16 Year Old Daughter sat on fathers knee. Disgusting?

I'm 28 and I'm still affectionate with my mam and dad! We are just that kind of family, we kiss on the cheek/hug/I'll sit next to them on the sofa and lay my head on them/cuddle etc

She is the weird one for sexualising it! What an awful overreaction!

Jealousy

Yeah…she’s massively overreacting and it screams jealousy to me.
Not uncommon for me to have a cuddle with my dad if we are all sat together watching a film or something - only person who takes offence to it is my 3 year old DD because obviously that’s HER grandad and how dare he show any form of affection to anyone else 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

Your daughter is NOT an adult. And no, it's not 'disgusting'. Maybe slightly 'young' by the standards of teenagers nowadays, but very sweet. Your partner's attitude is rather disgusting, and suggests either jealousy or narrow-minded prejudice: beware!

My daughter is 13 and I’ll be hugging her and being affectionate for as long as she’s comfortable with it. Be that 16 or 60. same for my son.

any partner objecting to that would likely be an ex partner, and I do t throw LTB around often.

It was a red flag in two cases I know of - but it was step fathers always having step daughters sitting on their lap. In each case he’d only met their mothers when the daughters were nearing puberty.

But the situation posted here is entirely different. At least two of my DF’s partners post divorce were jealous of his connection to us, his 3 children. One of them was insanely jealous of me. They were together from when I was 11-13 and she did some pretty wacko stuff, it was really damaging and confusing at the time.

Dump her now. Anything less is not fair to your dds.

im in my 30s and I still snuggle up to my dad on the sofa! Probs wouldn’t sit on his nap in case I hurt him (!) but would drape my legs over him whilst chilling watching tv or whatever for sure! So would all my sisters! She’s being over sensitive

There is nothing wrong with adults and children (even adult ones) showing physical affection to one another. There's a lot wrong with someone saying makes them feel sick and faint.

If it was your 20-year old DD then maybe, but a birthday hug from your 16-year old daughter? It's your partner who has the problem.

don't you mean your ex partner.....

I don’t think either of you are wrong. Maybe your partner was brought up in a family who didn’t show affection so that is out of the ordinary to her.

My Dad's friend told his family that he thought my Dad was abusing me and my sister because we still kissed on the lips at 13 and 11! I found out when I was 25 as his daughter started working with my partner. Luckily for him, he was no longer friends with my Dad because I would have told him had he been and my Dad would have been disgusted and quite rightly furious as was I! I put his daughter very straight and told her that she better not be spreading any more lies about my Dad. Your girlfriend is also seriously wrong in the head for reading ANYTHING sexual into your relationship and I'd suggest getting rid of her ASAP

This
the kind interpretation is that something in her past made the situation triggering for her.

if not that then she’s a weirdo and possessive and you should run a mile asap

Sounds like your partner was triggered by something in herself. Probably a rational reaction in her mind at that moment in time but not in real life.... sounds like something has happened in her past

She is JEALOUS.

I still sat on my Dad's knee for a cuddle at 16 and beyond. Nothing whatsoever weird or disgusting about it. Your partners reaction is a huge red flag.

Her attitude is ridiculous.
My partner has two daughters who are 15 and 17 and they often perch on his knee for a quick cuddle. I thinks it's lovely they have such a close relationship and shows what a brilliant dad he is.
I'd be seriously considering the future of my relationship if I were in your shoes.

Her issue.

I've just been lying on the sofa squished up next to DS1 (17) who was alongside me and at one point had his head on my boobs as a pillow. He's my baby. There is nothing odd about it.

Absolutely nothing wrong with what you have described. Perfectly natural and normal.

I'd want to have a seriousconversation with my partner if they felt that normal tactile affection between parent and child was abnormal/ disgusting/ inappropriate.
Yes we all grew up with different "normals" but her reaction is extreme.

She in entitled to her reaction, and if you find her reaction offensive ,you are entitled to be rid of her.

Neither of you are captives in this relationship. You cannot control her thought processes, but you need not be held captive by them.

Set her free to find someone whose thought processes are aligned with hers, and you are free to find someone whose thoughts are more consistent with yours. Some people are inclined to see things as unacceptable and prurient because that is the way that their mind works.

You don't need to argue, justify, or defend. If that is the way that she is inclined to think, you need to wish her well and liberate yourself.

I would ditch the new partner and let no one interfere in my relationship with my kids. Mega wankery behaviour. Yuck levels of control coming across. Get rid.

Please get rid of her, she's jealous of your Daughter!

Red flag! Get rid of her fast! She's probably one of those that think that 'all men are rapists' or other such rot.

I have a 16 year old daughter and the idea that she is an adult is laughable.