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Baby crying on bus!

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OutofControl3 · 04/04/2023 16:14

My baby crying on the bus for 4 stops, I couldn't do anything as bus is bouncy so left baby to cry in pram stroking face and shh in. As I was gettin off I heard a man hooray which has really got my back up I look to back of bus and give a dirty look. I got off my stop sat at bus stop and breasfed my child cue baby stops crying and I could carry on with our afternoon. Baby's cry for gods sake what could I of done?

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OhcantthInkofaname · 25/07/2023 22:12

Hard of hearing or language issues?

custardbear · 04/04/2023 18:37

What an arse! My DD14 would really suffer as she's ASD and is overwhelmed by noise and especially children and crying babies and even She wouldn't be that nasty

CMVB · 04/04/2023 18:37

Personally I’d have breastfed on the bus. But that guy was a wanker, get that it’s annoying but no need to be rude about it

nomoremerlot · 04/04/2023 18:36

MelchiorsMistress · 04/04/2023 17:52

You could have got the baby out of the pram or you could have got off the bus to feed the baby earlier.

Some people are sensitive to noise and a baby crying is an especially stressful noise to listen to continuously, as it is supposed to be.

Well those sensitive to noise know where the exit is?

And the cunt cheered when she got off? Not that fucking sensitive to noise is he?

Can't believe you defend an arsehole like that!

TomatoSandwiches · 04/04/2023 18:36

MelchiorsMistress · 04/04/2023 17:52

You could have got the baby out of the pram or you could have got off the bus to feed the baby earlier.

Some people are sensitive to noise and a baby crying is an especially stressful noise to listen to continuously, as it is supposed to be.

They should probably buy some ear buds or noise cancelling headphones then since there are no laws about babies crying and making loud noises in public.

megletthesecond · 04/04/2023 18:36

Ignore him. He was a wanker. Everyone else would have felt for you.
Babies cry, no drama.

Thinkingitallover · 04/04/2023 18:31

Gah sorry OP. Wrong thread!

Thinkingitallover · 04/04/2023 18:31

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whattodo22222 · 04/04/2023 18:27

I was in a similar situation with baby in a carrier a few months ago. I was standing and was quite new to baby wearing so didn't feel comfortable trying to breastfeed in the carrier yet. A man sitting down was staring at us so I said "If I can sit down I can feed her". He did give up his seat and I fed her on the bus...some people won't offer though, you have to be quite forward unfortunately. The man in your story was still a total knobhead.

Bamboux · 04/04/2023 18:12

Iam4eels · 04/04/2023 17:41

If you did that round here you could be waiting until the next day for the next bus!

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@L3ThirtySeven In London, 4 stops takes about 2 minutes.

gogohmm · 04/04/2023 18:00

But five mins is tricky, 4 stops is much further in these parts, stops are pretty far apart, at least half a km

gogohmm · 04/04/2023 17:57

In the future I would pick up your baby to comfort them, or if a long way to go feed them. Babies cry, but there's usually a way to placate them a bit

Daydreamer123456 · 04/04/2023 17:56

MelchiorsMistress · 04/04/2023 17:52

You could have got the baby out of the pram or you could have got off the bus to feed the baby earlier.

Some people are sensitive to noise and a baby crying is an especially stressful noise to listen to continuously, as it is supposed to be.

If that’s the case, then he could’ve gotten off the bus.

Killingmytime · 04/04/2023 17:56

Man was an arse to say it, but most may have been thinking it. I have disabilities and babies crying pains me so i’d def have been thinking it, but wouldn’t have said anything!

Teafor1please · 04/04/2023 17:53

There's no way I would have got a baby out the pram on a moving bus, with toddler too. Baby was safe in the pram.

L3ThirtySeven · 04/04/2023 17:52

OutofControl3 · 04/04/2023 17:51

Thanks for replies! I was due to get off and baby started it's one busy main road I would say 5mins max wouldn't of had time to get baby out settle and back in pram again i dont mind feeding wherever i am safely also baby feeds on demand so was asleep then woke up clearly starving..I had my toddler with me so that's why I didn't get off the bus sooner.

5mins is nothing. There’s nothing you could have done so pay that man no mind.

MelchiorsMistress · 04/04/2023 17:52

You could have got the baby out of the pram or you could have got off the bus to feed the baby earlier.

Some people are sensitive to noise and a baby crying is an especially stressful noise to listen to continuously, as it is supposed to be.

WalkLong · 04/04/2023 17:51

Iam4eels · 04/04/2023 17:43

On a "bouncy", so presumably busy, bus? I wouldn't have been able to with any of my DC whilst safely holding them and holding onto the railing and the pram.

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The pram has a brake? You don't need to hold it, but that's one situation where even I, usually no boo to a goose, would ask for a seat if no one offered . "He'll stop crying if I feed him, would you mind?".

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OutofControl3 · 04/04/2023 17:51

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MRex · 04/04/2023 17:50

Mrsjayy · 04/04/2023 17:44

That sounds dangerous nobody is doing that 😳

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This is where a sling gets invaluable. Sling on, baby in sling and latch. Random person asked to watch the pram (drivers don't allow them to be unattended) and sit in their seat, then get off the bus with baby still feeding. Soft carrier like Close Caboo for a tiny one or a structured carrier like Lillebaby when they are bigger. You have to be blatant and ask for help if nobody offers seats.

JMSA · 04/04/2023 17:50

Horrible bastard

L3ThirtySeven · 04/04/2023 17:48

Iam4eels · 04/04/2023 17:41

If you did that round here you could be waiting until the next day for the next bus!

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Yeah it all depends on the timing of where you are. Four stops wouldn’t be enough time to feed a baby where I am either and lots are suggesting that too.

Mrsjayy · 04/04/2023 17:48

ButterCrackers · 04/04/2023 17:44

Then someone should give a seat.

Just shout at passengers ,"give me a seat " come on !

ButterCrackers · 04/04/2023 17:46

Mrsjayy · 04/04/2023 17:44

That sounds dangerous nobody is doing that 😳

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Someone should give a seat to the mother and child.

GreenWheat · 04/04/2023 17:45

Babies crying on the bus is irritating, as is people eating smelly food, watching videos without headphones or having loud, foul mouthed conversations. But that's public transport. Don't give him another thought.

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