16 Year Old Daughter sat on fathers knee. Disgusting?

That’s quite a severe reaction, If she isn’t normally a drama llama then maybe what happened is triggering for her.

That’s right.

This, she obviously can’t differentiate between normal love and affection

No inappropriate at all. DD is 25 and will still sit on her dad's knee and give him a massive hug and they will still cuddle up on the sofa and I do the same with our DS.
Like previous posters, I also find your partner's reaction very strange and probably born out of jealousy.
Makes me wonder what kind of relationship she had with her own dad.

This is what I thought. Maybe she has a different experience of close contact with her father.

My partner was moody all evening and then shocked me by saying that this was because my daughter had sat on my knee. She said that this was abnormal and disgusting, that she thought it completely inappropriate for an adult woman to sit on my knee.

She went on to say that this made her feel sick and about to faint.

What did she say when you dumped her though, @RedFlags1 ?

@RedFlags1 I knew a boy( we were both 16) he used to cuddle up next to his mum at 16 and snuggle into her.
I thought it a little odd.. But that was my problem.
🙂

Christ she’d have a coronary if she saw me and my son (late 20s) We are aways giving big hugs and kisses and if we are having an emotional conversation we might even hold hands 😱, in public too 😱

My 11 year old is huge and I get on his knee sometimes. 😂

@ZirihePevzig if she has such trauma in her background though, unless you really truly deeply love her, it sounds tiring to bring up your own teen daughters/ have your interaction with your daughters curtailed around her hyper-vigilance

This!
Massive 🚩 red fag.

There are a lot of very stigmatising responses towards the girlfriend here. While I agree that what OP and his daughter did sounds normal and healthy, honestly the most likely reason for the girlfriend having this strong reaction is that she's triggered because she was abused as a child, even if she has not fully confronted her own experiences... It is very hard when you have been through this to not interpret stuff with that lens, especially, I think, if you haven't fully processed your own trauma.

Worth thinking about rather than just dismissing her as creepy/weird.

There might be some backstory to this from partner's POV.

For a loving and decent bloke without any sexual fetishes, of course their 16 yo daughter can sit on his knee if she chooses to.

In some families, relationships between older men and younger women can be dangerous, toxic or abusive. Uncles and fathers may make teens and younger girls sit on their laps as a part of then taking an opportunity to rub their genitals against the child or try to finger the child's genitals. Your partner may have been a victim to such an incident herself, or know someone who was. From that trauma they may regard all opportunities where such a thing might potentially happen as an abusive situation.

I don't think it's actually a problem for a man who wouldn't dream of doing such a thing, but equally there's a responsibility on decent men to remember that the awful and abusive men do exist, and that it's not always easy for women and children to tell the difference between the good and the bad until it's too late. Therefore it's not always appropriate to do all the things that aren't actually a problem on the grounds that you are "one of the good guys" - because it makes it harder for there to be boundaries in place for the other kind of guy.

Yes figuratively we say "lap" for both, but as above for obvious reasons there's a technical distinction between the actual area you literally sit on eg with DH and with Dad... Not sure we need to get into the specifics really

Super weird......

...... reaction to your daughter sitting on your knee!

Afraid I agree with everyone else - the partner has issues! Perhaps she was abused and it's triggered her but her reaction to you and your daughter is not ok. Nor is the 'going in a mood'. Maybe kindly suggest that she has counselling to address her issues but ensure she knows your relationship with your daughters will be remaining the same and she can like it or lump it!

Not disgusting at all but her response is
Frankly would be really reconsidering this relationship

My Ds sits on my knee to give me a hug

Totally normal thing to do.

I would say this triggered something that she might need to look more closely at

Agree!

Sick and about to faint? That is just ridiculous.

Wow your partner is nuts.
I’m 31 and still cuddle my dad all the time, he’s my dad and I love him. Never thought it was weird.

This is what I was going to say and the partner is the one totally in the wrong for this. I would be worried for your DD that she could potentially try to put a wedge between you through jealousy, just awful!

Pretty unanimous there op. It is lovely you have such a close bond with your dd.

Nothing wringvwyth what your daughter or you did. Ur partner's reaction is ridiculous

Is your partner jealous of your daughters.
They are young women, does she have a problem with other young women being around you.
Id ask her the question.