16 Year Old Daughter sat on fathers knee. Disgusting?

I have no issue with this! I would love for my kids to do this when they grow up and are not shy to show their love and affection.

Ridiculous. The contact was clearly initiated by your dd, so we can presume that she was perfectly comfortable with it, and you didn't think anything of it either, so there is absolutely no issue here.

Except that your partner is completely bonkers and has totally fucked up ideas about what's normal and acceptable. I agree with those who are suggesting that you should get rid... she sounds very melodramatic and overly controlling.

I can’t remember how old I was when I stopped sitting on my dad’s knee. I was probably about that age. Used to hug him and hold hands. When I was younger I would get into bed with him. People are too prudish and too controlling these days,

Oh dear! I bet she's a right nutter, run for the hills!

Your babies will always be your babies, don't let this women question yourself.

Get rid.

OP, your girlfriend may have had some earlier experiences that were triggered by seeing this, but you are her partner and not her therapist. If she has unresolved issues that is truly unfortunate. But the price to be paid for her past, is not the curtailing or modifying of your relationship with your daughter.

Somethings require a level of fixing that is beyond or capabilities. How much of an investment are you willing to make in this relationship? Your partner's needs and responses may be valid based upon her life experiences, but your life experiences may not equip you to deal with her situation and it may require far more of an investment than you are willing to make.

You are not failing her; you are just affirming your need for someone less conflicted.

You see your daughter as your child so no not odd at all. Your partner see's her as a threat and a rival for your attention. She'll likely try and distance you from them and sounds very manipulative. I'd seriously reconsider this relationship.

She has issues. What a lovely Dad that your daughter wants to have a cuddle etc. I would have looked and thought what a lovely man and parent/child relationship you have. She sounds like trouble in the long run

I would never have done this with my dad but everyone’s family is different. Your DP sounds slightly unhinged!

Get rid of the partner, she'll try to drive a wedge between you and your daughters. Nasty woman.

She sounds like a loon! Also clearly jealous of your relationship with your daughter… I would reconsider this relationship.

yep, start running

For your daughters' sake I'd end it now. She sounds jealous and controlling and as other posters have said, not the right partner for you as a father of daughters. Your daughter is still a child and needs you!

I'm in my forties and still cuddle up to my Dad. In my late twenties I had a breakdown and the afternoon things came to a head I climbed onto my Dad's lap and cried for over an hour. When I had my daughter and was overwhelmed when she was a newborn I cried in his arms on the sofa. You never stop needing your Dad!

She sounds jealous! Run like the wind! Nothing wrong with your daughter sitting on your knee

That’s deeply concerning that she said that. My 18 year old son is at Uni, when he visits if we watch a movie, he’ll sling his feet up on me for a foot rub or throw a pillow on me and flump down to get a head pat, I’m very wary of why she’s saying this, major red flag.

I didn't have a tactile relationship with my dad but I honestly don't see anything wrong with how you and your daughter interact.

Your partner has issues, I don't know what kind but I'd be wary of making a stronger commitment to her without you knowing a lot more about why she reacted that way.

This!

Very simply she is not the right partner for a man with daughters.

Best for everyone concerned, especially your dds, to end it now.

You're her dad! You're allowed to hug and cuddle her even when she's 50! (my dad does me).
I think it's your partner's reaction which is weird here. Wondering if she doesn't have children of her own so doesn't completely understand parental love, or whether she sees your girls as rivals for your affection?

Yes.
The partner is the odd one.

Her reaction is very strange........she felt faint

I snuggle up with both of my parents still and I’m over 40! They are my parents. We love a good cuddle. I love seeing my teenage children piling onto my husband. You are setting a lovely example for a close family. I hope she continues to want a cuddle with her dad l. Who on earth would think that is weird? I mean if she was doing that to a stranger it would be but not the man who no doubt cradled her to sleep when she was a baby!

It was my mother who wouldn't allow me to show any physical affection towards my father - to be honest, I don't remember ever being hugged/kissed etc by either of them ever. I remember once when I was about 10 I got upset as my father was leaving to go back to his work abroad and my mother got very angry with me. However she was/is a narcissist with many many problems...I'm now very low contact with her.

reverse?

Your partner is weird and controlling. I used to sit on my dads knee regularly when I was in the pub and there were no seats left. God know what she'd make of that 😂

She sounds weird and jealous.