time to split up with her.

Normal behavior, weird reaction.

If this is the first thought that jumped into her head, then you really do need to rethink the relationship. You say she’s a new partner. How much do you know about her background ? Has she been abused, or is there any other reason she would view a perfectly normal interaction with your daughter like this ? If so, it’s very sad, but she can’t project her past experiences onto you like this. If not, it’s just malicious and you need to stop it in it’s tracks.

I've been cuddling with my dad for half a century at this point, and I plan to continue as long as the two of us are alive together. Other siblings the same. My mother has always been totally unthreatened by this. My father's various partners over the years, have yes been jealous on occasion. As they are with a reminder that he had a life before that partner, and relationships that continue from that time.

My father's attitude has always been 'these are my kids, get over it'. One of the many things I love about him.

I remember sitting on my Dad's knee until I was 17 or 18.
Sadly my mum gave us a look like your partner seems to have done. :-(

Gawd, I bet she's not much fun in bed.

One of my sons still sat on my lap when he came home from university, and he was still getting into our bed in the morning up until he got married.

I often give my dad a hug - I'm 42.

I probably wouldn't sit on his knee cause I'd be worried about breaking them but I'm sure I did for many years past 16!!

BUT - I would try and explore what made her feel weird rather than instantly dump her.... different families have different experiences and I'd be curious about hers rather than showing anger towards her.

If it’s exactly as you say and you didn’t leave any details out, then no, it’s not disgusting or inappropriate.

She went on to say that this made her feel sick and about to faint.

Your DP is a very dramatic.

Red flag. She is jealous and possessive. Keep a close eye on this and prioritise your relationship with your family.

She went on to say that this made her feel sick and about to faint.

what a bloody drama llama, get rid OP

It is strange to me, because I didn’t have that sort of close relationship with my dad and I can’t remember ever sitting on his knee/ holding his hand or even having eye contact with him to be honest.

But, that being said, I also understand that my family dynamic was different to others, so I certainly wouldn’t have judged you or your daughter…and whilst it may have made me think ‘oh’ I certainly wouldn’t have sulked and sexualised such an innocent action.

I was abused my adoptive father as a teen. So I do sometimes struggle to normalise physical affection between teen girls and male relatives. But I'm aware that's down to my own history and my issue to deal with and that just because this happened to me, doesn't mean all men will abuse their daughters.

Is it possible something like this is at play? That seems a very visceral reaction.

If not then that's a very troubling mindset.

She's the creep. Get rid.

She sounds like a nut job - get rid of her!

Run away! I have friends with stories about their fathers new partners being possessive and jealous just because they dare to exist as their fathers children. They always became “ex” in the end, even the ones who become wives. For the sake of your DC, leave her and don’t look back

I think it says more about her than you. Is there anything in her childhood that has triggered that reaction?

Hugs with my (now dead) dad is one of my favourite memories of him. Please continue hugging your daughter.

She's jealous of your 16 year old and her reaction to this is a massive over reaction.
I would be ending things.

My dad's not particularly the huggy sort, but I'd still sit on his knee and I'm in my 40s.

A partner asking you to change your parenting is never a good thing. Time to reconsider that relationship

Buy her a swooning couch as a ‘parting of the ways’ present.

Its totally normal parent/child affection. I can't see the issue . I used to sit on my Dad's knee at 16 . We'd watch TV together for half an hour or so, then I'd wander off & do my own thing. He died when I was 19 & it's one of my best memories of him, as my mother didn't 'do' affection.

You are dating someone weird, controlling and with a disturbed sense of what is normal.

She thought she was about to faint? I think she has issues and I'd be very tempted to end things with her. It doesn't sound like discussing it with her will change her mind given that the mere thought of it makes her feel sick. My family is less tactile than this but what you describe doesn't sound inappropriate to me.